I want to Blog about how I, once again got lazy and complacent. I wasn't really lazy. Just got busy living my life. Watching my Granddaughter who I adore. Taking care of my mother. I gained weight. I now also have a 2 week Grandson. He is a doll. Their Mommy is on maternity leave and so now I have my days back and can spend time exercising. And I have been. I have anew walking buddy. She also lives a busy life. If she never walks with me again I would be sorry but still thankful. She got me out and walking again.Also, I saw encouragement from my great virtual friend Mrs. Doyle I noticed her likes on my time line and they made me smile.
Then this week hit. On Tuesday. Just another Tuesday, An ordinary lovely lovely day. My husband came home from playing 18 holes of Golf. We discussed dinner. He went to the store. He came home and said he had a funny pain. Maybe a blockage in his intestine. Seemed extreme but to the internet I went. His lower side hurt..he doesn't have an appendix so not that. His back hurt a little. I said " We could got to the Er or a walk in clinic. It was too late for a regular Dr. visit..He went up to change. I told my son we were maybe going to the ER.He said..Go that's why yo have insurance. This was all a light hearted exchange. I was changing too from exercising. The next thing I know my son is yelling for me to hurry or he's calling an ambulance. I grab whatever..run to the garage where my husband is in the drivers seat. My sister said..Classic Ed. The Er is about two maybe three mile away. Traffic was heavy but we got there. It is a Satellite of a major Regional Hospital.
about 5 o'clock.We are the only people there. My husband in obvious pain they take him right in. We discuss kidney stones. I said I bet it's Gallstones. Dr. thinks Kindey stones. They take him off for a quick CAT scan. And it WAS quick..no other patients were there. We were using our phones saying "Galaxy what causes kidney stones?" All still pretty light hearted. The Dr. came back and said." It's not Kidney stones it's a rupturing Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm..I glommed on to word Aneurysm..I know that is not a good word.
The Dr. said they already had an ambulance coming to take him to the big regional Hospital. I called my friends who said " We will come and drive you to the Hospital:..they got there quicky. The Surgeon came in fast too. He couldn't read the CATT well from home so he wanted to see it in person. We quicky went through the info,,non smoker, heart attack 14 years ago..mesh in stomach from double hernia. My huband said " Your going in Orthoscopically right? I know what he was thinking..It's Tuesday. I have the surgery and 2 days to get better and I can stiil leave to go on my long planned Gold trip on Friday with my friends.
The Surgeon motions me over away from my husbands area and says..He's going to have a huge cut down his chest. He will most likely die. 70% of people do. ( This is what John Ritter had) If he lives he will be on DYALISIS for the rest of his life.Becaise the anuerism is righ at his kidneys.. But He's going to die. His greatest hope of survival is to have hope so talk happily about Golf.
You can imagine my emotions. My Husband calls out to me and says..What did he say" I smiled and said..He said he's going in Orthoscopically and you'll be playing Golf again before you know it..The ambulance people got there. They said the plan was to drive at full speed and they had no ability to strap me down..I got in my friends car. My friends proceed to drive past the highway we should have taken. I forgot they haven't lived there almost 30 years ike me. We go an odd way. Which I realized afterwards made it so not ony did I not see the Ambulance I never heard it either..We get to the Hospital. I had been there 2 weeks before for the birth of my Grandson..What a different experience this was. Sureal. We get to the right place. My friend and I go to see my husband..in the maybe 20 minutes that has elapsed he looks awful. My tan vibrant husband looks purple and gray. His feet are blue. I try to stay cheery. I kiss hi Goodbye and he kisses my friend too..we are light hearted on the outside. Then we sit to wait. My sons want to come too. They are Men..adults..I can't tell the what the Dr. said.My friends heard but we don't talk about it..I needed to be a wife right then and not a Mother. We wait. They say I should eat something. I actually had a small amount of soup. We prepare to be there all night and then get the most horrible news...They call me to the phone. They say they are closing. things went well....THEY WENT WELL..But wait no there will be Dyalisis forever..don't think about it..Just don't!!!
The Surgeon whom I call Dr. Sunshine comes by. He actually has a smile on his face.
He said that My husband was awake and came to talking about Golf. He said the Aneurism was huge and ruptured..He said " I really didn't think he would make it..he is really a fighter." We all said " Yes, we know!" He failed to say that I have won an Academy Award..I'll forgive him, he saved my husbands life.
I went to see my husband..he was in the ICU but he looked pretty good...I then said " I'm starved"..I know some people are emotional eaters..my appetite shuts down instead. It coming back was a great thing. The Hospital has a 24 hour Au Bonne Pain ..I got home at about 2 am. Who could sleep? Not me. I did finally gt s a little..small price to pay.
The same friends drove me back the next day..he was awake..groggy but awake and ALIVEHe continues to make progress. Today he was moved to a regular room. He can pee ( sorry for being crude) on his own..a huge step. He has aodd pain..They hope that they are things that will go away. I don't know what the long term prognosis is but for today..I fell pretty darn lucky..Tomorrow I will have dinner with friends. Their husbands are off on a Golf trip...
When my husband was waiting to go into the OR..he was bleeding to death. If we hadn't acted quickly..but minutes..seconds he would have at that point collapsed and died. If this had happened today..Friday..on the Golf trip with his buddies he would have been far from Medical help and he would have collapsed and died..Sometimes what you think is bad luck is really Good Luck in disguise,
Go Hug someone you love. I MEAN it..go and do it NOW!!!!