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10/12/10 11:25 P

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Sending love and light to all who need it today. Laurie--you are a doll!


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10/12/10 6:10 P

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Gee whiz, THANKS SMURFETTE!!!!!! I needed a lift today. Not way down about my Dad persay, but alot going on in my life otherwise - crappy stuff. Way stressed out, etc. Like BAD ok.
Thank you SO much for the kind words.
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10/12/10 3:50 P

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SPARKLES- You are a dear person and you express yourself beautifully- your message helped me, too.Laurie emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Without a sense of humor, you may as well keel over and die, so LAUGH!


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10/12/10 3:47 P

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Dear WARMSPRINGDAY,

You are doing pretty WELL if you ask me. I think your mother would be very proud of you. If you go through time periods when it's harder to do ANYTHING (like Janine and me and others here), that's normal. Be kind to yourself during those times. EVERYBODY takes a kind of "detour" after devastating loss. You are right; it is NOT a dead end road. Illness and passing away of a loved one is just plain EXHAUSTING! You come and talk here anytime, emoticon . We will definitely understand. With lots of love and zillions of hugs, Laurie
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10/8/10 10:14 A

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My mom passes away in 2001 and my grandmom in 1986...I think and pray for them often...I sending prayers your way for your mom!!

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9/21/10 4:40 P

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Hey there. It will be two years oct. 21st since my mom passed. I still miss her every day and sometimes it seems she will walk back through the door and all will be good again. Take your time. I don't think all of the pain will ever go away. (Adopt one of her favorite plants either at home or in a park nearby,that you can walk to maybe.One you can visit anytime you need to and talk to her there.)(Just an Idea) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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9/20/10 10:11 P

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8-8-10 (My Mom's birthday in 1923). This month she's been gone 5 years. Grieve as long and and hard as you need. Holding back or thinking you should "be over it" only prolongs the grief. As hard as it is. Accepting life as it is now--not resisting is a hard but necessary journey to take one step at a time.

Come here as often as you'd like to vent. No judgements. (((Hugs)))


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9/20/10 10:07 P

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I so can relate to you and your grief! Just before my mom took sick in '06 I was on a course for weight loss. I had lost almost 20 lbs and was feeling pretty good. Just before Thanksgiving she went into the hospital and I stopped caring for myself. She passed in February '07 and I pretty much fell apart. Then just 5 weeks later my brother took very ill and it was time to care for him. When he died just a few months later I hit rock bottom. I gained all the weight I had lost plus some. I was having all kinds of health issues and didn't care if I polished off a box of donuts or crackers or whatever. I spent weekends in bed, barely lifting my head up. Exercise became a foreign word to me. It would be close to 2 years before I could even think about taking care of myself again and it was only because I was getting sick. I started out by walking with a friend. Then I helped form a group of walkers. Having people waiting for me at the park or track helped motivate me to get moving. When I joined the gym it helped increase my weight loss and my motivation. Now I have lost those 20 lbs again and the weight training has helped me tone and tighten. It's been 3 years since my mom and brother passed. Not a day goes by that I don't think of them and miss them terribly. I have my bad days and even some that I lack the motivation to do much of anything. But I am in a better place emotionally and am ready to make myself a priority. It is important to my children that I be here. It took me a lot of crying and sadness to realize I am worth caring for.

Good luck and best wishes for you as you journey towards a healthier you!

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9/20/10 8:46 P

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Oh honey - I understand, & you are definately in the right place. I was kind of surprised when I looked back at my food & exercise logs on here for the month after my Dad passed, & found that I didn't do ANYthing! I think after that I did a little here & there, but 4 months later now, I'm starting to pick up steam pretty good with my exercise etc.

You give yourself some time! It is OK!!! REALLY. Others here express themselves better, but they will tell you the same. You take the time you need to to grieve!! There are no timeframes on this thing. And I like how you know that staying healthy would be something that would make your Mom happy. Things like that used to seem to cliche to me, but I understand them better now. I helped take care of my Dad his last 2 1/2 years, & my whole purpose in life was finding things to do to make him happy. So when questions came up after he passed, I would without question go with what I believed HE would have liked, & felt very good about it, because n the end, it was all I Could do.

Yes, you do have to keep going just for yourself, but as time passes, you'll find more strength. Just be good to yourself for now. The walking is very good, & drinking your water too. When grieving, it lowers your immune system! (I got sick more than once!) So trying to get some nourishment & plenty of rest is very important in taking care of yourself.
And let yourself grieve. Lean into it & work through it in your own way.

bye for now & my heart is with you. Jennifer

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9/20/10 8:35 P

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My mother passed away on 8/8/10, preceded by about 1 month of illness requiring extra care, etc. I have had a very difficult time getting back on track. I had not exercised at all since 7/10/10, the day she first went into the hospital. Just the last three days, six weeks after her death, have I finally found the strength within myself to begin walking.

I am starting with baby steps. At first, all I could do was drink my water. I just didn't have it in me to do more.

I kept posting blogs and status regarding my mother, and finally was afraid I would wear out my welcome with talking about my grief. Spark friends have been very supportive during this time, but I was excited to see a team just for this. Maybe I have found a place that I can express how I feel without feeling like I am overtaxing my friends with my grief.

I just cannot seem to separate my life into neat partitions and separate this healthy lifestyle journey from the fact that my mother has died and I am grieving deeply.

The first time I walked, I cried and keened while I walked, talking to her. I know she would have wanted me to continue on my healthy lifestyle journey. She was proud of what I had accomplished.

Eager to hear some other stories from some of you and see how you have managed to get back on track while grieving.

I am trying to look at this as a detour and not a dead end road.

I am a finisher!

WHATEVER IT TAKES!

I am not where I need to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be. - Joyce Myers

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