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Day 166 - Breakthrough

Friday, May 15, 2015

So my boss and I had what I would call a big blowout this afternoon. I ended up a little more emotional than I would have liked, but we got what we needed out, and managed to say nice things to each other, and I think the bad times are over. We shook hands, and I think we have found some common ground that will allow us to move forward again. Our relationship may never be perfect, but it appears we now have a path to working together successfully. I have to keep in mind that he is going to say things that come off wrong, or condescending, or just annoying, but they don't come from a place of antipathy or anger. As long as I can remember that, we are going to be ok.

The good news is that we got another veteran approved for a home repair project. This is the second one that I have been involved with from the beginning, and these people are so deserving. It is a big job, and we will need a lot of volunteer assistance to stay within budget, but I feel good about the project and I'm delighted that we can help this couple be more comfortable in their home.

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In other news, we had a new friend over for dinner tonight. He's a physicians assistant at the local health clinic, and is planning on moving here (he currently lives in Petaluma, about 90 minutes from here). We continue to meet new people up here, and that is one of the things that helps to affirm that we've made the right choice by moving here. It was a delightful evening, and we look forward to getting together again with his dog Rufus to come pay with Sherman and Stella!

My advice for today: sometimes it takes an argument to finally reach effective communication. Don't be afraid to say what is on your mind, as long as it isn't done maliciously, and get to a point where you are listening to each other instead of just yelling.

There's probably a correlation with our health journey in that statement, but I'll just leave it at that for now. Thanks for all your support during a difficult week! I'm so glad it's Friday tomorrow!

Have a SPARKLING weekend, friends!
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    Now this blog makes oh so much more sense. I hope that you got the crap out of the way and built a foundation to move forward with your professional relationship..
    2262 days ago
    It is so interesting to read about how friends have similar situations that I had in life. I had a boss a lot like that once (I was 29) and I had to leave the job because he was just had no personality or empathy for anyone. Actually he may have wanted to be rid of me as People just liked me better than him and he had a large ego. It is so cool to read how you worked it out.

    I was married to a woman that liked to argue. That is when I adopted the quote "Don't argue with stupid people they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience".

    Arguing is not how to come to a consensus. Discussion (sometimes heated is)
    2262 days ago
    You live on such a beautiful lake! It's so BIG! Wow! I saw the header picture on that website, very impressive. My grandparents and I used to love to go to Wallowa Lake sometimes. That's a very big lake too. And it's scary to drive into that valley, I don't know if I could ever do it. I didn't like that road at all.

    I'm glad things may be getting better with your boss. Let's hope so! Is he a lot younger than you? Does he talk different? It can be hard when are bosses are completely different, but it sounds like a very good job to have, regardless, so I really hope this works out.

    Glad you are meeting people and their dogs, how wonderful! emoticon
    2264 days ago
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    emoticon now you can move forward with a better understanding of each other.
    Glad the pups are not being left out of the social whirl emoticon
    2264 days ago
    Sometimes you need the blow ups!
    2264 days ago
    Great advice for every aspect of our lives! Thanks!

    2264 days ago
    Yes indeed.... sometimes you gotta filter through the method of communication to extract the message that is trying to be delivered. It's a great skill to have! I'm glad you and your boss have an understanding now.

    I'm so glad you're enjoying your new home! Living on a lake must be so nice!
    2264 days ago
    This conflict has been bubbling below the surface in a couple of your blogs, so that is great that everything is out in the open now. Bosses do tend to have less-than-perfect personalities in my experience and expect near-perfection from their staff - not easy to deal with if you are the employee! Lovely to hear that you are meeting new people who are also moving to the area - fun for the dogs too by the sounds! Have a good, regenerative weekend and relax! Life is good.....
    2265 days ago
    Well done Steve. Glad you ironed out the issues with your boss. That must have taken a lot of courage. I'm proud of you.
    2265 days ago
    Sometimes the air needs clearing. emoticon
    2265 days ago
    I am glad to read of the big blowout since it was constructive not destructive! It gives you some common ground to build from! And I am glad it happened today so you have another day to feel comfortable with it before the weekend! Good stuff!
    So you found another new friend including one for Sherman & Stella!
    Wishing you a great Friday to start off a great weekend!
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    Comment edited on: 5/15/2015 1:31:09 AM
    emoticon for writing such a emoticon blog !
    2265 days ago
  • ZRIE014
    have a nice day
    2265 days ago
    emoticon Sometimes an argument can lead to resolution. It doesn't always have to be negative
    2265 days ago
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    Lee emoticon
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