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Day 11 Is this who I really am?

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Society has taught us what they thought we should believe and how we should think. Society tells us we need the perfect spouse, perfect job, perfect kids, fancy cars, diamonds or a mansion to be happy. Those beliefs have been ingrained into our brains for most of our lives. Sure having those things brings a temporary happiness. But if you rely on external things for your happiness it will be just a fleeting moment and then it is gone. As soon as your neighbor has something better you are no longer happy. In order to be truly happy we have to change the way we think and what we believe. The key to this is self-awareness.
Self awareness is conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires. We cannot expect to change what we are not aware of.
Self awareness helps us to have clarity. It helps us to change how we react to something. It allows us to step back and watch those negative things go right past us. With self awareness you will learn that you do not have to stay on that emotional roller coaster. You can choose in that moment of clarity to no longer believe what your mind is saying. It means being able to say no to those instant gratification temptations for the long term goal. I need to be asking myself why do I want this? Why should I do this or eat this? Is it good for me? Will this help me achieve my long term goal? Self awareness helps us take a step back and say hey this is not going to get me closer to my dream. It may even drive me further away. Is it really worth it?
Self awareness helps us to create happiness and love in our lives. Being self aware means we know our motives and determining whether they are reasonable.Self awareness allows us to step back and assess a situation objectively and rationally without bias.
Meditation is a key practice for improving self awareness. Practice some deep breathing exercises. Slowly breathe in through your nose and slowly blow the air out through your mouth. Concentrate on your breath, feeling that breath flow into your lungs and filling them, counting each one. When your mind begins to stray and it will, bring yourself back to your breathing. Do this until there is nothing else that matters in this very moment. Try to increase the number of slow breaths you can take before your mind wanders. Start out with this exercise for 10 minutes and then slowly increase it.
Also learn to tell yourself "No". Start out telling yourself "no" to 2 challenges or temptations every day. After a week make it 3 temptations every day and write in your journal about it. Keep doing this daily until the temptations are gone.
True lasting happiness is yours when you have the self awareness to choose the negative thoughts in your mind and change them at will. The more positive your mind is the happier you will be.

My happiness factor today is Self Awareness.

God bless you and keep you on your journey! Have a fabulous day!
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    Great advice! Self-awareness and time out to listen to ourselves/bodies is good on so many levels. Thanks for sharing!
    1516 days ago
    I have learned to NOT listen to the perfectionist bug. Life is messy, but we have the power! Great blog.
    1520 days ago
    Very good blog and interesting comments. We have to know ourselves accept ourselves and love ourselves. Be appreciative of all that we have. Nature is my happiness.
    1520 days ago
    It is interesting what different people believe leads to happiness.
    1520 days ago
    It is sometimes challenging to see life the way it really is instead of the way we think it should be, or maybe want it to be. I try every day to be the person I am meant to be, and to do the things that make me happy as well as the things that just need to be done. I have always wanted to meditate, and sometimes I can pull it off; but to sit quietly for 10 minutes without thinking - that's a tough one for me. But I am still trying!

    Good message.
    1520 days ago
  • BJAEGER307
    Very wise words today Barb! I really liked the part of telling yourself "no". I think I don't do that often enough, and that is why is has been such a struggle to keep on my healthy journey. Going to practice more "no" than "yes".

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    1520 days ago
    Loving your series. awesome!
    1520 days ago
    Meditation is a key. I have found breath work, yoga and meditation to be the best "drug" to calm anxiety and to gain more focus on important matters in my life.
    1521 days ago
    Well said. Self-awareness involves being aware of different aspects of the self including traits, behaviors, and feelings. But . I believe, that it also include be aware of how it impacts ones environment and how it is perceived.
    1521 days ago
  • MAWMAW101
    I agree Barb that it takes effort and determination to focus on self awareness on a daily basis because all those outside influences tell us to look at instant gratification instead of healthy living.
    Keep bloging your thoughts and have a wonderful day!
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    1521 days ago
    I don't know what society you listen to...to be perfect, perfect spouse, perfect house, perfect everything? That isn't what my society tells me. A lifestyle change to live on life's terms is what I know what to do....because life isn't perfect.
    1521 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    My self awareness comes from counting all the blessings the good Lord has given me instead of focusing on the problems. I am constantly aware of being grateful for those blessings.
    1521 days ago
    My happiness comes from my faith, family great neighbors, doing for others , running for charity , watching a sunrise, stars nature etcj
    1521 days ago
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