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8/27/15 6:42 P

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LOL I ALWAYS put my keys in my purse IMMEDIATELY upon exiting the car or unlocking the house. One time I did not do this and I lost them for 6 MONTHS. I had to have my dad bring the spare set. haha I finally found them in the corner of a linen closet in my bathroom. Who knows how they got there. I must have been in a hurry to take a shower when I came home that day and lost them under the towels. At least I don't lock them IN the car like I used to do in high school. lol

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8/22/15 1:43 P

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LOL! If I had a nickel for every time I've organized & then couldn't find anything, I'd be a rich woman indeed -- I could take us all on a world cruise and never miss the money! I just didn't realize it was another "gift" from my ADD!
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Edited by: ASPENHUGGER at: 8/22/2015 (13:43)
Kate, in Citrus Heights California

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
~ Andy Rooney

Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~ Wayne Dyer



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8/21/15 2:56 P

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Hi Kate! So good to hear from you! I too put my keys in the same spot every time I use them. I mean, it's really pretty amazing how many little tricks I have learned to cope with ADHD - and all the while I just thought I was "normal." Haha! Which I am, actually! I wouldn't have it any other way!

I met with my spiritual director yesterday and she really helped me get back to the hopeful Terri. Which is the typical Terri.

Another trick I've learned: You know when you get that urge to organize things and you move stuff to a new location that makes more sense? And then you can't find the stuff you moved? Well, I put a post it note with the new location in the old location.... This has helped me tremendously over the years. "Gosh, this is where I've ALWAYS stored the scissors. No wait, I remember moving them, but where the heck did I move them to?" Well, the post it note tells me where I moved them to. It's a lifesaver. Plus, I feel pretty darned smart about out-smarting myself!

"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."
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8/21/15 1:58 P

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I share your pain on this Terri! I've also done a LOT of reading on ADD/ADHD and it is overwhelming! Especially the part about if you just get organized & make a gazillion lists & stick to a schedule, your life will turn around and you will ride off into the sunset. Well, they don't actually promise you a trip to the sunset, but they do say those tools will help. And they do -- it's just all overwhelming when you think about the big picture.
What's worked for me is to do one thing at a time -- try to do it long enough to make it a habit. For instance, I now ALWAYS put my keys in the same place, which eliminates the chaos & panic of not being able to find them. emoticon
I also have learned to keep 2 magnetic calendars on the fridge -- this month & next month & I (almost) always write dates & appts etc., even tv shows I want to watch, there where I can see them easily -- saves me missing them.

I also get depressed when I think about all the things I should have done in my life & didn't, and all the things I shouldn't have done but did. Almost all attributable to my ADD. Since I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my mid-60s, I struggle with feeling like I don't have enough time left to change my life around & repair the damage. So I have to just concentrate on the little things, & keep on putting one foot in front of the other, one day at a time.

An ADD coach is a brilliant idea -- mine helped me tremendously! Go to the CHADD website -- there's a whole directory of coaches. You might also try a CBT therapist -- and since depression is a very common comorbidity of ADD, you might consider an antidepressant. I'm on generic Wellbutrin, and it really makes a difference. It doesn't make me happy, but it keeps the black dog away which is a real blessing!

Good luck, & keep coming here to talk -- it's so comforting to talk to people who share the condition with you!

Kate, in Citrus Heights California

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.
Lao Tse

The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year.
~ John Foster Dulles

To ignore the facts does not change the facts
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8/20/15 12:54 P

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I will check out that book. I am really feeling down in the dumps today - it hit me last night. Reading about all this ADHD stuff and realizing that it all described me PERFECTLY. I know I shouldn't be depressed about it, because there are a LOT of good things about being ADHD. I know that my ADHD is what makes me who I am - the quirky habits and all, the silly things I do that make people laugh.

I think the down in the dumps stuff is coming because I have been reading so much about things one can do to be more focused, to stay on task, to get things done - and it's all just a tad bit overwhelming. Which means I need to break it down into doable, manageable chunks - but it's a bit too much to deal with right now.

So, I am actively looking for a coach.... someone to help me get going on this new "project."


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8/20/15 10:11 A

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I feel your pain! That sounds great, I wish I had a smartphone to try it lol. I once downloaded an app when I had an iPad but never stayed consistent entering things into it and utilizing it. I guess "stick in the sand" approach works better for me having something more tangible I guess.

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8/20/15 10:08 A

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I just thought I would introduce myself also and share a bit about my personal journey. My name is Stephanie and I got diagnosed with ADD/ADHD around 4 and a half or so years ago when I started going to counseling for other seemingly unrelated issues (separation and divorce). It never even occurred to me, as I never had the common symptom of hyperactivity, I just always felt I had something "off." It was at that time that I started reading and researching and came across this FANTASTIC book that every woman should read that really hit the nail on the head for me:

Women With Attention Deficit Disorder (Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life) by Sari Solden

That book was life changing and gave me great hope. I highly, highly recommend it.

I have tried several medications and while several helped my symptoms, I couldn't stick with them long due to side affects when they were at a high enough dose to be most effective. (Either high blood pressure, headaches or feeling nauseated etc.) Throughout my journey the biggest thing that helps now without taking pills is better self-confidence, finding people who accept me and my quirks, and trying different approaches such as caffeine (who DOESN'T use that these days? lol) and essential oils.

"I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you it's going to be worth it!"


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8/20/15 10:03 A

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Hmmm. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 15 years ago, and even though the diagnosis seemed to be a very accurate description of me, I pretty much "poo-pood" it.... But now I am struggling (again) and so I am hoping this ADHD team gets more active.

I find that my iPhone is my greatest helper - it's got alerts and alarms that I use to remind me to do stuff. But it's not enough, I'm finding, so I am currently trying to learn new ways to cope. This morning I put the earbuds in and spent a half hour vacuuming. Good start to the day!

"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."
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8/20/15 9:48 A

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I'm trying to get back into being active on SparkPeople and thought I would try to start a discussion since my ADD/ADHD inattentive type is my greatest challenge in getting and staying motivated. Let's share some tips that seem to help in our personal journeys!

The most recent thing that helps keep me motivated is so simple and unexpected it's almost silly. I have always tried using "to do" lists to no avail. They just seem so dry and overwhelming when I have a list and get halfway through the day with maybe one check mark. Also over the years I have accumulated several kinds of cute blank cards, note cards, etc that I only ever wanted to use for special occasions (and therefore never used.) What I started doing is taking my notecards and "treating" myself by using them for what I nicknamed "action cards." I just use a colored pen and write in cursive in paragraph form the top things in my mind that I want to accomplish. Sometimes on the other side inside the card I will write scripture verses or something motivational that I want to remind myself. Then as I get things done I just underline that sentence in another color. It seems simple, but many times it helps, at least for me.

What tips or tricks help you get through your day?

Edited by: GINGERSUNSHINE at: 8/20/2015 (09:49)
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