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Tuesday, November 17, 2020

good morning - yesterday my granddaughter was here. Her parents dropped her off wearing masks. We had a great day - lots of fun! Never got her to eat very much. She kept saying I want cookies & jelly rolls. Not sure what is going on in her house. She is talking like a 5-year-old. Great vocabulary and complex sentences - I was amazed. We had her from noon to 6 pm. Her parents came back around 4. Both entered our house with no masks. I knew something was wrong. I handed them each a mask. My son said to me - can I talk with you? I went outside to talk with him while grandpa kept my GD busy. My son has a fish business and has to deliver orders. One of his clients is a woman. Normally he delivers without his wife. She was there and saw this client. A lovely woman in her 40's. My son is very friendly and can walk up to anyone to talk to them. he is a wonderful salesman. He has always been this way. He gets back in the car and his wife gets all upset. Accuses him of everything. His wife has gained much weight. I had not seen her for a while and I was surprised. I understand jealousy. My mother was a very jealous person. Anyways we talk, the wife starts to tell me things about my son. I push back. I have experience with his wife's mouth before. She makes up all sorts of stuff. Anyways I try to get it back on track - she says that she has had enough and walks outside and sits on our front porch. DH talks to my son. His wife has what I call tantrums every 3 months. My son is actually getting better from his PTSD and panic attacks. DS tells me - she does not want me to get well. I really do not say much b/c I have heard this before. I just tell him that he has some decisions to make. He says I never want to do anything to lose my daughter. The Christmas lights go on and my granddaughter sees the lights. She says I want to stay with you, Nana. Goes to the door and tries to go inside. I want to stay with you. I felt so bad for her. My son is a very good looking man and he is a disabled VET who is walking with a forearm crutch. He has dark days. This business allows him to overcome the self-isolation that he had for about 3 years. I am proud of what my son has accomplished. My DIL has a wedding photography business and I had hoped she would get counseling, but she refuses. So I just let go after they left. It is their problem, not mine. I will support my granddaughter more to get her some reprieve. I understand her greatly b/c I was a child of feuding parents. With this virus, I believe in masks. I have extras in my house. No one can enter my house without a mask and my husband and I wearing ours. I also have let go of the problems at times with my adult children. I can be supportive but I do not own their problems to solve. have a good day. I will! emoticon

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    You seem so calm and at peace. You have learned to let what happens not upset you. A very hard thing for a mother to do. Your son and grand daughter are so lucky to have you in their lives.
    207 days ago
    Your little cutie of a granddaughter is lucky to have you both in her life. It is sad your daughter in law still hasn't grown up enough and doesn't realize it is more than okay to get help. It has been a long journey for your son, it is good that he opens up to you both. Best wishes
    207 days ago
    Wow! I am glad that you could talk to your DS. I hope that he figures things out. And it's good to give Melly some relief.

    208 days ago
  • -JAMES-
    Wow ... you are doing better that I would be doing with those family complications.
    208 days ago
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