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4/8/10 12:14 A

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My deepest sympathies and hugs.

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4/5/10 11:22 P

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Hi Roberta. You never "get over" the loss of a child; people who have lost a child know that. Other people ought not be talking about it. I lost my oldest son 10 years ago this July. Everyone grieves in their own way. Grief is measured in love, not in time. I'm glad you found this team. You and your beloved son will be in my prayers, Roberta.
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4/5/10 9:33 P

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Roberta....my heart breaks for all your loss. No one can tell you how long you will grieve or how to grieve. You have dealt with such tremendous loss in your life. We're here for you to help you through your grief. Hope you find some comfort with us.

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4/5/10 7:11 P

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Roberta- Oh, hon, you have had so many losses in your life. No WONDER you have come here to be understood and comforted. I think you know that you'll make it through, but it's still overwhelming sometimes. As for those people who say you should "get over" grieving, well, they should thank their lucky stars because goodness knows they haven't been through the kind of grief that you are speaking about! Grief does NOT have a timetable on it. It takes whatever time it takes. Each grief is different and each person is different and that's the way it is. You can come here anytime. There are a great many kind, gentle souls here, who have been there for me, and they are here for you, too. Much love and many hugs, Laurie
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4/5/10 6:45 P

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Welcome Roberta. You've found a very caring community here of people who understand your pain and grief. Stop in as often as you need to.


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Hi, I'm Mary. I've lost both my parents and a number of very dear family & friends. But the greatest loss was our dear 18 year old daughter at the hands of a drunken driver. It is 24 years now, but we never get over it. Thankfully we have 2 other dear & lovable children, but our hearts are torn for our dear daughter Lisa. We wonder what we could have possibly done, that God would let this happen to her & to us. We know we will see her again, but we wonder why so young?
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4/5/10 6:05 P

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Everybody grieves at a different pace. The ones who really understand are those who have been through it...or are still going through it. LadyDi is right...you never get over it...you just get to where you can function. I try to keep busy. That helps me, at least. My worst days are when I have nothing planned for the day (it can be as ordinary as washing and waxing the car)

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My deepest sympathy to you, you have had so, so many losses and the fact that you are here talking about it shows you are moving forward. You never get over the loss of a loved one, you just learn to deal with your feelings and move through the grief to where you can function. Time helps, but you don't get over it. Keep being strong and come here for support any time.

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4/5/10 5:43 P

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Hello
I'm Roberta and I'm new to this board as far as never posting. First and foremost I lost my parents at an early age 10 for Mother, 11 for my Father. Than I lost my kid father someone shot him while he was standing by our kitchen window. My biggest and greatest lost was my oldest son a week before his 16th birthday. He drown at his school in gym class.
That was Dec.11,1992. Since than I have lost 2 grandchildren one was a stillborn and Tianna was
5 1/2 months old also five very dear friends.
It still hard I have my days. Sometimes when I look at my son picture he looks so young and all my other kids are grown and with their own family and its just funny how he was my oldest and he looks so young. One thing that I don't understand is when people say you should be over it by now.
Thank you for being here for all that needs you

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