Be your #1 Fan
Saturday, January 30, 2016
I posted this as a secret-to-success - but thought I'd put it up as a blog entry too. It's not very different from other recent posts - but I just can't get over the change it's made. So ... here it goes ...
It seems many of the bad habits that led me into trouble with my weight and/or health stemmed from emotional burdens that I found easier to numb with food rather than dealing with head on.
Of course it harder to deal with things head on - was that all the stress, conflict I perceived came with the added pressure of me interpreting others actions in a way that honestly made me me feel like less of a person. I really didn't like that.
Correction: It was really my assumptions that made me vulnerable to feeling less.
But - over the last couple of years I've made a concerted effort to truly become my own closest friend, most trusted confidant and ardent supporter. In other words: I became my own #1 fan. I started with small decisions ... like I stopped expecting 100% perfection all the time - at first I said 95% is okay ... then 90% ... and soon I found myself thinking "I love doing my best" and I noticed my desire to do my best, and stopped having such a laser focus on the rare times I blew it. Extending myself grace - had a surprising result: between the lack of perfectionism/unreasonable expectations - and the positive affects of the encouragement that grace is - I found myself significantly less stressed. And feeling less stressed in turn - helped me feel even more creative, capable, effective etc.
Also - the more I started being my own #1 fan first - the more I noticed my friends and family coming around and being fans too.
Today - this process has led to me never scolding myself, not wallowing in worry nearly like I used to, not obsessing over negative things that happen. I practice forgiveness, mindfulness and - I'm still growing at becoming my own #1 fan. I find it much easier to love myself - and therefore take great care of myself. I love eating healthy, working out, going for walks, cooking simple but delicious healthy food, and fulfilling my responsibilities ... every good habits builds on all the others - and the fears, stress, and destructive numbing with food and sedentary habits really seem not just like a thing of the past - but the habits of someone I barely recognize.
I read a lot on positive psychology, watched documentaries, listened to TED talks on the topic and tried many habits and have only kept my favorites and don't worry about the rest. My favorites have been enough to make a huge difference - and as I keep reading/learning - I keep coming across new strategies to try.
Anyway - hope this helps others. It sure made a huge difference for me.