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A Heartbreaking Goodbye to Abby

Thursday, August 08, 2013

A little over two weeks ago, our little 8 year old Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Abby , died suddenly of a heart attack. She was only a few feet away from me, just out of my line of sight as i sat drawing in my recliner. She never made a sound and i didn't even notice until i called her for dinner and she didn't come. We are heartbroken. We expected to have her for many more years. Our consolation is that she went quietly, at home, amid the safety of her pack. She never had to stay in the hospital or get old or suffer through declining health. Her last day was just a normal, happy day for her.

She leaves her pack one short. We still have Ozzie, our 11 year old Brittany, who is confused and lonely for her. My son Tom, who lives with us, is so bereft. he is 33 and has Aspergers. Abby and he formed a bond unlike anything I've ever seen from him in his life. She brought out the affectionate, paternal, protective side of him and was someone he was safe being vulnerable with. From the time she was a puppy, she gravitated to him.

Will we get another dog? Of course we will. As painful as the loss of a dog is, it is nothing compared to the joy they bring our family, each in their own way, every hour of every day. Abby was the fourth dog we have been privileged to share our lives with, and I plan to have dogs until i die. I will be crossing that "Rainbow Bridge" in the middle of a huge dog pack!

So we will be on a quest to find a new dog, this one to belong just to Tom. It needs to be calm and cuddly and he has requested silky as well. The tactile aspect is very important to him. If we can find a line of Cavaliers without heart problems, we will maybe go for another, although I have learned that many of them share Abby's condition, so I am a bit scared of that. Other than that, they are a fabulous breed.

Ozzie helps us through our grief just by being himself. Our vet told us in May that his elevated white count may well be a sign of cancer, so we have been watching him for signs and symptoms and bracing to possibly have to say goodbye to him. We never thought he would outlive Abby. So we are loving on him all the livelong day, and it is a joy to be able to do so. God did a wonderful thing when he decided that dogs would be "Man's Best Friend".

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    Sorry for your loss.
    2909 days ago
    Very sorry for your loss! I also hope that you find a nice new member for your family and someone that your son Tom connects with. Some larger breeds can be "silky and calm".
    2910 days ago
    As you know I am broken hearted by your loss and hope that soon there will be a new puppy in yours and Tom's life.Ozzie's too ! Any dog would be privileged to belong to your home. love and hugs,Cheri
    2910 days ago
    Oh, I'm so sorry to read about Abby. Such a shock to find her that way. (((HUGS))) for you all. I know you'll find just the right dog for Tom and he will love her just as much as Abby. emoticon
    2911 days ago
    Very sorry for your loss. I hope you will find the perfect new member for your family and your son Tom.
    2911 days ago
    Hugs and prayers coming your way. You will all reunite at Rainbow Bridge. I know I will be covered with my furry friends when I make my way upstairs.
    2912 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Eight is just young, and such a sad way to lose her, without any warning. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, including Ozzy.
    2912 days ago
    So sorry for your sudden loss! I agree that it's a blessing she passed as she did and didn't have to suffer. We had to put our husky down a few years ago and it still hurts to think about. Someday we may get another dog but our life is in a little bit of limbo right now. Hope you find just the right silky dog for your son! :)
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