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5/7/21 3:17 P

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Glad to hear I'm not the only one! I was beginning to wonder. I think everyone has more "stuff" than they need, but in our house, I've cleaned out about 90% of mine while Peter may have done 15-20% of his. I know that many of his things will not be sorted until after he dies... that sounds terrible, I know, but at 81 and 77, I'm being realistic. Our daughter has offered to help him, and has told him clearly that she has no use for many of the things that he has saved... 300 or more videotapes, for one thing, motorcycle, train and sportscar magazines dating back to the 60's for another... but he refuses to get rid or them, or even to try to sell the magazines to a collector.

Good luck... wish I could offer some concrete suggestions.

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My husband is an electronic, gadget and tools hoarder. He blames me for my clutter, but he is worse. I've challenged him to a day of emptying the house and shop. We will each put our stuff on tarps and see who has the most clutter. He always refuses! LOL

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I will answer more fully when I get back to my computer. I have articles to share but I am the hoarder. But I live alone. My husband died 21 years ago. That's when it started for me.

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My husband claims to be a collector... I call it hoarding. Some background: We are 81 and 77, married 19 years with 4 grown-up children between us and 3 grandchildren. All but one daughter and one granddaughter live far away, and we see them probably every 2 years.

My husband collects stamps, coins, books, dvd's, cd's, magazines, model train equipment, die cast car models... and he does nothing on a small scale. We still have a vcr, he still records tapes, and there are probably 500 minimum tapes around. He has over 300 train locomotives and hundreds of cars. He has photo albums with every picture he has ever taken and slide carousels from more than 60 years of travelling. He has 4 motorcycles, 2 classic cars and a go-kart. He also has a Hammond organ and Leslie speaker, bouzouki, 4 sets of bagpipes (he's in a pipe band), ukulele and a balalaica, most of which are never used.

I could live with this if it were organized. However, in one bedroom the floor is covered with piles of papers, clippings, etc. etc. which are now starting to expand into the upstairs hall. He refuses to cull his books; instead we buy more bookcases. The basement is full of "stuff", and the only space I have in a large double garage is one shelf unit for my gardening supplies.

I love the man, and we have a good life except for this one big issue. I nag, plead, cry... nothing works for long. I've bought him scrapbooks, attractive storage boxes, bins of every size... he doesn't use them. I will not throw out his things (I've tried, and he goes through the garbage!), and I will not threaten to leave. I simply keep the parts of the house which other people see clean and tidy, and try, bit by bit, to get through the clutter.

I know that he values his collections, and some of them are worth money... but if we do not get the house cleaned out before we die, a lot of good things will probably simply be thrown out. His cars, coins, stamps, musical instruments and trains all go to his daughter and our granddaughter, which is fine with me.

I will read through team postings clearly, and would appreciate any suggestions on how I can help him understand that it would be a great kindness to me and to our children if we could work together to get rid of things without value, and organize the good things.

Thanks for reading,
Gail in Ontario, Canada

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