Sunday, October 27, 2013
Well tonight I had a chance to go to a gala event for a fundraiser for Paediatrics for our hospitals fundraiser. My friend had free tickets and was kind enough to give me two tickets... well over 100.00. She is also a friends with one of my so called friends... Who I will name "X" for this story. I just need to write down my feelings
and get this off my chest. Here are the stats. I was friends with "X" for a long time 5 years. We got together and I helped her and watched her kids.. we went for walks together and had a really good friend ship. Then she took a high role in a group that we were both involved in. Our Role was Registration and her role was Community Coordinator's. Within the last year she was not very nice to us. She treated her role as if she was the boss, and said rude stuff to us. I mentioned that we are in a volunteer role and we can leave when we want to. Anyway I never let her attitude get to me and I stood my ground. Even my dh said that "X" was being rude in the emails she would send. I just thought this is a phase and it will all pass. Well in July at the community BBQ she would not even talk with me or Look at me. I tried to make chit chat and she would pick her kid up and walk out of the room. I reached out so many times. I was a little shocked at the attitude her and her husband displayed towards me. So as the summer went on and I had my own issues to deal with a Buldging disc and extreme nerve pain. Also that fact that I could hardly walk yet alone take care of my own daughter. I never called because my plate is full. It is hard to have a friendship with someone when you are in constant pain. My so called
friend "X" had a baby at the end of Aug. I never knew bec they took us off the mailing list... for the birth announcement. Stab in the heart!
So at this point I felt like is our friendship really over??? I reached out and sent another email. Saying congrats and inviting her for Coffee. She never responded. So tonight at this fundraiser she was there too. At the same table. I said Hi to her and said how are you. She said hi back and looked at her baby. She can't even look at me in the eye. She asked where my daughter was? I said at home with the babysitter. I would not bring a two year old to this event. And she should know better she has 4 kids. All under the age of 5. I also told her " that you have a cute little girl (she had brought her 2 month old baby to the function) And her response was her name is "Rebecca" I just said oh. I thought I am not playing games I am trying to be nice. The rest of the night she was chummy with her friends that she invited. Smiled and and looked at her baby a lot. She never said anything to us. Nor did she say good bye to us. I am a little heart broken. I bent over backwards for her as a friend. I helped her when she never had anyone, and was in a bind. I never called her for the last little bit because I am not going to be a friend that is taken advantage of. Nor did she ever call to ask how I was doing with my back injury.
I was watching Joyce Myers the other day and she said that not everyone is going to like you! This really hit home. I am in that situation. I guess I want everyone to like me. Why wouldn't someone like me. I am a nice person. I am trying to move forward from this situation. We are still involved in the same community and friends with the same people. I have told some of the others in the community that sHE WILL not talk to me. I have said it is what it is.
What should I do with this friendship... or is it dead? or am I just wanting it to continue...
Thanks for reading. I am just lost..