coronavirus is making me stronger
Tuesday, November 17, 2020
good morning - yesterday my granddaughter was here. Her parents dropped her off wearing masks. We had a great day - lots of fun! Never got her to eat very much. She kept saying I want cookies & jelly rolls. Not sure what is going on in her house. She is talking like a 5-year-old. Great vocabulary and complex sentences - I was amazed. We had her from noon to 6 pm. Her parents came back around 4. Both entered our house with no masks. I knew something was wrong. I handed them each a mask. My son said to me - can I talk with you? I went outside to talk with him while grandpa kept my GD busy. My son has a fish business and has to deliver orders. One of his clients is a woman. Normally he delivers without his wife. She was there and saw this client. A lovely woman in her 40's. My son is very friendly and can walk up to anyone to talk to them. he is a wonderful salesman. He has always been this way. He gets back in the car and his wife gets all upset. Accuses him of everything. His wife has gained much weight. I had not seen her for a while and I was surprised. I understand jealousy. My mother was a very jealous person. Anyways we talk, the wife starts to tell me things about my son. I push back. I have experience with his wife's mouth before. She makes up all sorts of stuff. Anyways I try to get it back on track - she says that she has had enough and walks outside and sits on our front porch. DH talks to my son. His wife has what I call tantrums every 3 months. My son is actually getting better from his PTSD and panic attacks. DS tells me - she does not want me to get well. I really do not say much b/c I have heard this before. I just tell him that he has some decisions to make. He says I never want to do anything to lose my daughter. The Christmas lights go on and my granddaughter sees the lights. She says I want to stay with you, Nana. Goes to the door and tries to go inside. I want to stay with you. I felt so bad for her. My son is a very good looking man and he is a disabled VET who is walking with a forearm crutch. He has dark days. This business allows him to overcome the self-isolation that he had for about 3 years. I am proud of what my son has accomplished. My DIL has a wedding photography business and I had hoped she would get counseling, but she refuses. So I just let go after they left. It is their problem, not mine. I will support my granddaughter more to get her some reprieve. I understand her greatly b/c I was a child of feuding parents. With this virus, I believe in masks. I have extras in my house. No one can enter my house without a mask and my husband and I wearing ours. I also have let go of the problems at times with my adult children. I can be supportive but I do not own their problems to solve. have a good day. I will!