Wow! I have some Spark friends that are extremely motivating. I see 50+ year-olds that have added significantly to their muscle mass, despite sarcopenia (gradual muscle loss due to aging) starting at age 40. I follow people who have lost two-thirds their body weight and have maintained that loss!
Of course, these people do not even know I exist, but they motivate me. I only want to be able to stand up and sit down without pain. I want to be able to carry groceries. I don't need to squat hundreds of pounds. I only need to lose thirty more pounds. I have already lost thirteen. I certainly would not be healthy, if I lost two-thirds my body weight! I am not motivating these people who motivate me.
I am just an average guy. I have arthritis as a result of crepitus caused by a serious car accident. I used to be a distance runner and bicyclist before the accident and have had to learn to do less, whether I like it, or not. I like to eat. I am a good cook and baker. I have had to learn to do less of that, as well. What do I have to motivate people?
We all have our stories. We all want someone to hear our story and affirm us. Actually, we are not looking to motivate others. We are looking for ourselves to either be affirmed, or motivated! So the question is not whether I motivate you, but are you motivated?
My sister motivates me. She has lost 130 pounds and has maintained it. She exercises six hours a week. She has had a rough life. She has all the excuses to weigh what she used to weigh, but she found a reason to weigh what she weighs now. I report to her daily. In so doing, I find she is inspired by my journey! For that, I am grateful.
It seems I motivate others when that is my goal. I motivate others by just being me, being genuine, taking my journey. In the end, I have not motivated anyone. If anyone has been motivated by my journey, it is because they are motivated and they have chosen my journey as a reminder of their own motivation. After all, who wants to be like me? Do we not all want to be a better "us?" I would not enjoy being you and you would not enjoy being me. I cannot motivate you. I can only show you what it is like to be motivated. I can only remind you of your own motivation.
Therefore, let me leave you with some motivating memes I have made up. Some of them have already been alluded to above. Hopefully, they remind you of your own motivation and you can use them to finish what you started.
There are thousands of excuses why you can't. Find one reason why you can. If there is one reason why you can, you can! Choose it.
You will never get everyone to like you. Accept that! You will always have people that hate you and that love you, no matter what. Jesus had a crowd that crucified Him. Charles Mason had a woman that wanted to marry him. Instead of choosing the people and trying to make your life pleasing to them, make your life what you (or God) want(s) it to be and let the people sort themselves out.
You do not really want to be like that other person. You want to be a better you. Let their journey remind you of yours, but their journey is not your journey.
You need to be a Health Star. Your body, soul and spirit are not separate. You a an integrated person. Your physical, mental/emotional, spiritual, social and financial health are interrelated and interdependent. If you want to lose weight, get healthy in all five points of the star. You can read my first blog "Becoming a 'Health Star'" www.sparkpeople.
and subsequent blogs regarding being a Health Star.
We are not saved by works, but we are judged by them. Do not work to save yourself. Work out of your salvation. Do not work out of obligation, but as an expression of praise and gratitude for what you now are. (This is to be taken in a Christian perspective and I hope you will take it in that light, but if not, this truth still holds true.)
You still need other people, but do not live to please them. Live to be what you are supposed to be and then you will be able to serve others. Believe me, if you meet people's needs, they will want you around!
Shine on, Health Star, shine on!