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Tuesday, August 08, 2017

I had a talk with my boyfriend on Saturday night that really has bummed me out. We had a free night, as my daughter decided to stay the night at her friends house. We decided to go out and do something. My friends band was playing not too far away, and we hadnt had supper yet, so we decided to go there for a bite and a kick back. I asked if I could invite my friend R, as she and I had been to see that band before. Her sister is in town, and I thought it would be a fun time to spend with her. So we had a decent time, a bit of conversation, the band was really loud so it was kinda hard to talk.

Talk went to different people we know and dont like and I kept trying to steer it away from that. He encouraged us to go dance, but declined himself. Anyway when we left the bar, he said he felt left out of the conversation, ignored and disrespected by my friend, and a bit by me. And that was the furthest thing from my mind! I hate that every time we go somewhere lately to socialize he has complaints at the end of the night (on the drive home, which is my LEAST favorite place to have an argument, because Im driving!) about how I ignore him or he feels left out.

Sunday, talk turned to the subject again. He said he feels like when we go out, people are happy to see me, but seem indifferent towards him. Or greet him simply because hes with me. And yeah, his best friend moved away about 6 mo after we started dating. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up this weekend. I do feel like his only friend, but not because he is unlikable. Hes a little odd. No everyones flavor. And honestly, I dont understand what his experience is like, or how he feels treated by his peers (other men) because i associate mostly with my peers (other women). Ugh, Im totally dreading going out anymore, and feel like we need to take a break from the social circle for a while.
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    I'm sorry that you're feeling this way and dreading social time, that really sucks. It sounds like he's having a bit of a crisis of confidence and looking to you to fill something that he feels is lacking in himself. You shouldn't have to stop being social because of it, though- that is HIS problem to solve and not yours. I hope he can develop meaningful friendships of his own and learn that your friendships aren't a threat to him. Hugs, my friend.
    1444 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/18/2017 2:46:43 PM
    He sounds a bit needy...

    1447 days ago
    Ugh I hate when that happens. Hang in therešŸŒ·
    1453 days ago
    Sorry about that :/
    1453 days ago
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