August 10 Quote
Wednesday, August 10, 2016
"We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us." -- Virginia Satir
Who knows us best? Generally, we know ourselves better than most others. Perhaps our parents, if we're still young and formative. Perhaps our spouse, if we've been in a relationship for many years. Otherwise, I know me better than anyone else.
So, why do I worry and fret about how others see me? I am worried that misperceptions will be out there, and that those misperceptions will generate widespread negative images of me. I worry mostly because I don't have the confidence to trust myself. I fear not "living up" to some imaginary standard that very few other people would achieve, either. This insecurity started in childhood, when I was held up to standards that I thought people wanted me to attain. It continued through early adulthood, and middle age.
Now I'm old and no longer care nearly as much about what people think of me. But it takes a long time to reverse a lifetime of insecurity...