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Monday, November 02, 2015

I am grateful that for right now, I have a roof above my head even if I don't know how long that will be and my husband spent the last hour under that roof packing for his move even though I requested nicely that he not do that while we were here and do it over the weekend he comes back from the wedding - I told him I would give him and space to do it then, yet he came home today and for some reason, just started to do it. I guess he can't wait to move out or at least that is how it seems. I don't understand how he could not have enough respect for me to honor that one request.

He and my sons leave on Thursday to go to California for his brothers wedding - something we all looked forward to for the last year and now I'm not going, it's breaking my heart so much.

The good news is that I did ok with my food and exercise today and will keep trying to spark
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  • no profile photo CD14421702
    I just read this, coming in to check on you, missing you. So sorry to hear this news, late as it is. emoticon emoticon
    1898 days ago
  • no profile photo INCH_BY_INCH
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    1932 days ago
    So Jennie--How is it going??-- I admire yer strength---so much!---- He sounds like a real "dud"---- I'd bash him over the head I'm afraid!--- Imagine doing all this to you?---You are strong --You can and will overcome this--and you deserve someone better-- Hugs girl!-Lynda
    1992 days ago
    Oh Jennie---- I am sorry---- Everything happens for a reason---- yu just don't know that reason yet!-Lynda
    1996 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15003511
    I'm so sorry, Jennie. Sending you lots of hugs and positive vibes. I can't begin to understand the stress and anguish you are facing. I hope though that you will be able to be around folks you love during the holidays.
    2005 days ago
    I know that this is an old post, but I hope you were able to get through this time as best as you could - and hopefully you were not alone........

    2022 days ago
    I love yer wallpaper---so Christmasy-Lynda
    2023 days ago
  • AMAS92568
    My father did something similar to us. I feel for you. It will get better. Take care of yourself.
    2034 days ago
    It is difficult to read this post because it brings back many similar memories. There is nothing I can say that will make it better, because the only thing that will help is prayer. You are in mine today.
    2034 days ago
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    2037 days ago
    I am so sorry for all that you are missing. Your boys are lucky to have such a wonderful mom!
    2038 days ago
  • GRACED777
    I'm sorry this is happening. Separation is very painful. I pray the Lord will help you through this time. May your heart know God's peace that passes all our understanding, and I pray something good for you during this time they are away if you can't go!
    2040 days ago
    2041 days ago
    I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking. Stay strong.
    2051 days ago
    emoticon hang in there! God will give you strength and the wisdom you need right now! emoticon
    2051 days ago
    I'm so sorry. I wish I had the right words to make things better for you. Hugs and more hugs!!!!
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    2053 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I know you are heartbroken. Reach to God. I find this is the only way I can get through life. emoticon
    2053 days ago
    That's a good thing you didn't eat given how you felt. Give yourself a thumbs up and 'I can do it' for that
    2054 days ago
    I'm sorry your husband is being so disrespectful, and that you aren't able to go to the wedding. Keep moving forward and do your best!
    2054 days ago
    so sorry.... wishing you all the best.
    2054 days ago
    Do you have a very close friend that you can spend some time with while the boys are gone with their Dad? It might help to be able to talk to someone that you are close to.

    Others have suggested moving on with new goals and plans and this is a very good idea. It is difficult because everything is so fresh, but just take one at a time and see how much joy you can get from it. If it isn't joyful.........move on to the next one.

    You seem to be a very accomplished girl and I know there are better times waiting out there for you.......... emoticon
    2054 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13202979
    Wow! Does this ever bring back memories of my own heartache years ago! So sorry for the pain of what you are experiencing.... You have a special place in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this season.

    2054 days ago
    I know it's very hard right now. We are all here for you on spark if you need to talk. I feel like I can relate to your situation even though I am not seperated at this time. We are on shaky ground for sure though.
    I don't understand why you can't go on the trip too! I would go anyways but there is probably another factor I don't know about. In my opinion he seems like he is being very selfish and unfair to you.
    If I were you I'd go on a trip of my own while they're gone, maybe a spa weekend. You deserve some relaxing me time to think out your next steps forward.
    Take it easy, if you need to talk feel free! emoticon
    2054 days ago
    I just hate that this packing and moving is happening right now. This is a painful time for you as is.... I wish I had the answer to make it all better! What I do know is that you are too much of a caring woman to be tied to a man who wouldn't even respect your request. Yes, he is your children's father and yes, you both were in love at one time, but something has changed and you need to change now too. You can do whatever it takes! You will come out on top! I know this because I know you are a good person who came from good parents that taught you a lot. Sure wish I had a magic wand to cast a spell of happiness on you, but we have to go thru it to get out of it! You will survive! You will be better than when this all started! Good job eating well and exercising! You rock!!
    2054 days ago
    I'm so sorry this is happening to you. But I don't understand why you are not going to the wedding. It's still your family too. Keep focusing on you. You will get through this. emoticon
    2054 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15324855
    I can't imagine how hard this must be. Focus on yourself and your own needs while your husband and boys are in CA. This time to yourself may be just what you need. Sending positive thoughts your way! emoticon
    2054 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12068097
    Maybe think of going back to work? maybe part time? I don't know if that is possible but keeping busy and earning some extra money might help in the long run.

    You will get thru this weekend. You will be ok.

    This too shall pass., hang in there you are stronger then you think you are.
    2055 days ago
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    2055 days ago
    I will keep you in my prayers
    it is never easy to go threw this stay strong and proud if yourself

    big hugs we are here for you
    2055 days ago
    emoticon you will get through this. we're all here for you!
    2055 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15674364
    It's hard to accept that the person you shared you're life with behaves like a stranger. I have a gut reaction to your post and I wish you peace and calm as you go through this difficult transition. Be prepared. This won't be the last thing he does to upset you. Get good supports all around you. As much as you can. I'll be thinking of you.
    2055 days ago
  • JANET552
    I am so sorry! Take good care of yourself. emoticon
    2055 days ago
    I am so sorry for all the pain that you are going through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. emoticon
    2055 days ago
    What a hard time for you. I'm sorry for your loss and the pain. emoticon
    2055 days ago
  • MISSY455
    Sending positive thoughts your way. emoticon
    2055 days ago
    I am sorry this is such a hard time for you.
    2055 days ago
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  • WALNUTT1961
    So sorry. Try to focus on yourself and the boys. Sending hugs and praying for your family.
    2055 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    emoticon Keeping you in prayer.
    2055 days ago
  • GORDON66
    Stay strong! emoticon


    2055 days ago
  • LINDAK25
    It sounds like your husband is angry. Remember he is responsible for his own feelings, you are responsible for yours. Don't let him rile you, just stay calm. He's not going to be considerate. Just let it go. You can do this, truly, you can. Call on your inner strength to keep you calm. It's there inside you.
    2055 days ago
    This is a tough time for you and each incident that moves the separation forward is an incredible stab at your heart. I'm so sorry. I hope you can be gentle with yourself through this period. Take as much time and space as you need to grieve and work through your pain. Find resources and use them, especially while your sons are gone. The rest of us will be sending you as much healing energy as we can.
    2055 days ago
    I'm so sorry to hear this. There's not much else to say other than I do know it will get better no matter how things end up. It just takes time and if you know you've done all you could on your end that's all you can ask. He is responsible for his choices. Hugs
    2055 days ago
    2055 days ago
    So sorry to read this, so hard to understand. Sending many prayers and hugs to you. We are here for you.
    2055 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/2/2015 9:13:50 PM
  • SKELLEY3440
    As I used to and on certain days still do say "boys are stupid!" I'm sorry you are having to deal with a "stupid" boy (and I say boy for a reason!) right now and it is very unfortunate that he's doing it in front of your kiddos, but for some reason he is unhappy just like you and instead of taking the high road he's being spiteful. As Taylor Swift says "Shake it off, shake it off." Oh I know soooo cheesy, BUT that will show your boys what incredible strength you have. We all know how strong you are and as much as he's hurting you, show your boys how to navigate through "mean and spiteful" the dignified way, with class and style. Totally easier said than done, but I truly believe you can do it!!! Hang in there and remember you have LOTS of people here who have your back! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2055 days ago
    There are so many excruciating moments to this process. I'm so sorry to hear of yet further insult added to injury.

    Keep doing your best to stay with supportive friends, family and take gentle care of yourself.

    2055 days ago
    This sounds just terribly painful. I think next weekend will be hard for you, too, but you are strong and you can get through it! I am in awe that through all the heartache, you still took care of your body and mind today, paying attention to nutrition and fitness.

    I pray that you can keep up your spirits and that you will take every step to protect and care for yourself through the upcoming trials. We are with you and will support you all the way!
    2055 days ago
    “When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.” ~ Henry Ford

    Prayers for strength and serenity.

    2055 days ago
  • BEBARB149
    That was mean of him. Try to stand back and look at what he's doing from a distance. You might find yourself wondering why you were ever with him.
    2055 days ago
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