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5/4/21 9:42 A

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Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far they can go. T.S. Eliot

A thorough or dramatic change in form or appearance; an extreme, radical change. Exactly, and what I've been working on for what seems far too long! It\s taken what seems forever but the scales are finally moving again! I've dropped four pounds this week!

I recently overheard a woman say this to her friend, “I just celebrated my 50th birthday so now I’m going to coast…no more work-on-myself-personal-growth that is DONE…at this point I am who I am!”

"Hhhhmmmm…. " I thought. "You're kidding right, just yanking your own chain? You wouldn't really do that, give up on yourself?"

I understand the desire to coast but in the sense of being in the position to let go of many of the responsibilities that have defined life for the last 20+ years.

I also understand becoming comfortable in one’s own skin and unapologetically being who you are. But her comment implied growth was no longer sought. I imagined she saw herself ‘done’ as in……fully baked.

That’s where my heart sank.

She has just entered a time in her life when some of the greatest growth takes place, where she could potentially bloom into a beautiful, full blossom and become all she was meant to be.



Let's say this basket represents your life. In your goody basket is everything you are as an individual. You’re a gold mine of thoughts, emotions, passions, dreams, and virtues.

Inside is everything that has happened to you, successes, joys, fulfillments, disappointments, all you’ve ever done. Every day that goody basket has new things added and it’s continually growing and expanding.

Therefore, you are always in the process of becoming your full magnificent self whether you embrace it or not!

It's most unfortunate when one becomes stuck in quicksand as she has done. One's thinking becomes stunted and the size of your thinking is what determines the size of your results.

Personal growth can get lost inside distractions and the worries and anxiety that can intensify as we age.

Whatever you do, don’t let this happen!

Today, more than any other time in your life, you call the shots. You determine the quality of your life. It’s different for everyone, but you know it when you discover a more profound sense of self and purpose.

You deserve this. You owe it to yourself Sister!


TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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3/13/21 5:39 P

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Tell me the most beautiful thing about yourself.

Today we are taking the time to appreciate ourselves.

I’m not talking about appreciating the miracle of life, although it’s obviously an awesome thing. I’m talking about actually appreciating all the special things you are.




Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 3/13/2021 (18:52)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/28/21 10:31 A

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I've been a part of Sparkspeople for a good number of years now and I've NEVER put myself out there like this. So, regardless of my present situation, I thought it about time people REALLY got to know who I am, what I'm like. Or I should say my true characteristics and personality that lies beneath all of what I'm going through right now.

So here it goes. I hope it doesn't frighten anyone away!

All my life, I’ve heard a lot of the same things...I’m a handful, I’m too much, I'm a misfit, you're weird, you're strange, I’m a lot to take in. Well, all I'll say to that is, “GOOD!”
I’m not trying to be memorable or stand out...I’m just a distinctive unique individual.

People that shine brighter catch the eyes of others because of who they are, not because they’re trying to. Some have tried telling me, tone it down, scale it back or be a little less me. So, I did what anyone should do when I hear that...I crank it up, of course.

My way of thinking, If they can’t handle me at my normal levels of amazing, what makes them think they can handle me at any other level? They can’t, they won’t and I don’t really give a flying flip. Yeah, I’m that one that everyone laughs at. It’s okay, I laugh at myself...a lot. I even snort when I laugh, I make weird faces when I don’t realize it, and I say hilariously off-the-wall things a lot of times. At least I think so.

Sure, I am more than a little weird and a bit awkward socially. I don't quite fit in and most people just simply don't get me and I know it. I’d tell you that I don’t mean to be awkward and strange, but that’s totally not true. I'm being real and to be honest, I think the world needs more of us who are brave enough to be real.

As far as personality and character, I love being the way I am and I won’t change for anything or anybody. With me, what you see is what you get. I may be ridiculous and weird sometimes, but at least I'll never be boring, will I?.

Yeah, you’ll never know what I’ll do or say, but that’s part of what makes me colourful and fun. I will never apologize for the walls you built when I am protecting myself. I'm not tearing down these walls for anyone ever again. You want to know me, what's inside, makes me tick? CLIMB. I no longer seek approval to be who I am or ask anyone’s permission for my personality characteristics.
I'm just who I am and I offer no apologies or regrets.

Sure, I may stick my foot in it by saying the wrong things; bang off the wall sometimes and I'm not the quietest one around. That's not to mean I don't have my quiet moments, but you’ll always know where you stand with me and what I think..however that plays out. There’s a lot of people pretending to be a lot of things to impress a lot of others who really don’t matter. I use to, but that's no longer me. What counts is what I think of myself and the love I have for myself and my people. I'll always be real, authentic and genuine and you can take me at my word on that...and not everyone can handle that. Oh well, that’s their problem. They're just S.O.L.
Asking me to tone it down is like asking a tornado not to be a natural phenomenon. So I think I’ll keep doing what I do best and be the best version of myself that I can be.

It’s hard sometimes to stay true to yourself in a world that’s in love with fake perfection, but I’m okay standing apart from the crowd. No matter what happens, you know I’ll always have your back and be there to help you pick up the pieces of life’s pain.
Sure, sometimes I’m confusing and a little different, so don’t feel bad...I don’t even know what I’m doing half the time myself. LOL, I just do what I do, which is show up, stand up and speak up..with the unique flavour that only I can provide.

It may not always be pretty, it may not always be put together, but at least I’ll always be true to myself. So, for all those people who tell me I’m “too much” or “a lot”, you’re right.
I am a lot of woman. I have a lot of depth. A lot of personality to handle. A lot of emotions. A lot of love. And, I have a lot of dreams, I love too much, I trust too much, I care too much and I live too much...if that’s even possible.
I’m a lot of all the things that matter - soul depth, down to earth, fun, loving and loyal...So, yeah, you're right I am a lot of great things. And nothing or no one will ever change that about me. I’m not asking for your permission to fly, I’m just going to keep spreading my wings and soaring as I've always meant to. Maybe one day, they’ll stop worrying about what I’m too much of and start appreciating me for the amazing person I am.

Until then, I’ll keep flying higher, loving harder and losing myself in the moments of my life. So, guess what? I’m that one friend that you know will tell you like it is and you can count on me to keep things interesting, down to earth and lively.
I may be one of a kind, but I’m brave enough to be real, loyal and true to my values and my people.
So, buckle up, buttercup, I’m always down for adventure...I want to go find some fun, and lose myself in some mischief. Today is for living, so let’s do some of that. Me and you, the wind in our hair and sun on our face.Two weirdos on a journey to fulfill our souls...Sounds pretty magical, if you ask me.



Beautiful eyes,
and a devilish grin
with a laugh as loud as thunder.

A heart that's on fire
with no end in sight
and a smirk that makes them wonder.

I have scars that are healing
but have a strong voice,
you could say, I'm on a mission.

I am who I am
and though I'm not happy with presently who I am,
I still don't need your flippin' permission.

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/16/21 10:29 A

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This Has Got To Change



So many of us have a lot going on in our lives. Some of us too much.

Enjoying a balanced life is a wonderful thing. Look around you though…how many people do you see actually living a balanced life?

There are throngs of people who seem to be magnets for calamity. They live their lives jumping from one difficult situation to the next. And there are those who believe themselves to be victims of fate and cast dispersions into a universe they regard as vindictive. Others view their chaotic circumstances as just punishments for some failing within. Yet, in truth, neither class has been fated to a life sentence of suffering. It's far more likely they are unconsciously drawing drama into their lives, attracting adversity through the choices made, attitudes, and thinking patterns.

For some, drama, however, turbulent, can be exciting and stimulating. You see, the upset causes excitement, a rush of adrenaline, which produces a pleasurable surge of energy. The addiction to drama is fed by the intensity of the feelings evoked during bouts of conflict, periods of uncertainty, and upheaval.

Many people, so used to living in the dramatic world they create and because the drama in their lives serves multiple purposes feel uncomfortable when confronted with the prospect of a life of peace and contentment.

But the thrill of turbulence eventually begins to frustrate the soul and drain the energy of all who embrace it. To stop this course of dependency, we must understand the root of the addiction to drama, be aware of our reactions, and be willing to see and accept that a serene, joyful life does not actually need to be a boring one.

Understanding where the subconscious need for drama stems from is the key to addressing it effectively. Journaling can help to transfer this need from your mind onto a benign piece of paper. After repeated writing sessions, your feelings regarding the mayhem, hurt feelings, and confusion often associated with drama become clear. When you confront your emotional response to drama and the purpose it serves in your life, you can turn your backs on it. Each time you consciously choose not to take part in dramatic situations or associate with dramatic people, you create space in your inner being that is filled with a calm and tranquil stillness and becomes an asset in your quest to lead a more centred and life of balance.

The balance lies within you — it’s your ability to remain centred in the middle of whatever is happening.
Today most people are overwhelmed, stressed and burnt out.
So here´s what we need to understand: what we feel inside comes from what we think, not from what´s going on in the world around us. So many people think that their feelings come from what´s going on around them. But that´s exactly the problem. That´s what makes it so difficult to live from a place of balance and ease.

If you´re like those people, what you´re probably doing is trying to treat the symptoms of imbalance rather than the cause.

That´s got to change.

Feelings are not triggered by the circumstances happening around you. They'll always come from what´s happening within your mind. Those hundreds of thoughts swirling around.

That imbalance you feel is being set off by the voices inside your mind.

And, so long as you allow them to chatter non-stop, you will struggle to create balance and peace in your life.
The moment you acknowledge the voices, you are on your way to being free of them.

What would your life be like if you could just let go of all the stress you feel? Imagine having a to-do list as long as your arm but without all the tense thoughts going on inside your head.

That voice inside my own mind has been the queen of exaggeration.

What do I mean?

Well, think about it. How many times…
have your thoughts blown a situation completely out of proportion?
has that voice inside your head led you to believe things that just weren´t true?
has it convinced you that it had to be all or nothing?

The world around us is full of risk and danger, and that little voice inside our mind thinks it has to sound the alarm on every single one. And it uses stressful thoughts to do it.

And, yes, while life can be a risky business, 99.9% of the time, there´s no valid reason to worry and anxiety.

Yet, that little voice in our minds is catastrophe-focused and wants to make sure we are, too.

This is how it draws our attention away from the actual moment of the present. By creating an imaginary version of a horrific scene inside your head; one that continually impacts the way you feel.

Even if we know – on some logical level – that these scenarios won´t ever happen, it causes us to feel anxious and tense.

It´s in this made-up world of thought that imbalance is born.

The is a solution. One that is simpler than you think…

Stop taking those voices inside your head seriously.

Stop believing everything it says.

Take a step back and listen with an objective ear.

Because it´s not what´s happening around you that makes you feel unbalanced. It´s what´s happening inside of you.

Our inner voice loves to exaggerate and bend the truth. It seeks to control and because we mistake it for our own voice, we listen.
By allowing our inner voice to overtake and control our thoughts, we give it control over our emotions.

Learning to recognize that voice as it chatters away is the first step towards creating more balance in our life. It takes time and a willingness to be persistent but it´s definitely something we can do.
Quite often you´ll notice the feelings first – tension, unease, frustration, even anger – and then the chatter kicks in.
When this happens, ignore the voice and explore the feeling. Where is it in your body? Can you pinpoint it? Can you describe it?
Now think about what set it off. Remember, thoughts trigger emotion. So, what was going through your mind when that feeling took hold?
Being able to recognize that thought will make it possible for you to change it. And by changing it, you can change how you feel.

Still, inner voices are stubborn things and it takes practice to get good at the process.
Be open to it. Be patient. And know that living in balance starts with understanding what´s going on in the space between your ears.
Every uncomfortable feeling is a door to understanding yourself better. Everything that throws you out of balance in your life is a way for you to grow.
When you catch your inner voice trying to run the show, see it as a sign that it´s time to step back into the present.
Living a balanced life is not about meditating or practicing countless relaxation techniques – those are just extras. It really does just come down to how what you think directly affects the way we feel.





TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/14/21 8:08 P

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“The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.” – E. E. Cummings

We carry so much love in our hearts. It is time we give some to ourselves.

"I'm learning to love myself. It's the hardest thing I've ever done."

Do you know how easy it is to tell someone "You need to love yourself" and how much more difficult to explain how it is done?

It's mindfully following our every breath to become present in our body and embrace all of the intensity of our emotions. Even the ones that are the cause of our pain. It's about moving toward our feelings rather than running from them with various forms of self-abandonment, such as staying focused in your head, judging yourself, turning to addictions to numb them out, etc.
It is a deep and compassionate process of exploration—of learning about our beliefs and behaviour and what is happening with someone or a situation that may be causing our pain. So, then we must ask our feeling self, our inner child: "What am I might be thinking or doing that's causing the painful feelings of anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, jealousy, anger, loneliness, or emptiness?" Then allow the answer to come from inside, from your intuition and feelings.
Once we understand that then, we ask our ego about the fears and false beliefs leading to the self-abandoning thoughts and actions.

It's not as hard to connect with our higher guidance as you may think. The key is to be open to learning to love ourselves. When our hearts are open to learning, the answers will come. They may come immediately or it may take time. They may come in words, images or in dreams.

Once we take these loving actions, check-in to see if your pain, anger, and shame are getting healed. If not, then we go back through the steps until we discover the truth and loving actions that bring us peace, joy, and a deep sense of indelible worth.

Over time, we will discover that loving ourselves improves everything in our lives—our relationships, our health and well-being, our ability to manifest our dreams, and our self-esteem. Loving and connecting with ourselves is the key to being able to love and connect with others and create loving relationships. Loving ourselves is the key to creating a passionate, fulfilled, and joyful life.

“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.” – Nic Sheff



I hope you realize how beautiful you are. I hope you realize what you deserve. I hope you realize you are your own healer. That you can overcome anything and come out stronger than before. I hope you realize what you're really made of because I know. I just hope you see it for yourself. I hope you grow. I hope you have a better year. One where you spend finding yourself, mending yourself and putting the pieces back together. I hope you take the time you need to build the patience and determination you need to succeed. To move on. To find your strengths and to work on your weaknesses. I hope you continue to fight for what you love, for what you believe in. For all the things that do you right. That speaks to your soul and to your heart. I hope all of these things for you because I know who you are and because I know deep down inside you know who you are too. -- R.M Drake

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/14/21 10:25 A

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Every journey has rough potholes, some shallow, some larger and deeper. The one you're setting out on now is no exception. The trials you'll face are there to give your journey strength and meaning.

The trials you face might be self-inflicted or maybe no fault of your own.
You might stumble and give in to the impulses to do what you know to be ill-judged, and dealing with the consequences of your choices and acting upon them can make things difficult for a time.

Nonetheless, you need to keep walking by faith through these dark times without waiting for some epiphany or miracle to illuminate your path.

You may not realize it now, but your path is being made clear; Keep walking by faith.

Stepping out in faith requires you to take action. Stepping out in faith sometimes means leaving your comfort zone. Through faith and trust, we will no longer doubt our ability or question if this is the right path for our lives.
It Helps the Mind. Stepping out in faith can help recondition your mind and change your perspective.

Stepping out in faith challenges us to believe more deeply about who we are and what is true. This kind of belief brings the mental ascent of what we think we know into the core of our lives.
Sometimes our world can be a frightening place, and sometimes, you may do things out of fear. If you want to walk by faith, you need to release your fear and accept the path you are being led down.
This is easier said than done, of course. You may not be able to become completely fearless, free of anxiety, but you can be courageous and learn to act accordingly even when you are afraid of what lies ahead.

For the most part, you'll need to walk through life and make decisions based on your circumstances. This can be especially difficult when the demands of daily life press down on you.

“I have not always chosen the safest path. I've made my mistakes, plenty of them. I sometimes jump too soon and fail to appreciate the consequences. But I've learned something important along the way: I've learned to heed the call of my heart. I've learned that the safest path is not always the best path that the voice of fear is not always to be trusted.” I've also learned that if the lesson is not learned, the lesson will be repeated as many times as necessary.

“One’s options in this world are as vast as the horizon, which is technically a circle and thus infinitely broad. Yet we must choose each step we take with the utmost caution, for the footprints we leave behind are as important as the path we will follow.

“There are two paths of which one may choose in the walk of life; one we are born with, and the one we consciously blaze. One is naturally true, while the other is a perceptive illusion. Choose wisely at each fork in the road.”

“But how will I know it's my destiny?'
“When your footsteps and thoughts carry you down the same path your heart and soul are directing you, you will know without a doubt that you are headed in the right direction.”

“I have been finding treasures in places I did not want to search. I have been hearing wisdom from tongues I did not want to listen to. I have been finding beauty where I did not want to look. And I have learned so much from journeys I did not want to take and journeys I thought I'd never take. This is one such journey.

“It's all well and good to look back after the fact and see what we should have done, but we rarely know what path is best when we take that first step.”




Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry, I could not travel both
And be one traveller long I stood,
And looked down one as far as I could
Toe where it bent in the undergrowth
I shall be telling this with a sigh,
Somewhere ages and ages hence
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Robert Frost.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 2/14/2021 (10:27)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/12/21 8:55 A

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She's YOU!

People often come up to me and express their admiration for my strength and ask me how I do it.
With most, I just shrug and tell them I don’t really know.
If I actually told them why I am the way that I am, they wouldn’t get it, never truly understand, and I don’t expect them to.
My story isn’t a simple one of victory, it’s so much more than that.
Every scar, every scratch and dent, every flaw.. they are a reminder of who I am and where I’ve come from.
It’s been a long, hard road full of defeats and tears..sleepless nights and times of being at my wit's end.
There were so many times I didn’t know how I would even make it through the day, much less build a future and follow my ambitions...
No, those are for the people who have it all together and figured out. I wasn’t one of them.
I was the fly by the seat of my pants and make it work somehow kind of person...(Not so much anymore)
It wasn’t usually pretty, sometimes it was downright nasty, in fact, but I always ended up where I needed to be - even if it wasn’t where I had initially set out to go.



Life has a way of giving us what we need, not what we think we want - It’s been a hard lesson, but one that I had to learn if I was ever going to evolve into the person I was meant to be.
Behind every trauma came a lesson and through each disappointment, I learned a little more about myself.
I've come to realize my value and what I won’t take any more.
Day by day, step by step, I grow a little more, forging a stronger will and building my courage.
Trust me it hasn’t been easy. Every time I was knocked down, I got right back up. I was determined to never stay down or accept defeat.
So, when people admire me for my journey that they’ll never know about in-depth, I just smile and thank them for their compliment.
They’ll never really know what I overcame and still overcoming, how my strength was forged in the fires of defeat, and that’s okay, they don’t have to.
It’s my story and I’m the hero.
I’m stronger, wiser and happier than I’ve ever been before, and I’m only going to get better...
as Is my life.
I am strong. Not because I always wanted to be but because I was forced to be. My strength was often hidden from everyone, but it's this strength that has kept me going even in the most difficult times.
I didn't see or know my strength at first. But as time passes I can now celebrate being a true warrior, brave.
I know that I’m right where I’m meant to be doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing.
I’ll just keep climbing because that’s just who I am.
I’m no longer just a survivor, I’m much more than that.
I’m a warrior...
And I can do anything so long as I believe.
SO CAN YOU!



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/11/21 10:26 A

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We Have The Right



First off, we should all know that we absolutely have the right to personal boundaries.

We not only have the right, but we must also take the responsibility for how we allow others to treat us. I can't stress this enough.

Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits that act as filters so that others know what is acceptable and what is not. And, although they should be, personal boundaries aren’t as evident to the naked eye as a giant “no trespassing” sign. They’re more like transparent hemispherical domes or canopies that protect us from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. They allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others.

If we do not have boundaries that protect and define us, giving us a strong sense of identity, we tend to take our sense of worth from others. To avoid this at all costs, we need to set clear and decisive limits that others will respect and do whatever it takes for us to enforce them.

Even though personal boundaries can be challenging to navigate, set and communicate they are vitally essential for our health, well-being, and even our safety giving us a sense of power and ownership over our physical space, body, and feelings.

“We should all have limits and boundaries that communicate where we draw the line. Definitive lines that others should be able to clearly identify the actions and behaviours that we find unacceptable. We, on the other hand, should never be afraid or apprehensive to let others know when they've crossed those lines, acted inappropriately, or disrespected you in any way. We should never be afraid of or the least bit hesitant to let others know when we need to take emotional and physical space.

Sadly, I have learned this the hard way.

You have the right to say no without feeling guilty.
You have the right to be treated with respect.
You have the right to make your needs as important as anybody else's.
You have the right to be accepting of your mistakes and failures.
You have the right not to meet anybody else's unreasonable expectations of me.

So please, set your boundaries and reinforce them. Trust and believe in yourself. You are the highest authority on you. You know yourself best. You know what you need, want, and value. Don't let anyone else make the decisions for you. Healthy boundaries make it possible for you to respect your strengths, abilities and individuality as well as those of others. An unhealthy imbalance occurs when you encourage neediness, or are needy; want to be rescued, or are the rescuer, or when you choose to play the victim.

Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries

Going against personal values or rights in order to please others
Giving as much as you can for the sake of giving
Taking as much as you can for the sake of taking
Letting others define you
Expecting others to fill your needs automatically
Feeling bad or guilty when you say no
Not speaking up when you are treated poorly



Be that strong woman who will make it through the fire. Be that fearless Queen who dares to do anything. Be the woman you want to be, not who everyone tells you to be. BE YOU!

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 2/11/2021 (10:43)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/10/21 12:08 P

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Danger, Unrealistic Expectations Ahead!

Very few of us have not been brought up with the concept that we must live up to certain expectations. To be a well-behaved child. To always do our best. To get a good education. These are very common expectations that I’m sure sound familiar to many of you.

Then there are expectations that are perhaps less obvious but are nonetheless imposed upon us. To do better than our parents did. To fulfil a dream our parents have for us because they couldn’t fulfil theirs. To follow in our father's footsteps.

And then there are the expectations that are not imposed on us at all, but we somehow have come to think they are. These can take any form or shape in our private and/or professional life but are nevertheless of our own making. Even when we attribute them to our career or persons other than ourselves.

For to long, in the later years, I worked in a profession I no longer enjoyed. I worked in it because at some deeper level I thought that would make me live up to someone else’s perceived(!) expectations. I was very good at what I did, which kept me there a lot longer than was good for me.

Why did I do it? What drove me? And how did it affect those around me?

I believe that, for whatever reason, I didn’t feel I was good enough, and so I was constantly striving to be better. This in itself is not a bad thing, because being the best we can be is a good thing to aspire to, right? But how do we measure that? What does ‘being the best we can be’ look like?
When Covid 19 started affecting the business and being confined to a state of isolation as scary as it sometimes felt there was no opportunity to slow down and breathe. I was being pushed, pressured, shoved into a position where instead of taking other people's situation into account I was expected to be even more productive, not only in sustaining our existing clients but to increase our clientele.
Part of the reasoning behind that was Fear. Fear of the unknown really, fear that COVID-19 would go on so long that we wouldn’t be able to remain open or even in business.
So, what did I do? I worked even harder, pushing myself to even be more productive to meet those expectations. Fear that I’d let our awesome team of Earth Angels, and our community, not to mention my employer, down by not making the ‘right’ decisions, and stuffing it up.
So, ignoring all the signs my mind and body were giving off I stayed with it; slowly climbing the career ladder. Until the signs became too obvious to ignore and both my mind and body finally shut down completely.
Without consciously realizing it I spent so much time in a job that no longer made me feel fulfilled or happy. All I was doing was striving to live up to their expectations, their approval. In doing so, I had worked myself into a severe burnout.

I had this inner battle going on between the ‘fearful I’m not good enough to pull this off’ part of me, and the ‘praying everything always works out’ part of me.
I kept telling myself that I have a wonderful life. I have the best job in the world, I’m married to an amazing man, I have a loving family and awesome friends that I work and play with. I AM HAPPY! It was neck and neck for a while, and of course, this had consequences not only on a personal psychological level but for those around me, because my expectations of myself had a flow-on effect not only at work but at home too.

What more could I want? How complicated does it need to be?

Every morning I set an intention that TODAY I AM HAPPY, no matter what’s going on around me; and I’m trusting that everything else will take care of itself because that’s the energy I’m surrounding myself with, and I pray that ‘my intention’ will have a beneficial impact on everyone around me as well, and that they will CHOOSE HAPPINESS too.
I was so busy ‘doing and convincing myself, that I didn’t really take the time to reflect what Covid 19 presented; that is until my employer and I came to words triggering feelings of resentment and anger, and I finally SNAPPED.



She stressed out over finances and the ever-decreasing number of clientele because they were cutting back on advertising and expenditures and I according to her, wasn't doing my job because while she was doing everything in her power to make me fit her expectations I was no longer meeting those expectations and so now, it was all my fault. I was being held accountable for the decrease of advertising dollars coming in which paid for the amount of news she could print from week to week.

This is just human – we are different and that is wonderful, but we cannot expect 100% agreement, because we are not clones. Most of the time, when you are in this situation, you will tend to go with the one that puts more pressure on you and by that, you actually teach those around you that in order for them to get what they want, they only need to apply enough pressure. This way, by responding to pressure, you are attracting more of it. So if you want to let go of external pressure, you must let go of living according to others’ expectations.

The problem of giving others the power is developing helplessness. It is as if they hold your heart and mind and you are vulnerable. When giving others power over you, you are actually taking your heart out of your body and giving it to others on a silver platter. It is like telling them, “Here is my heart. Do whatever you want with it”, and you know what? They do!. The more power you give them, the more powerless you will feel and this is when you cannot think of ways to lift yourself up. This is when you feel totally out of control. If you want to feel powerful and in control, let go of living by others’ expectations.



It'll take me time to figure out what my own expectations are. It'll take me even more time to start living up to my own expectations and realize that I no longer need other people’s approval.
Once I do, I can once more finally regain and step into my full self-confidence and start on a path that is entirely my own.

We are not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations!

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your own heart and intuition.
– Steve Jobs


WHO’S EXPECTATIONS, REAL OR PERCEIVED, ARE YOU LIVING UP TO?

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 2/10/2021 (12:09)
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THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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When we make nothing but excuses, we are not being honest with anybody, especially ourselves.




When we begin rationalizing and reasoning when we don't want or feel like doing something let's call it for what it is. It's a blatant excuse to psychologically justify procrastinating. If we lie to ourselves often enough we sooner or later risk the danger to keep us from accomplishing our goals.
Choices and consequences.
Far to often we accept excuses convincing ourselves into believing that they are "ironclad" reasons for why we can't accomplish what we set out to do, and instead of following through or finding alternatives, we throw in the towel. But if we're really honest with ourselves and begin to take responsibility for our choices, we begin to notice that we no longer look for excuses. When we keep our minds focused on our goals, we will find that excuses fade into the background in the light of our priorities, and issues become challenges that can help us become wiser and stronger.
I love this quote because it’s true.
Giving up on your goals because of one setback is like slashing all four tires because one of them is flat. - Dolmar Cross

When you face a setback, don’t beat yourself up. Don’t use that setback as evidence for why things will never work out or stop you from going forward. Don't sulk or feel kicked down. Stop doing that to yourself.

A flat tire can’t fix itself. Use your mind to deal with the problem, remove the obstacle or DRIVE AROUND the setback you are facing. There are a million routes to every destination.
If you’ve got a flat tire on the road of life right now, stop making it worse and either fix it or drive on the rim until you can.
Mel

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Letting Go Of The Rope

It seems that every day someone comes up with a new “holy grail” of foods for weight loss. You only need to see the front cover or open any popular health and fitness magazine or watch a health-related TV show. Just when you thought you got it right, everything changes.



Do you treat weight loss like a game of tug of war?
Do you dig your heels in? Try harder? Grit your teeth and “suck it up”?
This is the path of the traditional weight loss world: eat less and exercise more.
But treating our metabolism like a tug of war match doesn’t work.
We call it the Law of Metabolic Compensation.
The more you restrict calories, log gym hours, and tap into your willpower reserves, the more the body will pull right back. You’ll have hormonal and brain chemical changes that increase hunger and cravings and decrease your metabolic rate.
Your metabolism does this as a defense against what it perceives as starvation. Its primary concern is defending its fat stores because it knows that you can’t survive once they’re gone.
And eventually, the metabolism will win this tug of war battle, leaving us physically exhausted and emotionally drained. And leading us to believe we’re the ones at fault, but in reality, it was an unwindable game in the first place.
So let go of the rope.
Work smarter, not harder.
Stop cutting calories and increasing exercise.
Stop relying on willpower.
Stop being the dieter jumping from plan to plan.
Stop being metabolic rigid, and embrace metabolic flexibility.
Work WITH your metabolism by either eating more and exercising more (like an athlete) or by eating less and exercising less (like our ancestors).
And be nice to yourself
There’s nothing wrong with you; you’ve just been playing an unwinnable game.



Want to know the formula to help burn that stubborn belly fat?
It’s (P + V) x (Sl + IE)
Protein (P) and vegetables (V) help reduce hunger while minimizing insulin production. This means you consume fewer calories and achieve a better hormone balance.
Sleep (Sl) adds to this powerful punch by lowering cortisol and increasing human growth hormone (HGH), a fat and muscle-building hormone.
Add in intense exercise (IE) that leans towards weight training or interval training (which produces more HGH and testosterone), and you have a hormonal cocktail that aids fat burning.
Because of the power of hormones, extra time in bed can be better than doing 100 sit-ups. And a slow leisurely walk can be better than going on a run.
So if stubborn fat is your issue, consider which piece of the formula you need to focus on. Which piece of the formula is the most challenging for you?



How much exercise do you get every week?
How much movement do you get?
Do you know the difference?
We define movement as “the activities of daily living.” This means walking, doing laundry, going up and down the stairs, standing, fidgeting, etc.
We encourage our clients to park further from the grocery store, take the stairs, get up more throughout their day, and take leisurely walks to increase their daily movement.
Whereas movement has been a necessity for all of human history, exercise is relatively new.
The general population didn’t engage in traditional exercise until the 1960s and 1970s.
And as wonderful as exercise is, we believe it’s less important than movement. Research shows that those who move all day but do not exercise fare better than those who sit all day but exercise for 30-60 minutes.
Why?
In general, movement is stress-reducing and has a minimal impact on your sleep, hunger, mood, energy, and cravings. Movement, like slow, leisurely walking, is incredibly healing to the metabolism. It can reduce stress hormones like cortisol and keep your muscle tissue and liver very sensitive to the hormone insulin.
However, exercise can quickly become a stress on the body, especially when combined with less food intake as traditional diets prescribe (eat less, exercise more), and the emotional stress of modern life.


TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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2/5/21 8:49 A

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Life's Vitameatavegimin



I've gotten out of the habit of doing this recently...
It's something I was doing religiously, but for whatever reason, I've stopped doing it.
"Bad, Marion!"
So...From today, I'm back on it.
I'm talking about being grateful.
More specifically, writing down what I'm grateful for every morning.
You see, it's very easy to get caught up in the weight of life and the grim and dismal state of what's going on out there in this world of ours.
If you read the newspaper headlines or watch the top stories on the global news on the box regularly, you'd think that the World has gone to hell in a handbasket. In truth, however...
Believe it or not, even with all of this going on there is still so much good out there AND in our lives, that we forget to be grateful for it. So...

Let me give you a few examples by telling you what I'm grateful for today...

1. You. Yes, you. Reading my "daily nuggets of wisdom", "following my advice" and taking steps towards the healthiest you, you can be. You're a superstar and I'm privileged to have you on board.

2. Warm longjohns that are fresh out of tumble dryer on a cold morning. Popping them on quickly and it's like a warm hug.

3. The cheeky grin my husband gives me when he's got some "huge secret" up his sleeve and know's that I'll fall for it every time. He loves to be mischievous.

As you can see, you don't need to go overboard with these things. It's the small things.
Now, let me tell you why this is so powerful...

When you practice being grateful you train your mind to look for the positivity in your life.
This helps reduce stress, anxiety and even depression. You'll feel much more of a happy, peppy and better person. It's like taking Vitmeatavegamin... You all remember Lucille Ball...



So, give it a go and ping me a sparkmail with just one thing you're grateful for today.

Go on, I double dare you emoticon



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Your dedication to your health in becoming the healthiest you, you can be, may make you feel like working even more diligently toward that lifestyle goal today. Even though being determined to do your best might be a positive way to work it, you may want to make certain that your enthusiasm does not become too extreme. Perhaps throughout the day, you might consider taking short breaks in order to check in with yourself. Give yourself time to breathe and rest. This will help you reflect upon what you have already accomplished and plan for what you need yet need to do. This way, you can see the fruits of your labour from a fresh and relaxed perspective working with more awareness of all that you are able to do. You may find that by simply taking time for yourself today, you remain inspired and are able to stay focused, motivated and stimulated.



Taking short breaks to assess our progress is a healthy way to approach our goals. Working straight through the day without time to think about what we have done may seem efficient at first, but it can push us to strain ourselves beyond what is healthy. When we are resting, however, our efforts don't stop but simply change -- our bodies and minds simply change focus, for the task at hand is rejuvenating and reenergizing ourselves. Once rested, we can approach our responsibilities strengthened by the gift of additional energy that we have given ourselves. By cultivating healthy work habits today, you will reach even greater heights.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 2/1/2021 (10:23)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Every one of us tries very hard not to get upset with the numbers on the scale, but we all know that sometimes these can, sadly, make or break a day especially after working so hard to make a change.
So remember,


TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Why mindset is 95% of the battle.

Most of us have fixed mindsets about things, but we most definitely can change that. 

We've always thought it to be Hard work, Focus and Perseverance. It turns out that it's none of these. But before we consider what that skill is, let’s look at the error of human thinking.

The common mistake often made is that we believe we have a fixed level of skill or ability – something we might even describe as being born with. Have you ever said to yourself? I’m useless at maths, singing, dancing, painting… (or anything you feel you’re no good at). 

On the flip side: I’ve always been good at sport, solving problems… (or anything you feel you’re good at). Well, I’m sure you realize we shouldn’t fill our heads with negativity, but what’s the problem with seeing ourselves as excellent at something?

The key trap, the belief that we have ‘an ingrained level of ability’ can take two forms:

Believing we are something special, smarter than other people, gifted in a certain area and subsequently don’t have to work hard at what is perceived as an innate talent.

Believing we can’t do something, that somehow we’ve never been able to do it and however hard we try we will never be able to, so it’s just not worth bothering.

If we stop and think about it, both of these declarations are slightly ludicrous.  

As a child we never said “well I tried walking and it was really hard so I’ll never be able to do it!” or “I came out of the womb brilliant at playing hockey.”  No, these are all talents and skills we have developed.  We may have more of a tendency for certain things but never the less we still have to work at their development.

“In a fixed mindset, we believe our basic abilities,  intelligence and talents, are just fixed traits. We have a certain amount and that’s that, and then our goal becomes to look smart all the time and never look stupid.” But other people see their skills differently, as qualities that can be developed  – a growth mindset.

“In a growth mindset, we understand that our talents and abilities can be developed through effort, good teaching and persistence. We don’t necessarily think everyone’s the same or anyone can be Einstein, but we believe everyone can get smarter if they work at it.
”Dweck found these two mindsets lead to very different behaviours and results. In one study, students with a growth mindset increased their grades over time, whereas those with a fixed mindset did not.

Other studies have shown similar effects for our mindset on other abilities like problem-solving, playing sports and even managing people. The difference between these two groups is a different perspective on intelligence with the key to success not simply being effort, focus or resilience but the growth mindset that creates them. The mindset in itself is crucial.

If we are to fulfil our potential then we have to start thinking with a growth mindset and believe we are not chained to our current capabilities. A fixed mindset brain with a fixed mindset the brain becomes most active when receiving information about how the person performs – such as a grade or a score.

In other words, people with a fixed mindset worry most about how they are judged. With a fixed mindset, the effort can be seen as a bad thing; only people with low capabilities need to work hard at overcoming it through effort. And when they receive setback or failure, those with a fixed mindset tend to conclude they’re incapable and will seek to protect their ego by losing interest or withdrawing from an activity.

This is often seen as a lack of motivation, but behind it, there’s a fixed mindset. The growth mindset brain people with a growth mindset focus on learning and their brain becomes most active when receiving information about what they could do better next time. Growth mindset people see effort as a path to success – the way to grow. 

It was Thomas Edison who reminded us that:  “Genius is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration” and that setback are part of growth. “I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  Thomas Edison – Inventor of the light bulb. A key characteristic of a person with a growth mindset is that when they hit a problem, they find a way around it. Ways to develop our own growth mindset most of us have fixed mindsets about some things, but we can change that. Here are three things you can do to instil a growth mindset for success: Adopt a growth mindset. 

Recognize that the growth mindset is not only beneficial but recognized by science.  Neuroscience shows that the brain changes and becomes more capable when we work hard to improve ourselves. Learn how to grow. Learn about how to develop your abilities, learn about deliberate practice and what makes for effective effort. 

When we understand how to develop our abilities we strengthen our conviction that we are in charge of those abilities. Listen and modify your inner voice. Listen for your fixed mindset voice and when you hear it, talkback with a growth mindset voice.  If you hear yourself say: I can’t do it – add yet to the sentence.“I can’t do that, yet!” With a growth mindset, you have the ability to fulfil your potential, and the changes you want from life will be yours for the taking.

What have you caught yourself saying you can’t do?  Mine’s dancing!  I definitely have two left feet! Just ask my husband LOL

Source: https://www.brilliantlivinghq.com/

Success is no accident.
It is a growth mindset, hard work, perseverance, Learning, Studying, Sacrifice, and love of what you are doing or learning to do. PELE

So, NOW let's define our success.
Stop procrastinating
Stop looking at success as a distant achievement
Find our inspiration and motivation
Set goals based on our definition
Create habits surrounding our goals
Create a routine around our habits



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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1/22/21 12:43 P

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If we only focus on the painful splashes, we'll never see the beauty of its ripples.

When do we gain control over things of this life that are causing us emotional pain, anxiety and depression in this present day? More importantly, I think is the question, how do we gain control? It starts when we choose to look beyond our pain and suffering. It starts when we choose to look beyond ourselves.

Let's imagine ourselves as a pool of water. The different events happening both "out there" and within our own personal bubble, merging and causing the varying waves. There are ones for joy, vibrations of learning, acquiring knowledge, and sometimes more forceful splashes. However, no matter how forceful the splash it is our choices that set in motion & disquiet the water. We as humans think the goal is to find stability and calmness. But, what actually happens to a stagnant pool of water? It grows a dirty film until eventually, it becomes murky, muddy and filthy. We have only two guarantees of life, change and eternal rest.

Our lives then change and everything we wanted to hold onto comes to an end. To fight against this is to reject the laws of our soul's existence. What do we do then? How do we handle these changes happening around us and affecting us both negatively and positively? We find an anchor. If we resist change we meet a different kind of demise, a self-imposed one. If we allow the turbulence to overwhelm us then we can drown in our pain. The anchor is simply a choice to own it. A declaration to use it for accomplishing good. This gives us an understanding that we are powerful and yet wholly insignificant at the same time. An intention to see what life is really about— learning, teaching and loving. Without pain, you can’t do any of these things. The problem we face is focusing on the splashes that this life is presently placing in our path. Instead of being a bystander watching from the sidelines for the beautiful ripples that come from its aftermath.

Paying attention to our lives as they are in the moment allows us to quell any uncomfortable thoughts and concerns we have. Our minds are always focused on a time that is not in the present. We know we can't change the past, but we can certainly have a hand in changing our future. If we learn to recognize this, we will begin to see that wanting something that isn't a part of our lives only causes us mental, emotional, and, ultimately, spiritual discomfort. The beauty of our breath, however, is that it is a tool that grounds us in our lives as they are happening. Our desire for something that has yet to come or our fears based on an earlier experience melts away when our minds become attuned to the present moment. Thinking about today only will calm your mind, which will make you feel more confident about your future as it unfolds before us.

I deeply believe that everything is relative. We need the negative to balance and appreciate the positive and vice versa. We need something unexpected to happen in order for us to realize that everything was expected. It's our relation to those things that we are able to decide how we feel and the level of intensity of those feelings. Shania Twain

There is no longer the old you to get back to. From here on in there's a new you to create and nurture.

And just as a reminder...


TODAY Is our tomorrow. It's up to us to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices we make EVERY day.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/22/2021 (12:51)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Life Is A Rocky Road



You know what, today I am going to share with you things on a more personal level. Even just to let you know that you are not alone out there, in this.

As hard as I battle to stay strong and work through my own anxiety disorder and depression there are just some days where I am tired, just so tired of this "shat". My heart and mind just get so heavy, so weary of it. And it doesn't help that I'm worried about so many things right now either. I bite my lip so many times in keeping it bottled up because I'm trying to be strong for both my husband and me; what I'm going through on a daily basis, what he's now going through with the mental, emotional and physical changes happening with his health. Or at least FINALLY, expressing it instead of pushing it down as well. But some days it just becomes too much! Yes, even for me.
Recently, I had someone ask me, "How do you do it? How do you stay so strong when you're going through the same battles as we are? Anxiety disorder, depression, present lifestyle (COVID-19), world politics, present life in general etc.

We all go through hard things in our lives. That is inevitable. But what happens when the people in our lives, the ones that we love and trust, can't handle our 'hard?' And you know what I shared with them? What helps? It's sharing and expressing my journey through writing, knowing that it's helping, supporting others who are fighting the same. I'm sure I can say with all certainty that you've all felt where you just need a day off from reality. Just a day without people and problems and all the "shat" that runs through your minds.
And ya know, I think I've got it summed up, a handle on it now. In looking in the review mirror, past, recent past, even more specifically these last three-four years working at the newspaper. I'd been 'forced" to take it "up the tailpipe" shoving down my true self, and true feelings and I'd just finally reached my emotional breaking point where my mind and my body couldn't handle anything more. I'd had years of buried anger. I was just so angry that I didn't know how to deal with it any longer. I'd pushed it down and pushed it down because all my life it's been a cover-up. All my life I've told myself just smile, things will be better in the morning, be the better person, take the higher road, be the one to apologize first, if you don't they'll think lesser of you. I'd been "brainwashed" for so long in not being true to my emotions and to be who I really was that now, I'm having to "retrain" myself in how to do that, to find my true self.  And it's disconcerting, frightening. I still need to come to grips with the realization that when I need to step back and take personal space for my own personal wellbeing, whether it's physical, mental or emotional I need to stop back peddling, making excuses of why I did it, had to do it, trip all over myself to defend my actions. I shouldn't have to explain a damn thing. You know what?  Life would be so much simpler if I just decide to let people misunderstand me. Who gives a damn of what they think. This is me, if you don't like it, move along.

Laura Ding-Edwards said it best.
If the mountain seems too big today, climb a hill instead.
If the morning brings you sadness, it's OK to stay in bed.
If the day weighs heavy and your plans feel like a curse,
there's no shame in rearranging, don't make yourself feel worse.
If a shower feels like stinging needles and a bath feels like you'll drown,
if you haven't washed your hair in days, don't throw away your crown.
A day is not a lifetime, a rest does not mean defeat.
Don't think of it as a failure, but instead just a quiet, kind retreat.
It's OK to take a moment from an anxious fractured mind.
The world won't stop turning while you get realigned.
The mountain will still be there when you want to try again.
You can climb it in your own time, just love yourself 'til then.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Completing The Journey Of A Thousand Miles



You decided it's time to lose the weight, and no question, this time you are determined that this will be the last and final time. Whatever it takes, you're ready to get off the weight-loss rollercoaster and make lifestyle changes that you can stick with for the rest of your life. You've planned your meals, started with an exercising routine and are feeling good about the progress you've been making. Your clothes were fitting better and you were seeing results on the scale, but soon the new exercise routine starts to get tedious, monotonous and you can no longer shake the cravings for ice cream and pizza. So, you indulged in your cravings and forgo your morning workout to sleep in longer two days in a row. Suddenly those couple of days turn into a week, and before you know it, you've gained back some (if not all) of the weight you lost. You're right back where you started and aren't sure what you should do next to get back on track.

We all start out knowing the importance of setting goals and the many benefits and advantages to having a set of goals to work towards.
Setting goals helps trigger new behaviours, helps guides your focus and helps you sustain that momentum in life.
Goals also help align your focus and promote a sense of self-mastery. In the end, you can’t manage what you don’t measure and you can’t improve upon something that you don’t properly manage. Setting goals can help you do all of that and more.
So, we make a list. But, how often do you revisit your list and feel the need to reset them? The truth is that some goals are achieved while others are not and it’s important to understand why.

A HARD goal is an achieved goal, according to Murphy, the founder and CEO of LeadershipIQ.com. Murphy tells us to put our present cost into the future and our future benefit into the present.
What this really means is Don't put off tomorrow what you can do today. We tend to value things in the present moment much more than we value things in the future.
Setting goals is a process that changes over time. The goals you set today will most likely be very different from the goals you set a year from now.
In the end, the important thing that you continually revisit your life goals and work to update them.

The Value and Importance of Setting Goals

"A goal properly set is halfway reached." Zig Ziglar
"Everybody has their own Mount Everest they were put on this earth to climb." Seth Godin
"You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight."
Jim Rohn
"It’s better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than at the top of the one you don’t." Stephen Kellogg
"If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much." Jim Rohn
"All who have accomplished great things have had a great aim, have fixed their gaze on a goal which was high, one which sometimes seemed impossible." Orison Swett Marden
"The greater danger for most of us isn’t that our aim is too high and miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it." Michelangelo
"Intention without action is an insult to those who expect the best from you." Andy Andrews
"This one step – choosing a goal and sticking to it – changes everything." Scott Reed

Setting goals helps us move forward in life. Goals give us an intended strategy to follow. Goals are a great way to hold ourselves accountable, even if they fall through from time to time. Setting goals and working to achieving them helps us define what we truly want in life.
Setting goals also helps us prioritize things. If we choose to simply meander through life, without any goals or a plan, that’s certainly your choice. However, setting goals can help us live the life we truly want to live.

Having said that, we don’t have to live every single moment of our lives planned out because we all need those downtime days when we have anything of priority to accomplish.
However, those who have clearly defined goals might just enjoy their downtime even more than those who don’t set goals.
But, more importantly, it is the wiser thing to start with breaking those larger goals into smaller steps. Here's why.

The important reason to start with small goals is to develop momentum and to grow the right habit. We all know that success doesn’t come right away. Often, it takes time to build something big. And because it takes time, we can’t depend solely on our motivation to take action.

Stop and think about it. How would you eat an elephant? Well, one bite at a time.
The same goes when it comes to reaching your dreams and achieving your goals. You have to start small.
No matter how big your goals and dreams, you need to start small.

Think about it, how do you lose 20 pounds in 60 days? (2.5 lbs/week) The answer can be as simple as starting with cutting back on carbs, not eliminating, but cutting back and eating three healthy balanced meals a day; pick a protein, a veggie and add a fat.
For example:



Even in this, why setting small goals are important? Here are a couple of good reasons:

1. Every success is achieved through baby steps

You have to understand that every big success is achieved through numerous small steps. There is no shortcut to it.
You can’t lose 20 pounds without going through the process. Losing 20 pounds is the goal, the process is the baby steps that you need to take to get there.

2. Small goals allow you to focus better

Do you know that one of the main reasons people fail to accomplish their goals is that they often set their goals too big and too far off into the future?
It is easier to focus on what you can do today than to focus on what you can do within a year.
When you set a goal that is too far into the future, you will lose confidence, momentum, and fail to focus on it because of your circumstances and environment.
You will be distracted by everything that is happening in your life.
And this is why it is strongly suggested that we set our goals in a shorter time frame, such as quarterly goals.
When the deadline and the target you want to hit are shorter, you tend to be able to focus better.

3. Small and tiny goals promote action

According to a study conducted by Ran Kivetz, a researcher from Columbia University, people tend to work harder when they are closer to their goals.
I'm sure we're all familiar with Tim Horton's for every 10 purchases of coffee, the customer gets one for free. Have you also noticed that as you drew closer to the goal of 10 coffees, we tend to accelerate our purchase to reach the target?
Wouldn't this also help to explain why we should start with smaller goals?
When you make progress, you feel motivated to take even more action to reach the goal.

4. They build confidence and strengthen your beliefs

I bet you have heard about the success cycle. When you set a smaller goal and you make progress. The progress or the small wins are what gives you confidence and grow your beliefs that you can do it.
And when you have more confidence, you will take even more action and make even better progress.
This is why people often say, “success begets success”.
Successful people are able to create extraordinary results in life because they tend to focus on making progress.
When they make progress, they feel good. They are confident and they build the belief that their goals are possible and that they can do it.
As a result, they take more action and make more progress to become extraordinary.
Remember, extraordinary people, are ordinary people who are willing to take do the extra work. They are the masters of baby steps because they know that in order to achieve big success, they need to master the small wins.

5. Small wins develop momentum and create habits

Another important reason to start with small goals is to develop momentum and to grow the right habit.
We all know that success doesn’t happen instantaneously. It takes time to build something substantial.
And because it takes time, we can’t depend solely on our motivation to take action. We need to rely on habits.
When you focus on smaller goals, such as a daily goal of say writing 500 words, you will turn it into a habit.
It is what you do on a consistent basis that will determine the results you get in life. People don’t become successful in a day or two, they become successful over time.
This is why developing the right habits that get you the results are extremely vital to your success.
Thus, using the power of small goals drives you into taking action and making daily progress.
As you make progress and grow your habits, you will eventually develop the characteristics that you need to become more successful.

While it is true that big goals and big dreams are motivating, it is the small actions and tiny goals that we accomplish each day that gets us to those big dreams.
I believe that we all need to have big dreams and big goals, there is no doubt about it.
However, when it comes to achieving those dreams and making progress, we need to start from the ground up. Meaning, we must start small.
This is why we break our big goals into smaller actionable steps that we can act on immediately.
So how do you complete the journey of a thousand miles? Well, you begin with one step at a time. That’s how success is made.
So, now, ask yourself what is the one small, tiny step you can take right now to move forward. And do it now.



Being strong and courageous is doing what others are afraid to do. Don’t be afraid to pave your own way. Take chances and take them frequently. Darryl Easterling

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1/16/21 8:07 A

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Most days I wake up feeling like I can conquer the world and tune everything else out and focus on the wonderful. Other days, I feel like I wanna climb right back into bed, throw the covers over my head and block out the world.
Between the horrendous headlines in the news, and this pandemic which feels at times like it will never end – there are days that I hit the wall.

If you've ever had that kind of day or you’re having that kind of day today, you’re not alone. Everyone I’ve spoken to in the past while has had extreme tiredness about them. Holidays are over. Kids are going back to school, well, sort of. Here in East Central Alberta, the weather has been dreary and it feels like the second, third, or is it now the fourth wave, is taking over and things are in lockdown yet again.



It's exhausted. But mostly I’m just tired. Thinking through the potential implications of every action and decision we need to make to survive mentally, emotionally is taxing. This is why we isolate more - it’s just easier. This mental exhaustion is called “moral fatigue“ and it’s draining. It’s also the reason why we're all having trouble staying focused right now.

One thing that I find helps is to keep reminding myself that “this is temporary.” Most women don’t remember the pains of childbirth, a few years from now we won’t remember the pains of this either. Better days are ahead. The best thing to do to make each today better is to be kind to yourself, give yourself what you need: Sleep. Exercise. Time outside. Breaks from the screen. And start planning something in the future for later this year to look forward to. That will help.
And, if you need to climb into bed at 3 o’clock in the afternoon for some downtime, do it. The world is burnt out. It’s OK if there are days you feel that way too.



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Today is your day for creating opportunities for advancement, helping you feel adept and proud of yourself. Knowing that true success is in your own hands, today is the day you take steps toward it, in meeting it halfway.
As we walk toward our goals, they are being attracted to us as well. Success is a multifaceted concept that includes a clear vision and confidence as well as taking action to attain our goals. It also includes staying balanced and connected to the center of your life. Success is only one area that cannot last long when imbalance reigns. Since you are feeling successful today, you can be proud that you have met these points and possess many more as well.

Success means different things to different people. In order to attain your vision of success, you must first define it for yourself and create the vision. We can create our own version of success by following other people's examples and combining aspects we like about their journeys. One person may envision travel; another may crave the sound of people clamouring for his or her advice. As you identify what your personal picture of success looks like, you can begin making choices that will take you in that direction. By using your own ideas as your compass today, you work with the universe to create your own success.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

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Crossroads, Decisions, Decisions



In everything we do, we are plagued by decisions at every step of the way. Be it from the choice we make on what to eat, what to wear, which road to take while driving, the list is endless.

Is the energy of unpredictability find you at a crossroads today? If you do not presently have a clear vision of the next step on your path, any option seems possible. Since you may be feeling uncertain about the right choice to make regarding an important decision, you may feel that your life could change at any moment.



When we have an idea of the direction we'd like to take, we don't realize how often we come to a juncture where we must make a decision. Every moment of our lives is filled with infinite possibilities, but we may not recognize that when we have already chosen our path. There is no right choice, just as there is no wrong choice. In this place of possibility, we can actually create whatever we like just by making a choice. So today, the energy of not knowing has given you the power to create your own vision.

Mind you, it can be overwhelming to make a decision when we know our choice affects our future. But when we make a connection to our goals and our dreams, we begin to create a vision that helps us make the best choices for ourselves. Once we have that vision, we not only have a better idea about what our next step might be, but we also attract opportunities ourselves. Instead of making a decision due to fear over the right decision, make today a place of power for yourself and embrace your ability to create the life you want to live.

Be the change you want to see.



Think about it this way.

Have you ever found yourself in a position where all you have worked toward is right in front of you, but instead of a simple black and white decision you are presented with a handful of options. None clear cut. None with the reassurance of long term happiness.

You already have the tools to succeed. It’s simply a mindset.
And, making a smart decision based on where you want to be, provides more long-term growth potential. Yes, decision making that brings change is difficult at first, messy in the middle but spectacular in the end. Success is right there on the horizon.



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1/9/21 11:30 A

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How have you changed over the last 5 years?

Are you any different or are you still exactly the same?

If you haven't changed, maybe you should look into that. Because I mean, really? All of these things in the world have been going on and you're still the exact same person?

I think I am a whole lot of a different person than I used to be. Being from foolish, introvert to smarter and enthusiast version of myself.
With all the wise changes that I have inculcated, I have undoubtedly become a better version of myself. I could now make a decision for my own good. I have learned how to carry myself with pride, to walk confidently. I don't get affected by people's opinions anymore. I have changed differently toward different people. Frankly speaking, I remember when I changed. The exact day, the exact moment when things started to be different but one thing I can say for sure is that I'm not the same.

Maybe it's those war of words or lies (cover-ups) to keep things buried for so long out of compliance submission that led to this. Small incidents that finally escalating to a blowup existing of years of build-up; anger, frustration, feeling inadequate, verbally disparaged in front of others, Little waves creating disproportionately large output. The butterfly effect.

Change is not one-sided, change is not in an individual. It's a change towards someone or something. It depends on the mutual experiences with that someone or something and not only the individual. I have changed a lot in different ways towards different people and towards different things in the last 5 years based on every experience I have been through.

This question made me sit down and take an in-depth look at my life. In a funny way, I have changed and at the same time, I realize things have stayed the same. I am still the person I've always been; suave and compromising now, only when necessary, Funny and humorous.
Stubborn. Very talkative. Calm and cool. Kind and sympathetic, empathetic. Concerned and detailed. Loyal. Does work well with others. Very confident. Sensitive.
Positive Attitude. Thinking generous. Good memory. Clever and knowledgeable. Loves to look for information. Able to cheer everyone up and/or make them laugh. Able to motivate oneself and others. Understanding. Fun to be around.
Outgoing. Hyper. Bubbly personality. Secretive.

However, I have also moved along my journey path and experienced new and wonderful things on the journey. Some experiences more intense, but what I do now every day, has settled into a sweet, rewarding, nourishing routine.



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/9/2021 (11:44)
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Saying You're Fine When You're Weren't

Have you ever just said "I'm fine" when you weren't because some people wouldn't understand?

Sometimes it's not that we need them to understand, but the fact that we've explained it to them so many times already we don't wanna talk about it. What's the point? And... sometimes we can be sick of the sound of our own voices having to repeat the same thing over and over again. It just becomes redundant.



That was me all the time. Not that they wouldn't understand, but when it comes right down to it most don’t care. They're just asking out of courtesy or kindness and it doesn’t make you feel any better to say anything anyway. There's only one that I know truly listens and understands and He is my comfort and my listener every day. He's the only one that truly knows and understands me. He's always beside me. Pushing me along.
To me, taking care of others and listening to them is more important.

Most of my life!!!! I had to stay strong for others, even when I was crying into my pillow at night!!! Most people never knew this about me.

So, whatever life throws at me those famous last words "I'm fine" helps me and only me, to keep going. The alternative isn't an option 💗 How about you?


With so many words coming at us twenty-four hours a day through social media and the rapid news cycle, I'm sure you'd like to express how it's making you feel, vent your feelings, anger frustrations and fears, to express any concerns, doubts, or misgivings, with the effects this is having on you. By all means, let's talk to each other.

The Elephant In The Room

I don’t want to be the one that avoids the elephant in the room. The New Year is off and running and already we are facing challenges that followed us into the new year.
Even though we are struggling right now my hope is that we can collectively focus our energy on a future where we all are healthy, happy and thriving!
At least that is our goal, right? That has never changed.
Remember we are in this together,



COVID-19 and its aftermath.



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/9/2021 (11:37)
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The Only Way Your Life Gets Better

There are going to be days that are going to test you when you’re probably not going to feel like doing anything that requires focus or effort. That’s okay-- There are times you will feel unmotivated and be able to push yourself to do it anyway. When you learn how to keep the promises or commitments that you made to yourself, no matter what, you’re practicing “simple discipline.”

We all know how easy it would be to sit on social media all day and be upset by the things going on around you and around the world. It would be so easy to pour yourself a drink, pick up a 700g bag of your favourite potato chips, blow off everything that you wanted to work on and just watch TV. But you know, nothing in life that’s worth having comes easily.

So today, don’t give up on yourself or the commitments that you made. Push yourself to do better because that’s the only way your life gets better.
Don't use this moment to give up on the promises you've made to yourself. The most important thing that you could do when your world turns upside down, is not to give into it. Remember why you started and stay committed to it.

All change requires discipline. The best that you can do for yourself, not just today but every day going forward, no matter how you feel and no matter what's going on around you, is to find the strength and stamina to keep the promises you made to yourself.



Repeat after me: I'm too positive to be doubtful, too optimistic to be fearful, and too determined to be defeated.



Again, Repeat after me: Some days I'll be a warrior. Somedays a broken mess, most days a bit of both. But every day I'm there. Standing, Fighting, Doing my best.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/8/2021 (08:27)
TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Bringing Ourselves Back To Earth

We often hear people telling us to ground ourselves, but we may not be completely sure exactly what that means and how we go about doing it. Grounding ourselves is a way of literally bringing ourselves back to earth. Some of us are more prone than others to have the capability to essentially leave our bodies and not firmly attaching ourselves to that which is greater or more foundational as a whole. There's nothing terribly wrong with this, but while we are living on the earth plane it is best to stay grounded; well balanced and practical within the confines of our body.

One of the easiest ways to ground ourselves is to bring our attention to our breathing as we inhale and exhale. After about ten breaths, you'll probably find that you'll feel much more connected to your physical selves. We might then bring our awareness to the sensations in our bodies, moving from our head down to our feet, exploring and inquiring. Just a few minutes of this can bring us home to bodies and to the earth, and this is what it means to ground ourselves.

We can even go somewhat further by imagining that we have roots growing from the bottoms of our feet, connecting us to the earth continually moving with us so we can continuously move, while at the same time remaining grounded. We receive powerful energy from the earth just as we do from the forms of energy we associate with the sky and our bodies are the instrument that brings these two energies together in sacred union. When we are grounded, we essentially become a strong vessel in which our spirits are able to safely and productively dwell. This is why grounding ourselves every day, especially right from the beginning of the day is such a beneficial practice. Fortunately, it's as simple as bringing our conscious awareness to our bodies and the earth on which we walk.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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That's Not The Story I Got

Everyone loves a good story, right? But not everyone likes their own personal story. I wouldn’t be writing my childhood story the way it's now appearing on the page. OH NO! I would have never just played follow the leader and picked up and left with my parents and siblings to move halfway across the country for religious faith, leaving behind my best friends and the love of my life. No siree I wouldn't have! I would have left home at the age of 16 and followed my dream of being a dairy farmer's wife with my childhood sweetheart. Up at the crack of dawn to the crowing of a rooster and the lowing of Holsteins wanting to be fed and milked. But that's not the story I got.
I would have had a passel of children, a calendar overbooked with afterschool activities, and walls full of picture-framed little ones all grown up. But that’s not the story I got.
I would have had my best friends who stayed friends for life and a happy-go-lucky personality that never struggled with discouragement and anxiety. But that’s not the story I got.

I think we’ve all looked at our lives and wanted to not just edit them, but rip a few pages from the narrative. But it’s difficult to understand a story if there are missing chapters. Each chapter helps explain why we are the way we are—why I am the way I am, why you are the way you are.
As much as we'd all like to we can’t tear out a page or skip a chapter and still make sense of our story. Nor can we travel back in time and rewrite a chapter, two or three. But we can learn to embrace the story we got and to trust God to keep writing our story into his.



What’s the story you got?
Whatever it is, I’m guessing there are pages you wish you could rip out of the narrative. I’ve never met a soul who didn’t. But what I want to tell you is that the whole of it matters. Every crossed-out word. Every worn-thin erasure. Every ripped-out page. I believe that with my whole heart. You can have a better story, even with the marred pages intact. You can, however, change the ending of your story, even if it feels like you’re trapped in a chapter that has come to a dead stop. There is a way to transform the worst parts of your story into a work of art. Our biggest mistakes have the potential to become our greatest victories.
It may be hard to believe that it’s possible to use our pain for a purpose if you’re still living through a God-awful story. Don’t give up hope. I have experienced it and witnessed it in the lives of others, including my own as of late. Yes, our worst chapters can become the greatest victories. Our pain can become a portal of grace. Our ravaged pages can become a redemptive masterpiece. Many of us feel broken. Our mistakes, the pain others have caused us, and circumstances outside our control taunt us every day, though we long to turn a new page.

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Now It’s Your Turn

What are some pages that you would like to rip out of your story?
Have you seen some of your worst chapters used for the good of others or even yourself?

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We all struggle with staying focused. Some days are better than others, but there are days when we just can't seem to keep it all together...So, what does one do?
Well, first of all, a bit of education helps. Let’s start with a piece of information that many of you, I know will most likely find surprising I know I did! And that is that our mind’s normal condition is, believe it or not, disorder. Our brains are designed to notice, recognize, and attend to a variety of random sensations, perceptions, and thoughts, all of which are competing for attention; first place sort of thing and all at the same time. Our brains do this to keep us in touch with internal as well as external needs, and ultimately to keep us alive.

Have you ever noticed that this ability waxes and wanes on different days and even at different times within the same day? Some days you are able to breeze through your various tasks and demands, and on others, even the smallest set of chores seems to get pushed around and shoved in different directions, none of which lead to completion, right?

So, how do we fix or better sort and organize this chaotic confusion?

Let's first take a look at some reasons for this conflict and what influences may be accountable to a reduced ability to sustain and maintain our attention spans and concentration. Once we are better able to determine and identify the problem, we can move forward in finding a problem-solving approach to target each.

Here are the five most common reasons why our brains may experience difficulty concentrating on any given day:

1. Fatigue.

Being tired and fatigued is our concentration’s worst enemy. Research indicates that staying up even an hour later than normal significantly decreases our focusing capability. Our brains have developed to work best under very specific conditions and nothing impairs its ability to stay focused quite like being tired and fatigued. Rack up sleep deficits on a regular basis, and you’ll likely experience routine and immanent concentration problems.

2. Stress.

Pretty simple, the more tasks you need to get through, (generally) the more stress you experience. The more stressed you feel, the more difficult it is to concentrate and see any one of them to completion, thus trapping you in a vicious cycle. Anyone who has approached an oncoming deadline with an increasing list of things to accomplish between said deadline knows what I’m talking about.

3. Multitasking.

Contrary to (relatively recent) popular belief, multitasking is NOT a good thing. In our fast-paced, time-is-money world, we are continuously pushed to do more things at once and do them faster. However, scientific research has repeatedly proven that not only is this approach detrimental to the task at hand (careless errors, for example), it is also bad for your brain! It becomes accustomed to jumping from topic to topic, making it even harder for you to harness your ability to stay focused on any one thing for any prolonged period of time. In other words, too much multitasking and you are in essence teaching your brain to have a shorter and less efficient attention span and thus, even more disorder!

4. Boredom & Lack of Challenge.

This factor is quite clear when you look at a child (or adult) with ADD/ADHD, sit them down to do the same thing for the 100th time and they can’t focus. Give them a novel, interesting, and challenging project and all of a sudden they are able to focus. Going back to the point that our brains are constantly being bombarded by internal and external stimuli, it makes sense that some of them go into “auto-pilot” and that our brains conserve time and energy by paying less attention to those things which are expected routines.

5. Physical Factors.

Physical distractions cause mental distraction. This can be as obvious as not feeling well due to illness or injury, but it also plays a more subtle role. Focusing is more difficult if you have certain medical or mental health conditions, including thyroid disease, anemia, diabetes, depression, or anxiety. Again, the mind and body connection I’ve been mentioning throughout this blog plays a role.

So, now that you know some of the practical reasons why our concentration varies, we can start to take inventory of which apply to you. look at some concrete changes you can make to improve your ability to stay sharp and focused.

1. Get Enough Sleep.
Ensuring you get enough (as well as restful) sleep can be the single most important step for improving your ability to focus. The National Sleep Foundation recommends 7–9 hours a night; however, let yourself be the best judge to determine what is enough sleep for you to feel rested. But remember, even one hour less than your optimal amount can drain you as well as your brain of energy the next day.

2. Food as Fuel.
According to the American Dietetic Association, skipping breakfast and/or regular meals hurts concentration and mental performance. Jump-starting each day with a nutritious breakfast (think protein and whole grains, not processed white flour and high fructose corn syrup) and then regularly refuelling every 3–4 hours is an easy way to improve concentration (and boost your metabolism, too). Also, research from USC suggests certain vitamins may be related to improved cognitive and concentration abilities, among them, iron, magnesium and zinc. Thus, if your diet is not sufficiently varied and/or optimally healthy, consider adding a multivitamin to your daily routine. More recent research is also pointing to the vast benefits of Omega 3’s, so consider adding this to your diet as well (Omega 3 can come from fish, flax seeds, or a supplement).

3. Exercise. Research strongly suggests that regular exercise can dramatically improve concentration, mental alertness, and memory, so maintain or start a fitness routine. Even 30 minutes of daily activity helps, so don’t avoid exercising just because you don’t have hours to devote to the gym. Also, if you don’t have large chunks of time, consider spitting your activity into various smaller exercise bursts throughout the day (e.g., walk or bike to work, go for a walk during your lunch break or after dinner, etc.) as it’s the cumulative effect of exercising that is most important.

4. Minimize External Distractions. As much as possible within your daily life limit, reduce, or avoid interruptions. For example, try turning off your cell phone or shutting your office door so you can work uninterrupted for a chuck of time. Consider keeping your web browser closed during pre-determined periods and only checking your email on pre-determined intervals. You are more likely to get more things done if you work hard for 45–50 minutes with 10–15 minute breaks than if you are constantly available via phone, text, and email. In these days of currently browsing email, Facebook, and Reddit, this can be a difficult habit to break, so start by pacing yourself and “allowing” yourself to only look at those sites during your predetermined 10–15 minute break.
Remember too that external distractions are sometimes quite subtle but may still have a powerful effect on your cognitive stamina. These can take the form of noises, smells, or even visual cues. Rearrange your desk to avoid these distractors and use white sound machines or earplugs if needed.

5. Maximize Your Peaks. Most people have a particular time of day when they are at their peak. Discover yours and use it to your advantage. Although most people have diurnal rhythms (i.e., daytime peaks), some are more nocturnal. To improve concentration by scheduling projects that require full focus and mental ability during personal peak periods and use your less-than-optimal hours for more routine tasks.
6. Incorporate Time-Management Strategies. One important
nt habit to break is procrastination. By actually getting to work on a particular task you are significantly cutting down on the time spent thinking, dreading, and/or avoiding it. This all amounts to wasted energy that is better spent on the project itself. Think of it as peeling the band-aid off, the more you procrastinate and the slower it goes, the more painful it is in the long run. Also, keep a small to-do list with you (try the notebook function on your smartphone), to keep a list of the things you need to get done so you can stop thinking and obsessing about them, this too will free up cognitive energy to focus on the task at hand.

7. Intend to Concentrate. Ever lose your car in a parking lot or forget where you put your keys, wallet, or cellphone? It’s quite likely that this is NOT a sign of early Alzheimer’s, but instead a red flag of lack of attention, focus, and concentration. Remember, we have many cognitive functions running on autopilot (e.g., motor memory, breathing, talking, walking, etc.), so we can free up some cognitive “space” for those that require attention and effort. So try telling yourself to remember and to concentrate, you might be surprised how powerful this approach can be.

8. Practice 1-Minute “Selective Refocusing.” Several times daily, focus on a specific sound (or visual cues) for several seconds (e.g., a voice or the hum of the AC), then deliberately switch to another sound (e.g., outside traffic). Switch repeatedly every minute for a couple of minutes, actively focusing on the target sounds as you actively block out others. Your brain is very much like any other muscle in your body, the more you use it in a specific manner, the stronger it becomes in that regard.

9. Mindfulness. Train your brain to be self-aware, including moments when it wanders and loses focus. Practice noticing these instances and gently bring yourself back to focusing on your intended target (be it a meeting, a task, or even your breath in a meditation exercise). When your mind takes detours, close your eyes, inhale slowly and deeply and tell yourself, “Be here now.” This simple practice, borrowed from Zen Buddhism, can help you return to the moment.

10. Take a Concentration-Oriented Class. Yoga, mindfulness meditation, and other mind-body classes are among the disciplines where concentration is a built-in part of the performance. Apply the techniques you learn to other situations to improve concentration.


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When We Fall Short of Succeeding

I do not like using the word failure. It just doesn't sit right with me. Never did. However, it does put forward a very simplistic way of thinking that allows for only two possibilities: failure or success. Few things in this world are black and white, yet much of our terminology strongly suggests that is the way things are viewed. The word failure signifies an underlying theory in which all subtlety is lost. When we regard ourselves or something we have done, "failure", we lose our ability to see what actually happened which is no doubt considerably more complex. In addition, we psychologically hurt ourselves. All you have to do is speak or read the word failure to know how it makes you feel.

At some point, the words first origins may not have been so loaded with the weight of negativity, and it simply referred to something that did not go according to plan. Unfortunately, in our culture it is far to often used very negatively, such as when a person is labeled a failure, even though it is impossible for something as vast and subtle as a human being to be reduced to such a state. It also acts as a deterrent, scaring us from taking risks for fear of failure. It has somehow come to represent the worst possible outcome. Failure is a word so burdened with fearful and unconscious energy that we can all benefit from consciously examining our use of it because the language we use influences the way we think and feel.

And that's why I do not like the use of the word. I prefer, non-fulfillment, unfavourable outcomes or being on the losing end and something that didn't go according to plan.
And more importantly, the root word fail only means and stands for
First
Attempt
At
Learning

Actually, you want to celebrate the failures that show you took a leap. If someone failed to follow through on a task, you obviously won’t want to throw a party. If she gave her all in a new project and it just didn’t achieve the desired results, that’s different. Celebrating those kinds of failures will help your people learn to fail gracefully, growing from the experience.

Most importantly, stop thinking—and talking—in terms of “win/lose.” When you eliminate the shame around failure and show it’s okay to be vulnerable, people can talk about it. That means they can learn from it, finding the germ of a great idea within it. Simply put, it's just time to re-focus re-set, re-adjust, re-start...as many times as you need to.

So, the next time you feel like a "failure" or fear "failure", know that you are under the influence of an outworn, out of date, obsolete way of perceiving yourself. When the word "failure" comes up, it's actually a call for us to apply a more enlightened consciousness to the situation at hand. When you are consciously aware of the word and its baggage that comes with it, there is a greater possibility that you will not fall victim to its darkness. In your own use of language, you may choose to stop using the word "failure" altogether. This might encourage you to express more clearly the truth of the situation, opening your mind to subtleties and possibilities the word "failure" would otherwise never allowed.




Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/5/2021 (10:31)
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From Goals to Action.

When it comes to making goals for the new year ahead, we should actually focus on smaller daily actions that bring us closer to our goals.
We don't want radical lifestyle transformations that started on January 2nd and abruptly end on January 7th because they were to overwhelming and unrealistic.
Don’t worry, I know, we’ve all been there and done that. Small is manageable and realistic. It creates consistency (daily practice), which leads to long-term sustainable changes.
Plus, most of us want to keep up the changes long after January 2021 and hopefully build on those changes as we continue to improve our health.
This long term approach may be slower, but it will ensure that the new changes, skills, and practices we are developing will stick and sustain themselves.
And the longer we are engaged with consistency, the more competent and confident we become.

A simple strategy for goal setting: Start small. Why?
Our brains are continually watching and judging us, gathering information to reinforce a narrative about who we are and how we behave in the world. When you decide to show up and behave differently (as the new future version of you - the one you are trying to create), your brain is creating a new narrative.
This is how change begins. But how do we reinforce the new identity we want to build?
We master the habit of showing up by downscaling our goals. This may seem like counterintuitive advice: downscale.
But hear us out.
Many of us don't know how to get from where we are now to the future version of ourselves - the one that prioritizes healthy behaviours that bring us closer to our goals.
We often shoot for the moon with big life-changing goals, but we don't know how to achieve them. We "miss" and our brains reinforce our old stories about who we are and how we behave. And likely, negative self-talk follows: "I'm a failure" or "I just don't have enough willpower."
Perhaps you're familiar with this?
Well, this is simply not true. You are NOT a failure, and willpower is not the answer.
Master the habit of showing up every day by exposing yourself to change in little chunks.

Here is one process that works:

1 Come up with three habit-shaping goals to create a ritual for your desired behavior. The ritual is simply the habit you're trying to create but broken up into three smaller behavior goals.

2 Order them from easiest to hardest.

3 Do the easy thing first and do it consistently. The key is consistency. Get your reps in. Break your goals up into little chunks and expose yourself to that little chunk every single day.
This is how change starts in the brain. You can't improve a habit that doesn't exist yet.
Start small enough that you don't miss at all.

So let’s talk about sustainable action plans to support those goals.
Here’s what’s required:
Pick a goal. Any goal.
Brainstorm what skills are needed to achieve that goal. Goals are meant to build skills!
Break those skills down into smaller daily actions or practices.
The Importance of Time management:
Set aside time for your new daily practice. Remember to focus on one action that can be done reliably every single day, no matter what.

Create a support system (friends, family, health coaches, etc.)
Identify meaningful metrics for tracking and measuring progress (such as SHMEC - sleep, hunger, mood, energy, cravings; weight, and body measurements). Consider what’s important to YOU to track.
Now, are we seriously ready to tackle 2021!

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Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/3/2021 (19:59)
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It’s a Friday. You had a productive morning. You got up early to exercise, made a protein shake, ignored the box of doughnuts at the office, and crushed your to-do list.
You’re feeling pretty pleased.
Then, lunchtime rolls around, and a colleague invites you out for pizza at your favourite location. On the one hand, you packed a super-nutritious lunch. After all, you are on a health kick to lose weight. On the other hand, the old you is thinking PIZZAAAAAA! And you like hanging with your friend.
You opt for pizza and friends (naturally emoticon ) and before you know it, your mind automatically registers, "This choice is going to completely derail you for the entire weekend."
You think to yourself, “What’s the point of eating healthy and exercising if I’m just going to eat pizza?”

Come Saturday morning you firmly think, "NO I'm not going to let yesterday's choice derail me. I'm going to go right back on my program." Bravo! This is the right thing to do.

But then, you stand glaring into the fridge… And the thought of choking down another protein shake is just too much…and makes you want to gag,

And all your mind can do is scream “SCREW IT!… I QUIT…”

You stifle a sob… Surrender to your craving… Reach for the milk… and grab the box of Frosted Flakes. Without a word, your husband just fetches you each a bowl and spoon…He knows the drill……another defeat in a war you were slowly but surely losing…
His look says it all... what you're feeling like…The guilty, the exhaustion, the frustration, depressed and so darn hungry…
You're just so sick to death of the diets, the workouts, the calorie counting…
Tired of the cravings and hunger…And with nothing to show for it!

And the most frustrating thing is... for the most part…You eat healthily…You exercise together…And you’ve tried all the diets…Low-carb, low-fat, the calorie counting…

Reaching down, you grab the roll around your belly and look back at the cereal bowl…

It's all you can do not to scream or sob uncontrollably…

You've been locked in a hopeless battle with creeping belly fat for years…spent THOUSANDS of dollars you couldn’t afford on your combined salaries and nothing's worked…

No matter how hard you've tried, no matter how much money was wasted, no matter how many nutritionists and specialists you've seen…Unexplainably — you just kept getting a tiny bit fatter every month. Year after year…

Does this sound familiar?

I'm pretty certain it almost goes without saying that every one of us has been there.

It can often feel like we have to do the “healthy thing” or “ it's nothing at all.”
We feel like the healthy choice is taking away from something else we value, such as the foods we enjoy and going out with friends. What if there’s a wedge between the two? A choice that sits somewhere between “all” or “nothing”?
Embrace the middle ground by integrating your two choices and making a better choice. Not the best choice or the worst choice. Just better.
Here’s how.
Consider the absolute worst choice and the absolute best choice you can make in a similar situation. Give both a score from 1-10 (1 being the worst choice and 10 being the best choice). On that continuum from 1-10, think about a choice that lands somewhere in the middle of your two scores.
What does that look like? What would be a slightly better choice?
If eating the lunch you packed is the BEST choice, and going out for pizza is the WORST choice, then a slightly better choice could integrate a bit of both - pizza and salad. You eat some of your salad and join your friend for a slice of pizza (vs. two, three slices or half the whole pie).
You feel satisfyingly full and pleased with yourself.
Win-win, right?
By embracing the middle ground, we can find ways to juggle our values, especially if these values are seemingly in conflict with one another.

The wagon mentality and deprivation dieting go hand-in-hand. "I fell off the wagon" basically translates into, I blew it so I might as well eat anything I want now. It invites cheating and binging. The nutritarian eating-style is not a diet to go on and off on a whim. Instead, it's an ongoing endeavour of flooding the body's cells with a comprehensive array of nutrients to fight disease and feel great for the rest of MY life. A well-nourished body will no longer crave toxic junk foods or be driven to overeat uncontrollably. Although a slip up may happen from time to time, the key to success is getting back up as quickly as possible and not dwelling on the mistake.

Yes, hard times happen. When life is turned upside-down, it will take everything within to muster up the strength to keep going in the direction of health. But even if some days are like wading through quicksand, and it is a challenge to continue on, stay committed to making wise food choices as best as one can possibly manage. It may be only baby steps, but keep moving forward. There is never a valid excuse to throw in the towel and quit, especially during a season of crisis or great loss when one's body needs optimal nutrition the most to survive the extra demands put on it. The sun will shine again and happiness will return as one continues to stay the course. As Dr. Fuhrman states, "It will take strength. It will take effort. But the pleasures and rewards that you'll get from a healthy lifestyle will be priceless."
Don't start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Every morning you wake up is the first day of the rest of your life.
If there's one thing I've learned is that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

Meet YOUR personal enemy toe to toe eye to eye and slay him!

What's the biggest challenge you're facing right now?
What's the one thing you want to work on today?
Who do you want to be today?
What have you tried already?
Is there something else you could try? Something you've overlooked?
Of the ones you just mentally listed, which one do you think would be the better?
Do you see any obstacles in trying this option?
What's your first step going to be?

And promise me that when your head hit's the pillow tonight remind yourself that you've done a good job. You are headed down your path to the healthiest you, you can be at your own pace and with every obstacle, you are trying your utmost best.
Be patient with yourself and remember those big things are achieved not all at once, but one day at a time.

Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient and the best things come to those who didn't give up.

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day, to live well. I SHAPE ME!

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/3/2021 (19:06)
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"I may be slightly broken,
a little bruised and even permanently scarred.
But I still wake up every day with a tremendous will to fight.
I am a strong woman who refuses to be defeated."
So,


You kicked my butt and yet here I am, still standing.
Thank you, for all the doors you slammed shut. Thank you for all the endings you forced. And, thank you for everything that I lost.
Thank you for the grief, the sorrow and the fear. Thank you for showing me that I can’t outrun or outwork my issues, to heal I must slow down and be still.
Thank you for reminding me of what is truly important. For the time I got to spend with my husband. That is a gift I will cherish for the rest of my life. Thank you for the friendships that were fortified and the simple joys in life that I had taken for granted. It is wonderful to feel so connected to the people I love most.
Thank you for forcing me to slow down, stop moving and learn how to just be still. To be with me. To be bored. To be with discomfort. To just be.
Thank you for the painful and unpleasant experiences that triggered trauma but unlocked my power. I needed something nuclear to wake me up and 2020, you delivered. You led me on a healing journey that included reengaging in daily mediation practice, getting into serious therapy, and guided surreal experiences. I still have work to do, but I have never felt more grounded and free in my body than I do today. My marriage is stronger and richer because of it. My nervous system is smoother and calm it feels both foreign and beautiful.
Thank you, 2020. You sparked the greatest period of personal change of my lifetime.
Thank you, 2020. I am a stronger, wiser, more joyful and fulfilled human being because of you, and for that, I am forever grateful.


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Welcome To The Cutting Room Floor

Did you know that our lives can be compared to an endless automated movie script over which we have complete creative control? Yes, indeed we do. That's because within us lies the power to evaluate what works or isn't working in our lives and make "edits" accordingly. Choosing to actively edit our lives is also incredibly empowering. As we evolve, we have the choice to accept the script we've written so far or edit it, leaving it on the "cutting room floor". Cutting out what is no longer working for you creates a much more fulfilling life. Acknowledging that you are responsible for the experience you create also gives you the ability to create the life you've always longed for.



Granted, editing your real life isn't always as easy as erasing a line from a movie script. If you've carried emotional baggage for a long time, these may be somewhat more difficult to edit out. But when you can eventually cut out what isn't working in your life, you'll feel lighter, more carefree and more alive. Editing out activities that we find stressful, disassociating ourselves from people that drain our energy, and letting go of that emotional baggage are all beneficial cuts you can and should make. In the empty spaces that are left behind, you can replace and fill them with anything you like. Just as you have the power to edit out negative situations or beliefs that you no longer wish to have as part of your life, you can now include the kinds of positive experiences, people, and beliefs that you would like to fill your life with. The manifestation of these thoughts and images as realities will inevitably follow. As you make changes, you can also add in the bits where you choose more intimate, healthier relationships, seek out adventure over monotony, and are no longer negatively impacted by old experiences.

To begin editing your life, simply think about your positive and negative experiences. When you determine what parts of your life are no longer serving you, make the commitment to edit them out -- though, it is important to remember that there is no exact timing or way to do this, and patience and compassion are always important during these life-changing proceedings. Then, ask yourself what has brought you profound joy and consider how you can now make those experiences and beliefs a part of your life. With a little editing, you'll be able to clear out what is no longer serving you and make room for more happiness, love, and wisdom.

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

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Live your life as if your glass is half-full rather than half-empty, all you need is a change of thought.

We are all familiar with the symbolic narrative of two people looking at the same glass and one adjudging it as half-full while the other perceives it as half-empty. As many times as we've heard this, it's still a valuable lesson in really observing our minds and noticing whether we are engaged in half-full or half-empty reasoning. People will refer to themselves as being of one type or the other as if it was an irreversible trait, but we are all capable of shifting into a half-full consciousness if we simply exert the energy in making the effort.

When we perceive our lives with half-empty consciousness, we become more aware that we lack and think that the other half of what we want is missing. We are coming from a position of expectation and entitlement. On the other hand, when we look at our lives as half-full we perceive fullness. It is as if we recognize that our cup could be fully empty and so we are grateful for what we see as bounty -- not something we expect or believe we have coming to us, but a gift. In half-full consciousness, we count our blessings. When we look at our lives we see all the fundamentals that are in place and all the things we do have. This doesn't necessarily mean we don't seek more, but we seek from a place of fullness instead of from a place of emptiness. This fullness draws positive energy into our lives and often attracts more abundance.

To begin making the shift into half-full consciousness, first, imagine your life as an empty glass. This is your life without all the people you know, the work you do, your home, or your current state of health and welfare. This is just an empty, open space waiting to be filled. Once you have that feeling of openness as your present mindset, begin filling it with all the people, things, and places that make up your life. You may be amazed to find that your glass is actually overflowing.

Which is your glass?


Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/30/2020 (10:38)
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We all know what it's like to finally get results we've been working so hard to achieve. Even if it's the smallest of successes toward that ultimate goal. At the initial moment, we are riding on that high. We're absolutely elated with the showing of the new number on the scales, our clothing fits better, we're more mobile and gaining strength, "YES!" All confident builders, pushing us to keep going forward with enthusiasm, right?



But, then days go by, days turn into weeks and the progress has slowed, may even have come to a screeching halt. So, you start taking account; you KNOW you've done everything you know to be doing, following your chosen lifestyle changes without deviating, exercising three times a week, getting in your steps, and yet you've had absolutely no progress. It's then that the frustration, aggravation and discouragement take over.

All of us deal with discouragement in one form or another, throughout our lives waging a war against our minds.
It's affects causing us to lose the desire and motivation to continue doing something that brings purpose and satisfaction to one’s life and no matter how much we achieve and the amount of progress we make, it always tries to infiltrate our defences sucking the energy out of a person. Instead of working hard, it makes us want to lay around, throw in the towel and give up.

Most of the time our discouragement comes from our own thinking. We think ourselves into a rut of defeat. Discouragement says “why should I bother” and depending on our level of discouragement we listen to it and give up, at least for a while. Discouragement makes the hard path—much harder, and the heavy load—much heavier to rebound from it.

While some people can immediately brush themselves off, others can enter a negative cycle of thoughts that persists for weeks, months or even years. How you handle discouragement affects your ability to take new risks and making changes that could have huge benefits. Remember, the root word of discouragement is COURAGE so it should only make sense that the feelings associated with discouragement often try to deal a blow to your inner source of courage.

I Know What You're Thinking. I've been there too. Many times.

It starts with the intrusive thoughts in our heads saying;
"What's the use. Even when I do what is necessary and do it right to the letter, I don't lose anything. It's been weeks and I have nothing to show for it."
What you’re trying to do is impossible.
There is no shame in quitting.

But none of those is true. When confronted with these thoughts, we often don’t know what to do—because many people don’t even realize there are things you can do to actively combat discouragement.
In the absence of alternatives, we freeze up. Progress halts. We accept that whatever it was we were working toward simply wasn’t meant to be.
Fortunately, there are alternatives—specific defences you can create in your life that will fend off discouragement when it strikes.

“Never say that you can't do something, or that something seems impossible, or that something can't be done, no matter how discouraging or harrowing it may be; human beings are limited only by what we allow ourselves to be limited by our own minds. We are each the masters of our own reality; when we become self-aware to this: absolutely anything in the world is possible.

Master yourself, and become king of the world around you. Let no odds, chastisement, exile, doubt, fear, or ANY mental virii prevent you from accomplishing your dreams. Never be a victim of life; be its' conqueror.”
Mike Norton

“Discouragement is the illegitimate child of false expectations! Loyd Ogilive”

“Don’t you dare become disheartened! Don’t you dare believe that nonfulfillment is permanent or insurmountable!”

“In your weakness be strong. In your moment of struggles be optimistic. In your moment of distractions be focused. In your moment of discouragement be encouraged.”
Olawale Daniel

It’s easy to feel down after a stretch of success and a lengthy period of inactivity. But scolding yourself won’t help you much going forward. Instead, treat the "setback" as a chance to review and gather intel: What are some factors that may be the cause? Was it stress from nonstop news consumption; COVID? Too little structure in your days? Too much structure—e.g., did you snap after eating the same boring lunch salad three days in a row?

If you don’t prune unproductive branches off a fruit-bearing tree, you can’t expect much of a harvest. The same goes for you and me.
We must actively take a time out; distance ourselves from negativity. In this case your intrusive thoughts. If we don’t, we limit the amount of fruit we can bear. In other words, we stunt our own growth.
Your dreams, visions, and opportunities always require us to become more than we currently are. In short, you must grow to achieve them.



So, whatever learnings you uncover, skip the self-blame and use your insights to make healthy eating easier for “future you.” Focusing on a desired future state is more of help toward increasing motivation and commitment to a goal.

If you're thinking, "Everything is out of control right now," try, "I am in control of my choices today."
If you're thinking, "My gym is closed—I’m bummed I can’t work out," try, "Until I can return to the gym, I'll take a walk every day instead."

I know, life feels uncertain with what we at this time consider the “new normal” but, centring our thoughts help restore a sense of intervention; to feel more in control when we’re zoned in on what’s in front of us right now.

I hope we can all find time this week to get really, really quiet. To just curl up in your favourite big comfy chair and watch a movie, even if it's one you've seen a million times before. Wrap yourself up in your favourite fuzzy blanket and read that book you've been meaning to start for weeks now. To stand outside and marvel at the stars on a clear night.

I hope you find the time this week to sit silently in front of your life and contemplate how magical it really is before we turn the page and greet a new year.

It's you v.s you. Make sure you win!



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/29/2020 (16:15)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Before we slam the door on 2020, I want you to stop and think about everything this year has taught you. I’m willing to bet that even if this past year was one of the hardest years of your life, it was also the most important. The lessons we’ve learned, the challenges we've faced, the struggles we’ve overcome-- they made us who we are today. And they will continue to shape who we are in 2021.

Since personal growth and transformation is most often a slow and gradual process, it can be difficult to recognize the extent of the changes taking place within ourselves. Yet it is important that we regularly acknowledge our ongoing growth and reward ourselves for the many wonderful feats of self-improvement we have accomplished.

When we intentionally think about our progress, we need never feel that we are languishing between past achievements and the consciousness of future goals. If we look closely at our lives, we may see that much of what brings us pleasure in the present is characteristic of the ambitions of our past that we worked so hard to achieve. At one time, the plentifulness of the good things we now enjoy likely seemed like a far-off dream. Now it is simply reality -- a reality we created through our diligence, passion, and tireless determination. Whether our progress is speedy or slow-moving, we do deserve to commend and praise ourselves for our successes.

To remind yourself of the insights you have gained with time, temporarily adopt an outsider's perspective and carefully consider how your life in the present differs from the range of experiences you lived through in the past. Taking the time to make a written list of those strengths, aptitudes, and inner qualities you now attribute to yourself can help you accept that you are not the same person you were one year ago, five years ago, or even a month ago. Your attitudes, opinions, and values were likely markedly different, and these differences can be accredited to your willingness to accept that you still have much to learn. If you have difficulty giving yourself credit for these changes, think about the goals you've realized, the lives you touched, the wisdom you acquired, and the level of enlightenment you attained over the past weeks, months or years.

Recognizing and acknowledging one's growth is neither boastful nor immodest. Unfolding transformation is a natural fact of life and becomes a potent motivational force when celebrated. Knowing that you are more astute, stronger, and more grounded than you once were, you can look forward to the changes to come. In acknowledging your growth, you build a sturdy foundation upon which you can continue to blossom well into the future.

Going forward you may feel quite confident that your own inner wisdom will help you accomplish future goals. Even if others attempt to direct you in your choices, your first impulse will likely be to go with your gut instincts when at a personal or professional crossroads. The positive consequences of your decisions can further reinforce your assurance of your capabilities, making you feel intelligent and confident. You may find that you are inspired to extend yourself beyond the limits of your comfort zone because you trust that your endeavours will be met with success. However you choose to make use of your newly developed self-belief, you can rest assured that you are no doubt as talented and skillful as you know yourself to be.

When we recognize our own complexity, we come to realize that we are capable of much more than we tend to give ourselves credit for. Years of experience have contributed to our development, and we have retained a wealth of wisdom derived from the triumphs and travails that have marked our passage through life's journey. To learn self-trust, we need only acknowledge that the depth of our intellect and emotional maturity is sufficient to allow us to make thoughtful and caring choices in the various spheres of our lives. Worry can find no purchase in our hearts and minds as we instinctively know that we are equipped to steer ourselves toward those paths with the potential to enrich our lives. Your willingness to recognize your innate wisdom will ensure that you can make decisions with confidence.

We are about to open a new book, its pages blank.
We are going to fill it up with inspiring words and positive messages.
The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is A New Day. Fill it with renewed hope, new opportunities, new ways to give and love yourself.
May this coming year be your best ever!

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THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/24/20 8:18 A

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It is hard to deny that the world we live in is broken. Terribly broken. We are constantly bombarded with news of the senseless illegal breach, violations and infractions of the law, crimes against humanity, purposely committed to causes human suffering, death on a large scale.

This world of ours isn’t fixed; we can’t predict the future, we don’t know what’s going to happen, and there’s definitely not a crystal-clear path for any of us. We’re in an evolving situation with change happening faster and often. We are dealing with a massive rate of change.

We’re living in an unprecedented time as we travel on our desired course of choice in trying to find our way through the life-threatening and economy-shaking struggles we’re facing because of the COVID-19 pandemic. In the past, we’ve seen catastrophic diseases, disasters, and wars impact various countries, but this is different. At this time, the entire world is being impacted: in trying to survive this life-threatening virus.

The world as we know it in 2020 is darker than ever. We cover it up with things to distract ourselves from the terrible existence of what we know is actually happening around us. Perhaps, it’s a defence mechanism or perhaps we’re just choosing to turn a blind eye and live in ignorance. We know that what is happening here at home and abroad is now more a reality than ever before. This doesn’t mean that we should become completely unplugged and simply give in and accept terrorism, murder, racism, sexism, poverty, human rights violations and all the other problematic conditions our world is in. We may live in a broken world, but we do not have to live broken lives. We still live in hope in this broken world of ours. Holding to the faith that someday and praying that it will soon be over and we will return to some kind of semblance of normalcy.

We're Living In A Broken World (song)

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Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/24/2020 (08:29)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/23/20 10:23 A

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In our world, there is always someone in need of our best efforts to rally a group of helpers and healers.

Combined collaboration should seem simple enough, yes?: working together toward a common goal for the benefit of everyone involved. But, amazingly, believe it or not, it can be quite challenging, even when we have so many successful instances all around us. Human society is based upon the concept of cooperation, but finding a balance to ensure the good of all members is difficult. In nature, symbiotic relationships form between unlikely allies: a bee and a flower, a bird and a rhinoceros, small fish and sharks. Yet nature also shows us instances of constant competition in which only the strongest survive. Given the choice, it seems most people would choose the more tranquil path. Intellectually, we do know from past experience that together we can create something greater than what one could do alone, but cooperation still seems to be one of the greatest challenges people face. We don't always agree on how goals can be reached. Our priorities may be different, or our methods, but in the end, cooperation offers the best chance for success.

So how can we learn to cooperate with each other? We can gain greater perspective by taking into consideration and understanding one another's point of view, perhaps even putting ourselves in their place. A little empathy goes a long way. We can search for things we have in common as well as differences, looking for the good in different approaches. There is always more than one way of doing things, and some approaches are better suited for certain situations than others. All this is easier when we let go of the necessity to be right and to call others wrong. More importantly, we must believe that there is a solution that benefits all involved, not just being one-sided.

The results of cooperation can be as simple as changing mindset and hearts or policies that affect the future.



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/23/2020 (10:23)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/22/20 11:10 A

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Physician Heal Thyself




It’s hard to admit that we’re not okay. Each day is a learning experience filled with emotions, and things ready to throw us off our course. Asking for help isn’t always that easy, but

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Our lives are pretty difficult right now. There are a ton of different scenarios that exist in the world. We've all been exposed and for some if not most of us it has brought us down emotionally, financially.

Sometimes it's probably even felt like we are being crushed, so much so, that we've begun to be affected emotionally, mentally, and some may even imagine that death is the best solution.

We must NEVER lose hope.

There are things that have taken place that is horrifying and makes one wonder how we are even capable of such terrible acts.

Even so, we cannot allow the goodness that exists in you and me to fold. You cannot allow the goodness that exists in this world to go unnoticed and be forgotten.

You see, right now, we are seeing something terribly wrong and are experiencing something appalling, we have to give it all our power and strength in making it better. To find the solution. It exists because you and I exist.

We are stronger than we imagine. Much, much stronger and wiser than we even realize.

We need to refrain from taking that darker path because I promise you, there will always come a brighter day. Always. It may not be today, may not even be tomorrow, but it will come. When we take a stand and stick with it long enough, the helplessness we presently feel will turn to hope, courage, love, positivity and eventually happiness.

There are too many people falling victim to their anxieties and becoming depressed when it doesn’t have to be this way. We must continue to lift each other up.

We cannot help but despise and abhor those that brought this on. What needs to happen is that we need to stop loathing one another. To stop feeling revulsion to the different religions, races, genders, politics…haven’t we all had enough of this anger in our streets?

I believe it’s time for a change. Change that will bring us back to the soulful human beings we all are. Change that will remind us to respect one another. Change that will make one another’s lives better.

We are all after all one great worldwide body called human, are we not?

We do not always have to agree with each other, but we must never lose our integrity, class and simple kindness.

It’s in our power.

If you know someone in need, do something to help them, encourage them, try to make them smile…give them warmth, connection…have a conversation. Sometimes that’s all any of us need, right?

When we finally overcome our current state of this affliction, be sure to pass this message on to someone else because together we are invincible.

Thank you for hearing me out. Let’s make a positive difference to this world while we’re in it. Yes?



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THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/19/20 3:24 P

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Hello dear people,

We should always remain optimistic about what the future could bring today. This gives us a greater sense of hope. If we can recognize that a large part of our thoughts about today can help us manifest our destiny tomorrow, we may find it even easier to remain upbeat about what the future holds.
Perhaps today we might imagine our ideal life. Picture with me what you want your future to be, where and how you would live and what you feel is the most fulfilling. Try not to leave out any detail. As we let these images unfold, we might notice the thoughts we have about the future, such as whether they are positive or negative. Should you have any self-defeating ideas. Try changing them to reflect a more optimistic outlook. Envision your future in this way. You may just find that this will instill in you an even greater sense of hope and trust in yourself.

Our future can always be partially created through what is now our present life. When we look upon our lives with a sense of hope, we fuel our determination to construct our lives. Even though unexpected events may throw us off course, seeing that we have the power to design our lives gives us the strength and will to follow our vision. For true hope is rooted in being confident and positive about what we are able to achieve. By cultivating an affirmative and clear view of your future today, your hope and assurance will lay the foundation for eventually reaching your dreams.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Mountains Do Not Rise Without Earthquakes

One day, it just clicks and you realize what's important and what isn't. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you've come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that you would never recover. And you smile. You smile because mountains do not rise without earthquakes you are truly proud of the person who has come through dark waters to be that majestic mountain you are fighting to become.



The wonderful thing about transformation is it’s kind of like birth, a re-birthing that happens on many levels of change, with varying stages of intensity, at many different times throughout our lifetimes causing hardships that send our emotions and way of thinking to the very edge.

We are living through an earthquake of unknown proportions. Will our Democracy be strong enough to conquer the darkness? Will it be the mountain to rise through this earthquake? I gather all the energy within and without and join it with yours to make it so. Onward!
We WILL overcome and rise up. When we do, we will become a new version of ourselves. We will experience the added joy that was not possible before.
You and I are strong because we are overcomers. We are joyous to the depths of our soul because we have been through the depths of adversities.
Have you ever heard a simple, tune with only a melodic line? That is what I think we are when we are first born on this earth. We are a simple, delicate melody.
We will no longer be a simple, sweet tune. We'll have new notes – a starting point that gives us depth and beauty to our very centre. We will now be a symphony with a powerful and beautiful song that moves the earth as we walkabout.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/18/2020 (16:20)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Trying to maintain control in this life is presently like that of trying to maintain control of a roller coaster. The ride has its own logic and is going to go its own way, regardless of how tightly you grip the bar. only, there is no thrill and a power in simply surrendering to the ride and fully feeling the ups and downs of it, letting the curves take you rather than fighting them. When you fight the ride, resisting what's happening at every turn, your whole becoming tense and anxiety is your close companion. When you go with the ride, accepting what you cannot control, the diminished anxiety and fear will inevitably take hold.

As with so many seemingly simple things in life, it is not always easy to let go, even of the things we know we can't control. Most of us feel great discomfort with the givens of this life, one of which is the fact that much of the time we have no control over what happens. Sometimes this awareness comes only when we have a stark encounter with this fact, and all our attempts to be in control are revealed to be unnecessary burdens. We can also cultivate this awareness in ourselves gently, by simply surrendering to the daily practices that we have been given to get through this and come out the other side with our mental and emotional beings intact.

We could give in to our fear and anxiety, or we can yield to this great conundrum and deal with it with courage and the power to endure and overcome. When we see people on a roller coaster, we see that there are those with their faces tight with fear and then there are those that smile broadly, with their hands in the air, carried through the ride on a wave of freedom and joy. This powerful image reminds us that often the only control we have is choosing how we are going to respond to the ride.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/16/20 9:07 A

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Upon Reflection



Reflecting back on diary entries, you may find are just the help you needed.

A diary plays many roles. It can be a confidant, a mode of self-expression, a tool that opens the door to the clarity of thought, or a store-house of dreams. A diary can also be a powerful source of comfort during challenging or traumatic times.
When you record those insights and incidents that clearly indicate that you are on the right track, you can return to your previous entries weeks, or months later and find uniquely soothing reassurances. A diary with a specific purpose is a good tool for recording experiences before the passage of time can skew your perception of events inaccurately. It reflects the quality of bringing one in direct and instant reinvolvement of your life and thus provides you with a beacon to return to when you begin to doubt yourself. If doubt does arise, simply open your diary to reaffirm your experiences. The confidence, surety, passion, and bravery you felt in that single moment, giving you the means to recapture those feelings in any place, at any time.

Your diary serves as a beacon of personalized encouragement. Since a diary is, by its very nature, as individual and personal as you are, you should give some thought to the type of diary that will serve you best. A synchronicity-and-connections diary might describe those instances where seemingly random occurrences came together in a meaningful way, propelling you forward. Or you may find strength in the pages of a pride diary that makes note not only of those times you felt proud of yourself but also precisely why. And a cause-and-effect diary can help you become more decisive by reminding you of all the wise, life-affirming choices you have made. Your diary should be readily available, on hand whenever possible because the faster you put your thoughts down on paper, the more authentic your declarations are apt to be.

Regardless of the focused diary, you decide on, your recollections will create positive feedback that will help cope with any doubts brought on by life's ups and downs in a beneficial purpose. Reading through your previous writings when life seems uncertain will help show that your misgivings are unfounded. As you draw consolation upon reflection, you will know without a doubt that you are indeed living your life's purpose and following the path that you committed to.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/11/20 10:11 A

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Oh, that dash darn inevitable change. It happens for all of us. Some welcome change while others abhor it, shudder at it. And, of course, there are different levels of change. Be it large-scale or small, be it life-altering; COVID-19 or adjusting to a minor detour. Just thinking about the possibility of change gives some people the chills. No matter what, change makes us all feel stressed and a great deal uncomfortable.

However, we slice it or dice it we cannot avoid it. How many of us have found that the more we resist change the tougher our lives become or we encounter negative consequences? Some even severe.
John F Kennedy quoted a Law of Life. We are surrounded by change and it is the one thing that has the most dramatic impact on our lives. There is no avoiding change as it will find you, challenge you and force you to reconsider how to live your life.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be a reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” —Lao Tzu

Our resilience in life can only grow stronger when we embrace change and manage these challenges in a positive way, rather than hide away and ignore the opportunities that change can bring to our lives.

There is no escaping the impact that change can bring into your life. Managing change in life is key to living a life where you are not only surviving but thriving as well.

We all would much rather live our lives in our comfort zone. Our subconscious prefers this because it is what we know. Embracing change means stepping into the unknown and out of our comfort zone. Our subconscious does not like the “unknown.” so it resists.

Our fear and self-limiting opinions and convictions kick into action when faced with any amount of disruptive consequences to change. There is no escaping the fact that change is a disruptor and it feels uncomfortable and frightening. However, it is our power of choice that enables us to activate positive change in our lives.

The more we use our power of choice, the more we focus our mindset on the positive in adapting to change, the more resilient we will be in dealing with its impact that change brings.

Knowing what is most important in our lives gives us purpose and sets what direction we want to taking in living our lives. With a sense of purpose and meaning in life, we have clarity and focus and both these are essential elements in being able to successfully adapt and manage the impact of change.

Having no purpose or meaning means that we tend to drift in life within the confines of our comfort zone. Purpose and meaning in life give us the courage to step out of our comfort zones – which is where we will find change and the opportunities offered to us.

Another is letting go of regrets for they have a huge impact on how we respond to change. Not letting go holds us back. Letting go of our regrets is key to being able to continually move forward.

We cannot change what has been done nor can we change hindsight; what we did not do. Let it go. The only control we have now is to choose to live in the present and prepare the best we can for future life.

Change doesn't have to be difficult.
Living a balanced and healthy active life builds our resilience and ability to successfully manage the disruption that change can have on our lives.

Stress is a normal response to dealing with changes and challenges in daily life. In the short term, stress can help you perform better under pressure, but constant stress can pose problems for your health.

Finding positive ways to deal with the stress and pressure that we face daily is key to our survival on both a physical and emotional level.

Some healthy lifestyle actions you can use to successfully manage change and disruption in your life are:

Eat a healthy diet.
Exercise regularly.
Reduce caffeine and sugar.
Avoid cigarettes, alcohol and other drugs.
Get enough sleep.
Practice mediation regularly
Take time out and disconnect from technology
Learn how to relax and have fun
Connect with others. Spend time with people who have a positive impact on your life.
There are many more things you can do to live a healthy balanced life. The key is that you commit to activities that enable you to be resilient, optimistic, physically and mentally fit in order to successfully work through the impact that change brings with it.

Final Thoughts

We all desire to live successful, happy long lives. To achieve what we all desire we need to be proactive about how we manage the changes we face.

Denial and resisting change will only result in you living a dismal, dreary life. This is why it is so important to learn how to be adaptable, resilient and bold because these things are key to successfully adapting to the constant impact that change will always have.



How do you adapt to change? How are you adapting to the present changes that are happening on a global scale?

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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12/9/20 8:51 A

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Well, my day started at 5:15 am so a bit late but I am learning how to rest and listen to my body. I used to push and push and ended up paying for it. Less is more they say, so I work out now 3 days a week. I also do other types of movement including a step climber and walking every day as well.
Proud of myself for making better choices - small changes add up!

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

You are unique. Don't let anyone tell you differently. There is no one else like you anywhere in the world. Your unique self has special qualities that make you the person that you are. One way to do this is to not compare yourself with other people.

It is human nature, however, to want to see how we measure up in comparison to others -- especially if we think that they are better than us or have more of something that we want. Yet the truth is, we should never compare ourselves with others because we are incomparable.
Even when there are times that we feel deficient in comparison to other people rather than taking responsibility for our own progress in relation to the fulfillment of our life's purpose. It actually takes more courage to look at ourselves as to whether we are measuring up to our own standards and meeting our full potential.
Each one of us has very special gifts, and we are here for a very specific reason. We each have a life purpose to fulfill and with this comes the lessons that we must learn and the circumstances that we must go through in order to evolve as spiritual beings. To compare our lives to other people's lives when we have no idea of what they are here to learn or fulfill doesn't benefit anyone -- especially you.

Instead, if we can accept ourselves, appreciate the special talents and qualities that we alone possess and realize that each of us is going through certain kinds of experiences for a reason, we are less likely to focus so much on what other people have or are doing. Realizing and valuing our own uniqueness enables us to bring out the best in ourselves so we can get on with living rather than preoccupying ourselves with meaningless comparisons. Try to not compare yourself to others, and you will see how much you have and how special you are.
Stop comparing where you are with where everyone else is. It does not move you forward, improve your situation, or help you find that peace we all search for. The only thing it does do is feeds our shame, fuels our feels of inadequacy, ultimately, it keeps us in a stalemate. The reality is that there is no one correct path in life. Every one of us has our own unique journey. Look to that.
There is nobody else like you in the world and that is worth celebrating.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Our lives, are they run by Fate, Cause and Effect, Coincidence, or Self-Determination?



We have all heard declarations ranging from “Everything happens for a reason,” to “Nothing happens for any reason.” It is so easy to get caught up in absolutes and polarized binaries that it is easy to drown in the waters of all or nothing, even though the reality of life is never that neat and clean. Nothing has only one answer or one cause, and how the events of our lives shape us and the rest of reality is a complicated mess of interrelations, cause and effect, random chance, personal choices, and metaphysical impetus. Sure, some things may boil down to a form of fate or destiny, or Fate or Destiny, but in either case, most things are very explainable through the abject mundanity of this earthly world.
Our lives are defined by the decisions we make daily. When we choose one option over another, whether we are buying a new car or considering moving across the country, to another state or province we shape our lives. The decision-making process is empowering. It allows us to enjoy the rewards of self-determination. However, it can also produce anxiety because they force us to face the possibility of dissatisfaction causing inner conflict. As a result, many of us opt to avoid making decisions by assigning others to make them for us. We consequently turn our power over to spouses, relatives, friends, even colleagues, granting them the power over our lives that is rightfully ours and should belong to us only. Though the decisions we must make are often difficult, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time we trust ourselves enough to make our own choices.

Ultimately, only you know how the options will impact your life and long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will always give you sound counsel if you believe in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others and even then, treat their choices as supplementary suggestions rather than as your own ultimate decision. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reins of your destiny.

When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your own desires, your own creativity, your own awareness, and your own power. Since you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you are more likely to exercise greater care when coming to final conclusions. As you learn to make informed and independent choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously directing the flow of your own life without interference.

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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We All HATE It: Belly Fat

An expanding waistline is sometimes considered the price of getting older. For women, this can be especially true after menopause, when body fat tends to shift to the abdomen.

Yet an increase in belly fat does more than making it hard to zip up your jeans. Research shows that belly fat also carries serious health risks. The good news? The threats posed by belly fat can be reduced.

What's behind belly fat?

Your weight is largely determined by three main factors:

How many calories you consume during the day
How many calories you burn off through daily exercise
Your age
If you eat too much and exercise too little, you're likely to carry excess weight — including belly fat.

Also, your muscle mass might diminish slightly with age, while fat increases. Loss of muscle mass also decreases the rate at which your body uses calories, which can make it more challenging to maintain a healthy weight.

Many women also notice an increase in belly fat as they get older — even if they aren't gaining weight. This is likely due to a decreasing level of estrogen, which appears to influence where fat is distributed in the body.

The tendency to gain or carry weight around the waist — and have an "apple" rather than a "pear" shape — might have a genetic component as well.

Why Belly Fat Is More Than Skin Deep

The trouble with belly fat is that it's not limited to the extra layer of padding located just below the skin (subcutaneous fat). It also includes visceral fat — which lies deep inside your abdomen, surrounding your internal organs.


Belly fat
Subcutaneous fat is the belly fat you can feel if you pinch excess skin and tissue around your middle. Visceral fat is belly fat that accumulates in your abdomen in the spaces between your organs. Too much visceral fat is strongly linked with a greater risk of serious health problems.

Although subcutaneous fat poses cosmetic concerns, visceral fat is linked with far more dangerous health problems, including:

Heart disease
Type 2 diabetes
High blood pressure
Abnormal cholesterol
Breathing problems
Research also associates belly fat with an increased risk of premature death — regardless of overall weight. In fact, some studies have found that even when women were considered a normal weight based on standard body mass index (BMI) measurements, a large waistline increased the risk of dying of the cardiovascular disease.

Measuring your middle
So how do you know if you have too much belly fat? Measure your waist:

Stand and place a tape measure around your bare stomach, just above your hipbone.
Pull the tape measure until it fits snugly around you, but doesn't push into your skin. Make sure the tape measure is level all the way around.
Relax, exhale and measure your waist, resisting the urge to suck in your stomach.
For women, a waist measurement of more than 35 inches (89 centimetres) indicates an unhealthy concentration of belly fat and a greater risk of health problems.

Trimming the fat
You can tone abdominal muscles with crunches or other targeted abdominal exercises, but just doing these exercises won't get rid of belly fat. However, visceral fat responds to the same diet and exercise strategies that help you shed excess pounds and lower your total body fat. To battle belly fat:

Eat a healthy diet. Focus on plant-based foods, such as fruits, vegetables and whole grains, and choose lean sources of protein and low-fat dairy products. Limit added sugar and saturated fat, which is found in meat and high-fat dairy products, such as cheese and butter. Choose moderate amounts of monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats — found in fish, nuts and certain vegetable oils — instead.
Replace sugary beverages. Drink water or beverages with artificial sweeteners instead.
Keep portion sizes in check. Even when you're making healthy choices, calories add up. At home, slim down your portion sizes. In restaurants, share meals — or eat half your meal and take the rest home.
Include physical activity in your daily routine. For most healthy adults, the Department of Health and Human Services recommends moderate aerobic activity, such as brisk walking, for at least 150 minutes a week or vigorous aerobic activity, such as running, for at least 75 minutes a week.

If you use a step counter, remember that it takes an average of 10,000 steps a day to prevent weight gain. Some studies indicate it might take 15,000 steps a day to prevent the regain of weight after significant weight loss.

Strength training exercises also are recommended at least twice a week. If you want to lose weight or meet specific fitness goals, you might need to exercise more.

To lose excess fat and keep it from coming back, aim for slow and steady weight loss. Consult your doctor for help getting started and staying on track.

Source: Mayo Clinic



Direct quote of the photographer (S.Maguire) "This image was one of the hardest for me to take because I am hand holding a 600mm Canon lens, and I am laughing so hard, as were the other 2 people standing next to me. This poor mother black bear had 5 cubs. Yes, 5. She sent them up the tree and sat down and began to look at her poor, battle-stretched stomach. The man next to me said, “every woman that has had children understands this”…she kept moving the folds of her skin around and looking at her belly."

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/5/2020 (14:30)
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So, you have been eating healthily (your meals consist of things like oatmeal, wholewheat pasta, bread & rice, lots of veggies and fruit, lean meats, beans, egg whites, lots of water and green tea) and you've been exercising an hour every day and then 3 days a week you do toning exercises (on these days you reduce the cardio to 30 min). On Sunday you rest.

You've been doing this for 6 weeks and show a loss of only 5 pounds.

First off,



Or you say 'no results' but you feel firmer, your clothes fit a little better...... ignore the scale, and focus on that, because, at the end of the day, that's really your goal, not to meet some number of lbs.
Start measuring inches instead of pounds. This will be a much, much better way to measure progress. And, for those of you who are close to, or in, a healthy weight range you should consider switching your goal from losing weight to losing fat.

Bodies don't lose weight or fat on a 7-day cycle. if you're only weighing yourself once a week same time same day...you may be missing the days where you're a little lighter and weighing on days when you're heavier. one horribly inconvenient way to stop this would be to weigh yourself daily and average it. it's much, much easier to see weight loss by average. it's really inconvenient though, and if you have issues with the scale determining self-worth it may not be the best route for you.

And, since we're mostly ladies, 6 weeks puts you smack in the middle of where you were in your cycle when you started. I can't tell you how many times I've freaked out about extra lbs because only weighing in weekly and I'd hit that week before my period and I'm bigger and heavier, and it's like all my work hadn't changed anything. it's like I had to see it on a calendar to remember, oh, right, so that's what's going on. So, maybe that's part of what you're facing.

I was starting to get so discouraged until I bought the Fitbit Aria scale. What a difference it's making!! I started walking more and getting at least 10,000 steps a day and no weight loss as of yet but It definitely keeps me motivated much better until the pounds started coming off.

You can try exercising differently

Believe it or not but sometimes too much activity has the opposite effect. More is not always better. And, if you're sedentary all day like I was and then hit a 60 min high-intensity cardio session and then flop on the couch for the rest of the night you aren't getting near the benefit you would be with 3 20 min workouts a day. And too, sometimes the body can hit a rut and become used to a specific routine and just..become acclimated there. for this, you can try flipping your intense cardio and moderate lifting. Do light-moderate lifting 5-6x week with three high-intensity cardio sessions per week.

or you could try keeping the deficit but stepping down the activity

It could be you just need to taper. It's good to do this when you're hitting cardio pretty hard for weeks on end after months or years of not really doing as much. frankly, make sure you get good rest. and that can mean take 2 days off a week instead of 1. Rest is 1/3 of what your body needs to improve its condition: diet, activity, rest. rest is when your body builds the muscle you've used during exercise.

Whatever you do, do not, do not, do not give up. Despite the scale not moving you are having results, your clothing is loose, you feel tighter, stronger...even if your loss takes some time to show on the scale...you are changing your body the way you want. your hard work IS paying off and quitting now won't give you the opportunity to see if your body was *this* close to getting where you wanted it to be. and for sure, quitting definitely won't get it there.



Remember, we are all warriors. Somedays we are a mess. But every day we stand, fight and never give up.
We will fight for it. We will not give up.
We will reach our goal & absolutely NOTHING will stop us!

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 12/5/2020 (11:47)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Resist? Who resists rest? Nobody skips a nice little nap when they need one…. And if you believe that, I’ve got a plot of land in the Arizona desert to sell you.

Into every life, stress will happen. And with it, hardship, pain, or too much bad Karma. These are the built-in risks of being human, and unfortunately, everybody gets a turn at the tough parts. When life is flowing it can feel like a dance, but when it hits the rocks, our stress hormones surge. (Thanks to that handy fight-or-flight reflex.) But too many of us have forgotten how to turn off the stress response again when we need to.

Here are the most common reasons; excuses not to rest, and ways to give yourself permission regardless.

When I say no, I feel guilty. That’s the title of a classic self-help book from the 70s—and there’s a reason it continues to sell like gangbusters. In order to say Yes to rest, you need to learn basic assertiveness. That includes concepts such as It is appropriate to take care of my well-being. When I am tired, it is right to respond to my body’s needs. When asked to carry more than I’m able to hold, it is responsible to say No, I can’t. Or simply, I need help.

Somebody needs me. Congratulations! It’s a pretty bleak life if nobody needs us at all. But the default position of many people is to feel so swamped by others’ needs that they simply lose track of their own. Can you have it all? Not often—especially if you’re in charge of the young, old, or vulnerable. But respecting your own need for rest means you’ll be able to do a better job of helping those who count on you.

I’ve got too much to do. Oh, the tyranny of the To-Dos. One way to evaluate the real urgency of items on your list is to say the following for each time-eating (and rest-robbing) activity. “When I’m on my deathbed, I’ll wish I’d spent more time _________.” Does it make you laugh, or wince? Hint: When one makes you laugh, you already know that’s something you can cut back on. When you’re wincing, that signals a skewed priority. Trim the list to what’s essential or meaningful, and get more rest.

Sleep is boring. So are illness and exhaustion, and they’re headed your way if you can’t remember the last time you felt truly rested. Worried you might miss out? Try thinking of sleep as something nearly sacred, not an empty time but an open one. Over-achieving spirituality author Kathleen Norris went on a retreat and complained to an elderly monk that she had no energy. “Oh, we hear that all the time,” he said. “Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is to sleep.”

I’ll rest when I’m dead. Cute one. Macho, too. Consider that finding a balance between activity and rest while you live is a lot more rewarding than whatever’s going to be carved on your tombstone. Try to get into the habit of being a genuine friend to yourself and giving yourself a break. To practice, imagine that your closest friend is verging on burnout, and you can see a crash coming. What could you say? How about: “Permission to rest. You’ve earned it.” Now grant yourself the same kindness.


A tiger or a tabby?

Our lives can get so complicated that we become our own saber-toothed tigers, routinely sweating the small stuff and over-riding our natural need to rest and recover. When overloaded or in pain, struggling to meet too many expectations including your own, it’s easy to forget that you’re still a human animal, and that rest is vital to your well-being. To enjoying your life instead of just enduring it.

There’s a difference between feeling genuinely rested and managing just enough sleep to keep going. Often the biggest obstacle between us and the real rest we need is permission. We need to give ourselves permission to rest, deep down, all the way past our reasons and To-Do lists and relationships and responsibilities and distractions and worries. We need to recalibrate our frazzled, device-addled minds.

Source: Savvy rest



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Often, toxic persons will come off as being your real friends and have your back, when in fact, it's all just an act.
They are as fake and as phony as a three-dollar bill.
They are really good at speaking in a passive-aggressive way. They'll always find a way to insult you with a compliment. Usually dripping with underlying sarcasm. This will slowly reduce your self-confidence and often, you won’t realize it’s even happening.
They initiate plans and never follow through. They agree to plan an event with you but leave you to do everything. They will always have the perfect excuse as to why they couldn’t make it so that they don’t have to feel guilty about it.
They expect you to always put them first. They think that your life revolves around them and their situation will always be worse. With them, this is all about competition.
This should be a huge red flag for you if your “friend” gossips about others. If they are saying things about others, what do you think they are saying about you? We all need to vent, but when they are ripping apart, it goes to show they aren’t truly nice people.
Even if you obtained a new job or a promotion at work, they'll always have something to top it, out-do you. Again, to them, it’s all about competition.

How many times have you and I have had to deal with these kinds of people throughout our lifetimes?
Please take it from me. No matter how they try and disguise it or pull the wool over your eyes. They will eventually always show their true colours. They can't but help it.
Please, drop them like a hot potato, a scalding hot pot of water!

You may be alone. You may be wanting a friend. You may be wanting companionship. Please, do not fall into their trap just to have friendship or camaraderie. It isn't worth it!

You want to find that friend, even if it's that one and only friend who can handle your darkest truths, who don't change the subject when you share your pain or try to make you feel bad for feeling bad. We need to find that someone who understands our struggles, some more than others and there's no weakness in admitting it. In fact, few things take as much strength. We want that one friend who is real, as real as you and me. We need friends who get that life is difficult even hard but also get that life is beautiful and who isn't afraid to honour both realities. Every one of us needs that friend who makes us feel at home in our hearts, mind and body; in our skin and genuinely loves and accepts us just as we are, taking joy in our joy.
They are out there, these people. Your tribe is waiting for you. You want the genuine article. Don't stop searching until you find them.




Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 11/27/2020 (12:33)
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TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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When we feel stuck in our lives it's important to take stock of what is going on and find out if there is something we are doing or not doing that is keeping us blocked from moving forward. There are times, however, that the situation is going to be out of our control, and we need to look within to find the patience required to wait it out with the presence of mind until things begin moving forward again. Many times, though, we are able to find the source of what is blocking our flow within our own hearts and minds. Sometimes we are clinging to old ideas about reality and we need to make adjustments that will bring us back in tune with life, so we can restore the flow once again. Sometimes we find that fear of change is what's keeping us stuck, and we need to find ways in which to resolve to face that fear.

If introspection does not provide the answers we need, it can sometimes be helpful to ask others around us if they notice anything obvious that you might not be able to see. Remember to ask someone whom you can trust to be kind and sensitive as well as honest. Try to let go of your resistance because whenever there is something we can't see ourselves, it's because we don't want to see it. Try to listen with an open mind, and remember that you are always the final judge of what you need. Anything offered to us from an outside source will need to be processed within before its wisdom can take hold.

In all this, be kind to yourself and remember that we all get stuck at times. Think of it as a part of the process, a necessary step on our journey, rather than as a problem that shouldn't be happening. This can help to keep our frustrations at bay and give us the space we need to take a deep breath and really figure out what's going on.

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 11/25/2020 (10:21)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Some days we are warriors. Somedays we are a broken mess. Most days we're a bit of both. But every day we're here. Standing, Fighting, Never giving up.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Here are the simple steps to getting rid of that negative voice in your head…
The first step is understanding that you’re not the one who put it there. The adults in your life trained you to think this way a long time ago and you’ve repeated it ever since.

Name that voice. Go ahead and write the name in the comments. If you know the person who did this to you, use their name. If you don’t, just pick a name that comes to mind. It could be anything. For example, our son named his anxiety Oliver when he was little.

The next time that negative voice starts talking in your head, talk back. I’m not kidding. Tell it to shut up. Tell it you’re not listening anymore. Serve that a$$hole in your head an eviction notice.
Repeat.
This is the power of observation and objectivity. By naming the voice, you can take a step back, observe it, and realize it’s not you. It’s someone else’s voice. When you talk back you start to train your own mind to believe that person isn’t welcome here.

If you have negative self-talk I'm positive you shouldn't listen to it.
Mel Robbins



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Today we should be aware that in order to achieve our long-term goals we will first need to focus on taking that first step. It may be a long and varied road we plan to embark on, and you may be fixated on the minute tasks or choices that will start you on your journey. If this is the case, whether you're stalling or can't wait to make your start, you may be highly focused today on any little details and considerations that need to be seen in order for you to realize your goal. Even if you are focused on the small parts today, you may still be keeping a steady eye on the whole, the end, the ultimate goal. You might think about taking whatever small steps you can in order to begin your journey today.

Every journey we take begins with a first step. No matter what our ultimate goal may be, the only crucial move to be made in our effort to realize that goal is taking that initial step. Every aspiration we have, whether grand or modest, short or long-term, begins with a single decision or action. This initial effort opens the path we will travel down and calls into being the possibilities, occurrences, and determination that will flavour and shape our experience. Take the first step toward manifesting your larger objective today, and you will be on your way to realizing your long-term goals.

Every Journey of A Thousand Miles Begins With A Single Step: Lao Tsu



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Who knows what tomorrow brings
In a world, few hearts survive
All I know is the way I feel
When it's real, I keep it alive

The road is long
There are mountains, in our way
But we climb a step every day

Lord lift us up where we belong
Where the eagles cry, on a mountain high
Lord lift us up where we belong
Far from the world below, up where the clear winds blow

Some hang on to 'used to be'
Live their lives, looking behind
All we have is here and now
All our life, out there to find

The road is long, there are mountains in our way
But we climb them a step every day
Lord lift us up where we belong
Where the eagles cry on a mountain high
Lord lift us up where we belong
Far from the world we know, up where the clear winds blow

Time goes by
No time to cry
Life is you and I
Alive, today

Lord lift us up where we belong
Where the eagles cry on a mountain high
Lord lift us up where we belong
Far from the world we know, where the clear winds blow
Lord lift us up where we belong


Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 11/22/2020 (12:08)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Sneaky Ways You Sabotage Yourself



It's easy to get excited about starting a project, passionate about the idea of trying something new, or enthusiastic about working towards a goal. But, it is also common to inexplicably get off track or lose motivation in those pursuits, especially when it comes to things that may be more transformative or impactful to us. In those moments, it's important to remember that you don't need to be perfect in order to achieve anything, but it is necessary for you to be open and believe in yourself to truly go after them. The single most powerful thing you can do for yourself and your future endeavours is to become aware of how your core beliefs and thought patterns may be holding you back. When we understand how to identify our self-limiting views, break the habits that do not serve us, and establish constructive behaviours, we feel a greater sense of ease and free ourselves up to bring about our plans, ideas, and desires. With expert guidance, you can find and change any behavior that is standing in your way and allow you to welcome and accept your growth and success. I want you to stop and think.

What if I told you that you are the only thing keeping you from reaching your goals? That’d be a tough pill to swallow, huh? But, maybe it’s true. There’s a good possibility you are self-sabotaging your life. It’s okay- we’re human. We do this. But, first, we have to learn what self-sabotaging actually is. Self-sabotage consists of anything — words or behavior — that undermines your efforts at making some kind of improvement. At the root of self-sabotaging behavior are self-sabotaging thoughts. And not all those thoughts are conscious. Although it is not always obvious for you to realize, sometimes you can be your own worst enemy. Ever heard of shooting yourself in the foot? That term is literally the sole definition of self-sabotage.

Self-sabotaging behavior is behaviours that directly halt your personal self-confidence, daily life, reaching your goals, or even hinder your relationships. Psychology Today includes procrastination, drug-use, alcohol abuse, indulgent eating, and self-injury as different examples of self-sabotage behavior. Self-Sabotage (the mind) The thing about self-sabotage is that it doesn’t just limit our success, it destroys our happiness. It takes away the opportunity for us to fully enjoy our life. I’m sure you know this by now, but our thoughts lead to our actions. So, if our behavior is showing self-sabotaging actions, it definitely started in our minds. Our thoughts produced the very first inkling of self-sabotage, even if it was subconsciously. And, as we definitely know, our happiness comes from within. Although exterior things (materialistic goods, appearances, destinations) can provide a sense of happiness, true happiness comes from your mindset. I mean, that’s pretty obvious. Can you think of someone who may not be living in the best circumstances, but always seems to be positive and lively? Then, on the flip side, can you think of someone who seems to have everything they could ever dream of, but acts completely miserable all the time? Because, yes and yes. Now, for this post, that point is kinda here nor there. But, it’s vital to realize our actions stem from our mindset. (And, trust me. I’m not always Positive Pam. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it a million more times- I’m more of a… Realistic Rose… if you will. But, I do know that my mindset affects everything I do, how I perceive life, and my happiness.)

The first step in changing your mindset is going to be knowing what exactly your mindset is. We have to know our thoughts to change them, right? Right. If you aren’t fully self-aware yet, that’s okay. I encourage you to start journaling! You can check out this journal (I love it because of its customizability) or just grab an extra notebook laying around. If you aren’t one for writing, keep an electronic journal in the notes section on your phone! Take time out of your day (you can even set reminders to do this) to pause and truly acknowledging what you are thinking. Jot them down. Then, at the end of the day or week, reflect on your thoughts. If you have positive thoughts, that’s a win! But, we’re bound to have some negative ones. The key here is to recognize them and then work on stopping them in the future. 2. Stop negative thoughts in their tracks a quick example, you may find yourself dreading a workout. The next time you think of working out or go to do so, go ahead and give yourself some positive comments.“I know I will feel good after this!”
“When I finish working out, I’ll get to drink my good protein shake!”
“I can’t wait to see my friends in this class. They always motivate me!”Okay, I know that sounds super cheesy, but I’m telling you- it works. Just try it. Try it for… let’s say a week. See how you feel at the end of one week, and get back to me! I’m pretty confident you’ll be in a better headspace! 

Reward yourself for positivity

How do we teach children? All in all, we remind them of how good they’re doing when they do what we want. I’m here to remind you that we are as simple as children when it comes to this. Want to create a new habit? Remind yourself you’re doing well each day you ‘do’ the habit. Want to reach a goal? Set rewards after each step to get there. Want to learn something new? Be proud of yourself throughout each new lesson. Want to become more positive? Pat yourself on the back for all of the positive comments, outlooks, or thoughts you have throughout the day! Start paying attention to your thoughts. If you don’t like your mindset or outlook on life, start actively changing it. You are in control of your life. You are in control of how you think. You are in control of your happiness.

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Over the course of a typical day, we make numerous choices. Within the conscious level, we make hundreds, if not thousands of choices within a day. Within the unconscious level, we can make an incalculable number of choices. From the moment we awake, we're making choices. The evening before bed, we are already making choices that will impact tomorrow. By focusing our energy to make as many of those decisions as consciously as possible, we make the best of our ability to pursue our passions and purpose to create positive change.

Let's take into account even the smallest choices we make each day. They may have turned into habits that you don’t even recognize. For many people, habits are choices that they don’t even evaluate. Buying that cup of coffee, choosing to skip working out, or letting email determine the direction of our day are all examples of negative habits that most likely resulted from unconscious choices.

We are constantly making choices in life. Unfortunately, most do not make these decisions consciously. Instead of consciously evaluating the direction and results they want to achieve, many jump in with both feet to take action before weighing the checks and balances. In contrast, those who consciously do so establish clear objectives and plans before moving forward. The first step in everything we undertake should be to consciously choose what we want!

When we seek to make a difference it is an intentional choice. We structure our priorities to create change. That change leads to identifying areas that can be eliminated. Then we can improve its overall efficacy. This comes from the choice of deciding what is most important.

We are also all familiar with the metaphor of looking at a glass; one perceiving it as half-full while the other sees it as half-empty. As much as we've heard this, it's still a valuable exercise to really observe our minds and notice whether we are engaged in half-full or half-empty thinking. People will refer to themselves as being of one type or the other as if it was a permanent characteristic, but we are all capable of shifting into the half-full consciousness.

When we look at our lives with half-empty consciousness, we perceive a lack and think that the other half of what we want is missing. We are coming from a position of expectation and entitlement. On the other hand, when we look at our lives as half-full we perceive fullness. It is as if we recognize that our cup could be fully empty and so we are grateful for what we see as bounty -- not something we expect or believe we are owed, but a gift. In half-full consciousness, we make choices on the conscious level in full cognition of reality without being influenced by pressure-induced externally or internally. and count our blessings.
When we look at our lives we see all the elements that are in place and all the things we do have. This doesn't necessarily mean we don't seek more, but we seek from a place of fullness instead of from a place of insufficiency. This fullness draws positive energy into our lives and often attracts more abundance.

To understand that every reality of life has a light and dark nature is the foundation of having a clear cognition of any reality that you desire to pursue. To connect with the natural sense of inner freedom/wholeness, inherent to your being, is the foundation of making choices that are free of external or internal pressure induced by neediness (or lack-based thinking), fear-based thinking or any other imbalanced motivations created from a place of delusion. The absence of a conscious choice is what I would call “compromised living”. When you make a conscious choice, it may look like you are consciously embracing certain compromises that come as a part/consequence of the reality of your choice, but in truth you don’t feel a sense of resentment, bitterness, lack or victimization (that’s associated with a truly compromised life), while you live your choice this way – you own your choices in full cognition of the consequences that it entails, the light natured ones and the dark natured ones.

If you would like to begin to make the shift into the half-full consciousness, try imagining your life as an empty glass. This is your life without all the people you know, the work you do, your home, or your current state of physical wellbeing. This is just an empty, open space waiting to be filled. Once you have that feeling of openness in your mind, begin filling it with all the people, things, and places that make up your life. You may be surprised to find your glass is in fact overflowing.



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We are never responsible or guilty of another human being’s actions. (I will be there if someone reaches out for help), but we are not responsible for their behavior. Trisha Sugarek



You may be compelled to push through your limiting thoughts and reach for your dreams, which could make it easier for you to act with a greater amount of self-confidence today. Knowing that you have the power to overcome any limitations you may have might be the most effective way to manifest your future aspirations. Perhaps today you can write down any limiting beliefs you might have about yourself and your abilities. After you have a list, you then can create another one, challenging the negative views you have, reframing everything so that you are focused on the positive. A simple change of perspective could give you the assurance you need to focus your energy on the positive qualities you possess that will bring you to where you most want to be.

Changing our view so that it is focused on the positive is a powerful way to rise above our restricted ideas of ourselves. Many of us tend to be mired in thought patterns that we often do not recognize -- thoughts that tell us that we can't do things that we are in fact perfectly capable of. Challenging these thoughts is an easy but effective way to retrain our minds to think about the positive aspects of our lives or our character that can take us to where we want to go, and instead of thinking that we can't do something, we concentrate on what we can do. By altering your perceptions about yourself, you will put your future dreams into motion today.


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Our true desire to succeed should make us more aggressive. While having the determination to do well is an extremely important part of being successful, we should temper our resolve with a greater sense of awareness and foresight. Becoming more aware of the reasons behind our ambition could help us see what it is we are ultimately after and might not only motivate us to do better but could also bring us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our life's work. Perhaps we should ask ourselves the simple question, "Where will this get me?" Just reflecting on this today can make it easier to see the value in the things we work so hard for and to assess what we really should be working toward.



Our purpose in life is fueled not only by motivation but also by a deeper sense of purpose. When we spend time working toward a goal, it is easy to lose sight of where we are really headed; we might become blinded by our ambition. Taking a step back and examining the real reason for our goals, however, allows us to consider what is really important. Once we do this, we might actually change direction and put our energy into something that has much more lasting and intrinsic value. By reflecting on what really matters to you today, your motivation to succeed will have a greater and more profound meaning for you.

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It's a new Monday.
A new Week.
We're alive.
Life is good
There's no looking back.
It's eyes forward.
There's no time like the present.
It's time to CRUSH those daily goals.



Let’s face it—anybody can SET a goal, but actually following through and ACHIEVING that goal, or actually CRUSHING that goal and making it a reality?

C-R-U-S-H-I-T—Crush It. That’s all you have to remember.

C - CLAIM YOUR TARGET.
This is where you determine what you are aiming for. Because here’s the thing that I know to be true—if you aim at NOTHING, you will hit it every single time. You need to have something to shoot for, preferably something BIG to shoot for. Something that is possibly so big, it scares you a little bit.

R - Refine Your Objective
When you claim your target, it’s okay to be a little vague. Remember—you are thinking big. But then you need to hone in and determine, in no uncertain terms, exactly what you want. So let’s say your target is to become the healthiest you, you can be and get into the best shape of your life, but what does that really mean? Well, it might mean deciding to walk 5k every day.
You are refining your objective and making it real. But you need to make it even MORE real.

U - Understand Your Motivation
It might seem like a small thing or even an unimportant detail, but the reality is that getting crystal clear about your WHY is probably the single most important part of actually achieving—and crushing—your goals.
And that is the place where people most often go wrong.

You see, understanding the WHY behind what we are aiming for is the thing that will keep us going when things become difficult. It’s the heart and soul of what we do. It’s the thing that makes the discomfort, the pain, and the frustration of accomplishing something worth the struggle.
If we are not clear about WHY we want to make something happen, it will be all too easy to give up or to get distracted.
The best way to keep ourselves motivated is to take control of our choices and to see them as affirmations of our values. We need to be able to connect our small tasks to our larger aspirations.

In other words, we need to remember and understand our WHY every step of the way. If we forget our why, we might start to look at our goal as an obligation that someone else is putting on us, rather than a choice we are making for ourselves. And when that happens, we will lose motivation and that thing we are aiming for will never happen.

Of course, while understanding our motivation is a critically important piece of crushing our goals, knowing our why is just the beginning.

S - Step It Out
This is where we get super practical and actually create a concrete plan for how we are going to achieve this goal of ours and actually make it happen. You see, it is not enough to want this goal in theory—we need to have a clear path for getting there. What are the steps you are going to take over the next few days and upcoming weeks to make this goal a reality?

How much time will you need to make this happen? Will, you set aside 30 minutes each day to work on it, or block out a few days to work on it? What resources or supplies will you invest in? How much are you willing to spend to make this dream a reality? What research do you need to do in order to make this goal happen? Will you look on the Internet? Read books? Take a class? Who will you ask for help? Do you need an accountability partner? Assistance? Training?

Be crystal clear about the steps you are going to have to take in order to get where you want to go.

H - Handle Obstacles
But there is something else you will want to be crystal clear about when you are making your plan, and that is how to HANDLE OBSTACLES

You see, no matter how carefully you plan, and no matter how clear you are about what you want to do and the steps you will need to take to get there, it is inevitable that at some point—and probably sooner, rather than later—there will be roadblocks that stand in your way. Obstacles that threaten to derail your progress, distractions that get you off track, setbacks that make you feel like throwing in the towel.

And you need to be prepared for how you will handle them!

Don’t blindly assume everything will be okay. Instead, recognize ahead of time that there will be obstacles along the way and resolve to NOT let those roadblocks prevent you from getting to where you want to go.

Because here’s the thing—setbacks are a lot easier to bounce back from and overcome If you’ve already mentally prepared yourself for them. And while I don’t think it is a good idea to get hung up on every possible what-if scenario, I do think it is important to create a plan for what you’ll do when things stand in your way.

This is another part of goal setting—and goal achieving—that most people forget about, and then, as soon as the going gets rough, they don’t know how to handle it.

To handle your obstacles BEFORE they derail your progress!

I - Implement Your Plan
Now there is only one thing left to do, and that is to implement your plan.

Because here’s the thing—we only get credit for the plans we implement and follow through on, not the ones we only think about. And this is where so many people fall short and fail to CRUSH their goals—they never actually implement. They are always planning, but when it comes to following through and taking action, they get gun shy, or scared, or just lose their motivation.

Don’t let that be you.

If your plan is to spend the first 30 minutes of every day working towards your goal, then actually spend the first 30 minutes of every day DOING THE THINGS that will get you closer to your goal. Keep moving forward. Take action.

Now is the magic word of success, which means if you want to CRUSH your goal, you need to be someone who does things. Don’t wait until conditions are perfect, because they never will be, your ideas only have value when you ACT on them.

T - Treat Yourself
But there is one letter left in our CRUSH IT acronym—and it’s one that often gets forgotten. And that is T—TREAT YOURSELF.

You see, if you want to be a Goal Crusher, you need to not only be clear about what success looks like—that is, setting a clear and specific objective—but you also need to have a plan for what you’ll do—how you’ll celebrate—when you get there!

I’ll be the first to admit that celebrating my wins is something that I struggle with. As soon as I’ve hit one target, I move right on to the next one, without stopping to relish in the victory.

But learning how to treat yourself and actually celebrate your wins might just be the most important facet of CRUSHING your goals because it is the part that will keep you motivated and keep you excited and enthusiastic about continuing to CRUSH your goals for years to come.

When you identify ahead of time how you will celebrate, and then actually follow through on that celebration, your brain makes the connection and says, “I did it! This is awesome! I want to do this again!” So even if it seems a little silly, be sure to identify ahead of time how you will treat yourself once you’ve crushed your goal.

There is something a little magic that happens when you start crushing your goals and seeing your dreams come true. Small wins give us the confidence to stretch and further, dream a little more, and to start thinking bigger.

But it all starts with having a solid framework in place for actually making those dreams a reality. That’s exactly what Goal Crushing is all about.


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Anything Can Be Overcome

Even when it seems like you have nowhere left to turn, there is a solution just waiting for you around the corner. Always.




The journey that each of us makes throughout our time here on earth will have hardship as often as it is touched by triumphs of joy. When we encounter adversity, the stress we feel can wear away, even grind down our optimism, eventually convincing us that the hardships we face are too overwhelming that they cannot be overcome. In truth, there is no situation so dire, no challenge so great and no choice so bewildering that it cannot be overcome. Though we may believe that all avenues have been blocked, even closed to us or that our most conscientious efforts have come to naught, we are never without the bounds of possibilities, options. They may be veiled in doubt, but they are there. When we are honest with ourselves with regard to this most simple fact, we can overcome anything because we will never stop looking for a solution to the challenges before us.

Self-trust coupled with solid planning is the ultimate antidote to adversity's tendency to inspire disillusionment in our minds. As difficult as the obstacle seems at the time we are in full throws of battle, it is no match for the love of a supportive universe that has been a part of our lives since the day of our births and shall be forevermore. We become misguided by our fears as this gives rise to the idea that there are just some problems that are without solutions. However, when we believe in our capabilities and dedication to the devising of some form of resolution, we will be surprised to discover that paths that were once blocked, closed do miraculously open. Even if all you can do is change your perspective to turn an obstruction into an opportunity for growth, we will have found the hope that is that inherent ingredient of all hardship.

Remember that destiny is a result of our own design. Even when it seems we have nowhere left to turn, there is a solution somewhere just waiting. The only insurmountable hurdles are the ones we produce within our own minds -- and these can only exert power over us if we let them. Uncertainty will always be a part of our existence, but perseverance and mindfulness will never fail to see us through to the other side of any hardship where joy thrives. Try and remember that no matter what life places at our feet, there is absolutely no situation that cannot be resolved with time, love, support and friendship bringing jubilation with it. Joy cometh in the morning.

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How To Cross The Finish Line


I am in the midst of two long-term goals. One, writing a book. Tada! I’ll pause while you dance with joy. All done? Thank you very much for that. I assure you I will celebrate. The other is becoming the healthiest me I can be; weight loss. This is one is a huge check mark on my life's to-do list. The convergence of my deadline over the next year, maybe even two leads me to think about the rewards of completion, of crossing the finish lines—real and metaphorical—of life. And I am also thinking about what it takes to stick with a long-term goal. In that spirit, I offer some of what helps me.

Recognize that it is hard for everyone.

Both writing a book and weight loss are difficult, as is running a marathon, starting a business, losing a substantial amount of weight, and any other larger long-term goals to which you might set your mind to accomplishing. Even though this is my first book and certainly not my first attempt at weight loss, I know I will have some low moments when I think I will never finish, the book wouldn’t be any good, no one will want to read it. This weight loss is taking too long. I keep derailing. You know, I know that there is always going to be a point in the midst of writing a book when one thinks they won’t finish, no one will want to read it, it won’t be any good. Do you know what I've noticed? I've noticed that just about every writer says the same. The trick is to push through—a day of writing bad sentences is better than a day of writing no sentences. It means you have something to work on. Eventually, the good sentences will come. As in weight loss the process, the achievements will become noticeable. Patience is KEY.

Big goals are really a series of small goals.

Writing a book is like driving a car at night. ''You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way." It is an apt metaphor for all long-term goals; break them up into incremental, day-by-day or week-by-week achievable goals.
The advice is prevalent because it is the truth, and it works. We work for a reward on a very short-term basis. Motivation is really the result of a series of decisions to keep working. We are more likely to do that if positive feedback does not come only once a year.

Friends can hold you accountable along the way.

Since my book is about my life, there had to be a mention of friends in it somewhere. The truth is they are essential to the process. No matter the goal. Writing is a lonely profession. While you are ultimately accountable to as the primary editor, your days are spent alone at your desk. So it has been for me also in my weight loss journey. However, throughout this journey, I have had two friends who serve as weekly accountability buddies (shout out to my sister Joyce and Leslea!). We are all engaged in creative endeavours and we must account for what we’ve done over the last week and what we plan to do over the next week, every single week. It helps. It works. It’s why fitness and weight loss apps try to get you to join forces with other members who inevitably become friends and mentors.

Cultivate a growth mindset.

We need to recognize the difference between what is termed a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. In a fixed mindset, people believe that their intelligence and talent are fixed and cannot be developed further. They believe it is talent alone that dictates success. In a growth mindset, by contrast, “People believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and putting in hard work.” This framework has been essential for me in writing my book. When the words and sentences don’t come, when I can’t grasp the ideas I want to convey, I tell myself to just keep thinking about it, that though my “talent” seems limited in the moment, it can rise to the occasion eventually through hard work.

Train your brain to help.

Training for any long-term goals is not just physical, it has it's psychological influences as well. Okay, so writing a book does not require the same physical stamina as weight loss—however, both requires resisting the siren call of the refrigerator and the quilt of the essentialness of every household chore that you're putting off on your priority list. But the principle is the same. Endurance, is “the struggle to continue against a mounting desire to stop.” You need to train the brain to recognize that those signals are in fact surmountable.

Looking backwards has its own rewards.

The truth is that there is plenty of work ahead for me. I am not actually “done.” Editing, production, marketing all lie ahead if I should decide I want to publish my work. It will be another year, perhaps even two before I am anywhere being close to finished t For now, however, I am just going to take time to savour the accomplishment. Sometimes we are so quick to succumb to discouragement or roadblocks. So it is with weight loss and becoming the healthiest you, you can be.

If I were to give any kind of advice or encouragement it would be this.



Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 9/10/2020 (11:45)
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WE ARE OVERCOMERS

If there is one thing I am learning and gleaning from my own present adversity is that:

The only thing constant is change. No matter how tough your current situation of adversity, it is only a temporary learning curve.



Just as death and taxes are unavoidable in life, so is adversity. In fact, life is full of ups and downs, victories and struggles, and huge momentum shifts. We all know and accept that this is just how life is. Adversity is a large part of that experience as well. It’s a part of our lives that many of us would ideally like to fast-forward. However, adversity doesn’t need to be at all negative experiences. In fact, dealing with adversity can become very positive and nourishing that can lead to massive growth and development.

The problem with adversity is that most people never see it in a positive light. In fact, most see adversity as a sign that the entire world is against them; out to get them. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

In many instances, adversity provides an opportunity to learn those tough lessons that help us improve our lives and circumstances going forward. However, in order to see adversity in this way, we must first acknowledge some truths that might initially be somewhat difficult to stomach.

The Truth About Adversity
It is often said that it’s not what happens to us but how we react to what happens that makes all the difference in the end.

When facing adversity it’s important to acknowledge that we always have the freedom to choose how we react in response to people, events, and circumstances. We can either respond very negatively or we can choose to respond optimistically and productive way that can potentially open doors that we weren’t aware of before.

To dig even deeper; all of us have the freedom to choose our own beliefs, words, thoughts, and the attitude we bring into every situation. In fact, we also have the freedom and right to choose the level of effort and determination to bring forth into every moment.

When you have a thought, this immediately triggers emotional reactions. Therefore, if you think/talk negatively, this will cause you to be stressed, fearful or overwhelmed. And this certainly has nothing to do with the situation, but rather everything to do with how you have interpreted the circumstances.

Given all of this, it’s clear that how we handle adversity has nothing to do with what happens to us, but rather everything to do with the “kind of person” we bring forward. As such, it’s absolutely paramount that we accept full responsibility for the role we play in each moment. You are after all in the driver’s seat. However, it is easy to forget this power when your first reaction is an emotional one.

With that in mind, it’s important to acknowledge that the only things that matter are:

How you see the obstacle you're being faced with…

How you react to the adversity…

How you maintain your composure while facing the adversity…

The narrative you tell yourself in what is happening…

It essentially always comes down to the narrative you tell yourself. In fact, it is the story that will either empower or deflate you emotionally; it is the story that will either help you move forward or hold you back; it is the story that will either open the doors or send you into the pits of despair. Adversity has absolutely everything to do with the narrative! The story you tell yourself is what effectively determines your next steps going forward.

When Adversity Strikes

When adversity strikes you must immediately make adjustments to any expectations you have been holding onto. All the plans you had in place may not be viable any longer. Holding onto these plans and expecting that there is only one path forward in reaching your goals will no longer effectively deal with the present circumstances. In fact, resistance at this stage will immediately create internal conflict. This forces you into a downward spiral into the pits of despair.

What you must do instead is immediately adjust any plans or expectations you had coming into the circumstances. To do this you will need to acknowledge that:

You fully accept what has happened without resistance…

Accept that some things are out of your personal control…

No matter how well you plan ahead, things often do not go according to plan. There will always be unexpected obstacles and setbacks that will completely derail your efforts.

This is not the time to whine and complain about the circumstances. Success is never a straight line. In fact, the route that gets you from the present to your desired goals will take many twists and turns. Very little may be under your direct control. Therefore, nothing is really predictable.

We must fully accept the fact that you are facing a “plot twist”. This plot twist is of course comes in the form of a setback that must now be dealt with. Now, of course, you could just completely remove yourself and do nothing. Yes, you most certainly could, but doing nothing changes nothing. Worse yet, doing nothing could actually make things worse. Keep that in mind when you’re frozen in time and too overwhelmed to deal with the issue.

Right now, right here, in the moment. This is your time and place to do something meaningful. It may mean that you will need to stretch yourself, to even act out of desperation in righting things. In fact, this state of desperation could be the catalyst that sparks your creativity and helps you move forward through this circumstance in an optimal way. However, this creativity will never come if your thought process about the problem BECOMES THE PROBLEM.

Just think about it. How you perceive the problem could, in fact, be the problem. If you see the setback as a negative experience then you are closing yourself from an alternate perspective. In fact, how you view the issue might be very different to how another person sees the same circumstance. And, because they see things differently than you, this allows them to react to the setback in a more optimal, beneficial way.

Now of course when it seems as though the world is conspiring against you, it’s difficult to think positively. This is true. You must therefore step back in order to calm your emotions.

Take a moment to remove yourself to take a few deep breaths and tell yourself:

I am calm and collected…

I can see things rationally…

I’ve not attached myself to a perceived outcome anymore…

I am open to the possibilities that may now exist…

I doing this, you acknowledge that you have full control of your mental and emotional faculties. Moreover, you acknowledge that you are open to possibilities that there might be something here that you weren’t expecting to potentially take advantage of.

This is, of course, is all very well and good. As such, if you’re having trouble opening yourself up to the possibilities, then reflect on the narrative you have created about these circumstances. Then, ask yourself:

What have I told myself about this?

Is it empowering or a hindrance to me?

If it is a hindrance and keeping you from seeing the situation in a more positive light, then immediately get to work on changing your thought process. Yes, I do mean literally make the changes. You need to change the thought process that will give yourself that empowerment that can help get you through this setback far more effectively. Only then will you see the problem in the most optimal light.

Now of course, when we’re emotionally wrapped up in a situation it’s difficult to genuinely change your thought process to an empowering story that can help deal with this situation most effectively. Changing our story requires a perspective shift. It requires you to shift how you think. With that in mind, you might find it helpful to think about your setback in the following ways:

Failure today might have saved me from a greater disaster tomorrow…

I haven’t chosen this, but I decide how it affects me…

When setbacks come, I must work twice as diligently…

Every situation is an opportunity for me to reach positively…

The challenge makes me a better person…

The obstacle is an advantage, not a hindrance…

What matters is what I do with what happens…

What impedes me, also empowers me…

My efforts will determine my results…

Obstacles are the fuel for my ambition…

This sucks, but I will come out even more competent on the other side of this…

These are just some of the ways you can think more optimally about your circumstances. In fact, thinking about your setback in this way will help you to effectively change the story you are telling yourself. And when you change your story, a world of possibilities opens up for you.

The final step of this process is, of course, to acknowledge that your setback is a problem that most certainly can be resolved. Once you acknowledge this you can then effectively work on solving this problem. Ask yourself:

What went wrong?

What is the problem here?

What can be done to improve the situation?

What am I potentially missing that could be of value?

The Value of Adversity?

Facing adversity is never fun, but as we’ve already discussed, of course, depends on how we view and react to the circumstances. But let’s come to acknowledge the fact that adversity sucks, will always suck, but it is a part of life and we must, therefore, learn to deal with it and make the most of what we are dealt with. In this context let’s take a look at the value of adversity.

To begin with, adversity often challenges us in new ways, helping us gain valuable experiences that we would not have been exposed to if we always played things safe. And of course, this is of value because new experiences help build and strengthen character, which effectively helps deal with even greater levels of future adversities. In other words, adversity actually provides an opportunity to develop mental strength and resilience. But there is more…

Adversity provides an opportunity to practice challenging one's self in new ways; to practice patience, humility and courage; to practice self-discipline; to practice becoming more resourceful and so much more. In fact, above all else, adversity provides the opportunity to grow, develop and learn from the experience in ways that you never planned or imagined.

What can I learn from this experience?

Given what I now know, how can I do better next time?

And of course, as you grow and learn to think about the adversity you face in more optimal ways, new paths open that can lead to breakthroughs and even new unexpected beginnings.

Yes, it is certainly possible that you may not be able to successfully overcome some of the problems faced. However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have come to a dead-end. What seems like a dead-end might, in fact, be that perfect opportunity for a new beginning that can take you down a more advantageous path towards even bigger and better goals.

Breaking down new paths in this way does, however, require personal initiative, a little creativity, and tenacity on your part. In fact, you must stubbornly acknowledge to yourself that:

I refuse to allow this to break me…

The attitude you bring to every situation matters. In fact, it matters above all else. With the right attitude, you will be able to get through anything no matter how grim or dire your circumstances. And of course, your attitude reflects the thoughts you allow yourself to dwell upon consistently while working through the adversity. These thoughts, of course, manifest in internal dialogue and this internal dialogue often comes in the form of the questions you persistently ask yourself.

The questions you ask yourself either empowers you or weakens your resolve. Empowering questions will certainly help keep you focused on solutions that help move you forward while weakening questions are focused on blame, regret, excuses and complaining. For instance, questions such as:

Why does this always happen to me?

Why do I always make a mess of things?

Why didn’t I just do this earlier, then I wouldn’t be in this mess?

Why is it that I just can’t catch a break?

Why does it seem as though the universe is out to get me?

These are of course weakening questions that will get you absolutely nowhere. These are the types of questions you should avoid asking at all costs. Instead, you need to refocus your energies on asking more empowering questions that will move closer to the desired outcome. For instance, you could ask yourself:

What are the benefits of my situation?

What’s the value in experiencing this setback?

What’s the opportunity here that I could take advantage of?

How can I turn things around and take advantage of my situation?

How can this help me move forward in a better way?

The first set of questions will typically throw you into an endless loop that will keep you stuck, while the second set of questions will open doors to new opportunities and insights that will unlock new paths that you can take full advantage of. But even if all that happens is that you learn from the experience, then asking these questions will have definitely been worth the while.

Taking Positive Action

So far up to this point, we have been mentally preparing ourselves for moments of adversity that we will inevitably experience. However, it is now time to step up and tackle this problem head-on.

Staying Focused and Mindful

When dealing with adversity it is important to stay present and mindful. When we are, this naturally helps improve our focus, which subsequently allows us to gain more clarity about the possible options going forward.

In addition, it is also important that we stay objective. Don’t cling emotionally to a specific outcome, otherwise, you may see clearly. Moreover, it’s also wise to stay self-aware of your thoughts and the feelings you bring into the situation. These thoughts and feelings can either help you or easily mislead. Being self-aware will ensure that you always stay in control of your mental and emotional faculties.

All this essentially comes down to your ability to focus on how things really are and not on how you imagined or hoped them to be. This distinction is important to help you more effectively deal with the circumstances at hand.

Break Things Down

Facing adversity and setbacks can become rather overwhelming very quickly. These can often be unexpected circumstances that suddenly knock us off balance. While off balance we are unable to see things clearly and therefore cannot take decisive action that helps us move forward.

In order to get yourself “on-balance” again, you must take charge. One way to do this is to turn adversity into a problem.

Turning adversity into a problem is helpful because when you are dealing with a problem, you are in the midst of handling something that comes with a solution. This immediately puts you in a very different frame-of-mind. You are no longer at the mercy of circumstance, and you are no longer tempted to play the victim card. Instead, you are in the driver's seat; empowered to solve this problem because you now see it in its proper perspective.

Given this, it’s time to get a little intimate with your problem by asking:

How could I break this down into a problem?

How could I present this problem in the form of a question?

What process must I follow in order to solve this problem?

What specifically do I control concerning this problem?

What part of this problem should I tackle first?

How will I tackle this part of the problem?

What’s the first action step I must take?

These questions lay the foundations of the actions you will take that will help solve this problem. In this way, you are able to begin building the momentum you need to move through this problem successfully.

Taking Immediate Action

Now that you are in a frame-of-mind for solving a problem, it’s time to take immediate action that will help move you forward.

Of course, there might still be a lot of uncertainty that might very well not have all the answers you need at this stage to help you solve this problem. At least, not yet. But all these things are of course irrelevant.

Solutions to don’t often come during times of contemplation; although that is certainly a part of the process. Breakthrough insights often come while taking proactive action toward solving the problem. This happens because while you take action you gain new experiences. With new experiences, you gather more information and more information leads to unique insights that you never had previously. And then, of course, these insights lead to unique perspectives that can help find the answers you are searching for.

Even if along the way you make a plethora of mistakes? That is perfectly acceptable. Mistakes and even failed attempts will help to learn from the experience. Moreover, every wrong attempt you make essentially improves your chances of success because you now have a better idea of what doesn’t work, and this, gives you a clearer understanding of what potentially might work in the future.

Finding Heroes and Mentors

If you’re still struggling and don’t seem to be making progress, then it can be helpful to find heroes or mentors. At times a little guidance is all you need to make a breakthrough.

Heroes are typically role models who you look up to. You don’t necessarily know these people. You rather admire them from a distance. Mentors, on the other hand, are people you know who have a vast assortment of knowledge and experience because they have been through the same kind of adversity you are currently encountering and struggling with. These people can guide you through the next steps of your journey.


Overcoming Adversity

Finally, it is also wise to future-proof yourself against potential setbacks that may arise. Adversities you are likely to face in the weeks, months and years to come.

You will of course never have all the answers and you won't always know what could be hiding just around the corner. However, this does not mean that you cannot prepare yourself in advance.

You could, for instance, use Murphy’s Law as a guide for what could potentially go wrong. At the very least Murphy’s Law will help you keep your expectations in check and your mind open to the possibility of threats along the horizon. Ask yourself:

What if this happens?

What if I make that mistake?

What if this particular person lets me down?

What if I don’t understand how to do this?

What if I get rejected?

What if I am unable to…?

What if? Then I will… If not, then I’ll just… And if that doesn’t work then I can… Alternatively, I could…

These questions will not provide you with all the answers. However, they will pose very interesting scenarios that will force you to think about the direction you are moving in carefully and more meticulously.



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If at first, you don't succeed, try, try again. Don't let a first-time non-win stop further attempts. I know it's hard to shift gears without stalling but if at first, you don't succeed . . . This seemingly ancient adage was first recorded only in 1840 but has become so well known that it is often shortened.

'Tis a lesson you should heed–
Try, try again;
If at first, you don’t succeed,
Try, try again.
Then your courage should appear;
For if you will persevere,
You will conquer, never fear,
Try, try again.

Once or twice though you should fail,
If you would at last prevail,
Try, try again.
If we strive, 'tis no disgrace
Though we did not win the race–
What should you do in that case?
Try, try again.

If you find your task is hard.
Try, try again;
Time will bring you your reward,
Try, try again;
All that other folk can do,
Why with patience should not you?
Only keep this rule in view,
Try, try again.

No matter how many slip-ups you make or how slow your progress. You're still way ahead of everyone who isn't trying.

LOOK IN THE MIRROR. THAT IS YOUR DAILY COMPETITION

STRENGTH DOES'T COME FROM WHAT YOU CAN DO. IT COMES FROM OVERCOMING THE THINGS YOU ONCE THOUGHT YOU COULDN'T.

SUCCESS DOESN'T COME AND FIND YOU. YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND GET IT.

I WILL FIGHT FOR IT. I WILL NOT GIVE UP. I WILL REACH MY GOAL AND ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WILL STOP ME.

YOU WITH ME?

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8/12/20 11:13 A

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The Half-Day Diet????

By now, we are all aware and know that lowering your calories and carbs to lose weight only works for a short time. And you almost always gain it all back and most times more. We all know this scenario and call it the yo-yo syndrome.

What we don't realize is the reason for this is that our bodies have a single-minded goal once we start eating “normally” again...
Our metabolisms desperately want to restore all the fat we lost in order to protect us from ever “starving” again in the future...

It’s just part of your biology.

Researchers actually call this protective over-reaction “Fat Super Accumulation.”

Some call it rebound-weight gain.

I've come to know it as “whiplash fat” because it snaps back onto the body so fast.

It also affects everyone who lowers their calories and carbs to lose weight. So if this has happened to you it’s not your fault.


Fortunately, folks using a new “part-time” diet trick are dropping pounds and inches quickly without any risk of Whiplash Fat.

Long story short, some are using a simple biological “hack” to quit their diets at noon every day.

This simple trick keeps calories and carbs up while fooling the body into melting body fat all day long.

The “Part-Time Diet” Breakthrough That Lets You Quit Your Diet At Noon Each Day…
So You Can Take The Rest Of The Day Off

We all love food. Most of us I'm sure, finish one meal and start thinking right away about the next.

So "Jack" stumbled on this strange diet trick and for him was a godsend…

He claims that because it’s something you can do no matter what kinds of foods you love while conquering hunger and never feeling deprived while reversing the crappy side effects that come with most diets.

Apparently he's figured why the incredible “part-time diet” trick allows you to eat whatever you want, completely without guilt, as soon as the clock strikes noon…WHILE you are still losing weight like you’re on a “full-time” diet…

And finally, the truth about what happens when you go to bed hungry if losing weight is the goal…

Because the best part is, all the “hard work” is finished by noon every day.

So in just half a day, you lose all the weight you can and should safely lose in a day, and you get to take the rest of the day off.


In truth, I don't know what to think of this. I'm kind of skeptical about it myself, but I thought I'd throw it out there and you can decide for. yourselves. I would like your feedback and thoughts.

Here's the link to the complete information.

parttimeketo.com/?vendor=bwburn

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A Guidline

This is about changing our mindset and habits, turning them into a lifelong lifestyle in becoming the healthiest you, you can be.

1. Don’t compare or obsess about other people’s results. However...

2. Encourage other people `who are trying to make a difference.

3. Set some goals. If you haven’t been eating well or are out of shape, start slowly. You don’t have to do everything at once. Unless...

4. Make a clean break and jump in at full throttle if that works better for you.

5. Don’t worry/stress about missing a workout, or not getting in your steps. You get to reboot whenever you want/need to.

6. Everyone cannot do 10,000 steps a day. Do what you can, and try to walk just a bit more than the day before until you are up to a daily 60-minute timeline.

7. Do at least some tracking. I find that tracking my daily habits keeps me motivated and on my chosen plan.

8. Slowly(?) Change your lifestyle to incorporate healthier habits.

9. Don’t obsess about what you cannot/shouldn’t eat. Find foods and recipes that you enjoy that are good for you and make THEM your routine instead. There are tons of wonderful food out there. It doesn’t have to be all carbs, salt, sugar and caffeine.

10. Make a plan. When will you do your workouts? Your walks? What is your backup plan if something comes up? (Just like you plan your grocery list for your meals)

11. Find an accountability buddy, here or elsewhere. I pretended that everyone was waiting for my check-in posts — and guess what? It turned out that some people were waiting for them!

12. Post an SOS if you need advice or encouragement.

13. Celebrate non-scale successes and share in and encourage other people’s successes. We’ll celebrate with you.

YOU'VE GOT THIS!
You can do this. Push until you can’t; rest until you can. Not a bad motto for making changes in your life.


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How many of us are aware that we talk to ourselves more than we realize or all the time? We all do. Our self-talk makes a huge difference for better or for worse. The question to ask ourselves is whether our inner voice is our friend or adversary.

All the self-help gurus tell us to (essentially) affirm our awesome every day. To, as Napoleon Hill puts it, prime our consciousness so much that we create “autosuggestions” of awesome.

For me, I believe self-talk is so important. I myself am really working on how I say things and what I say to myself. ie: I don't say "I worked out today....but didn't do...." I am trying to stop adding the negative to the sentence. I say, "I worked out today!!". I never say I was bad today, I say things like, I made a few higher-calorie choices. I don't start over, I just continue where I left off. I mean, we can never go back and change yesterday. What we can do is move forward and make better choices. Negative self-talk has been and will always be detrimental. We all have a very bad habit of putting ourselves down.

Most people aren’t even aware of the extent to which they accuse, blame, and deny themselves. Many people live with the “tyranny of the should’s.” They order themselves around and second-guess themselves after the fact. There are those individuals who believe that they must push and punish themselves to improve or achieve anything; otherwise, they’re afraid that they’ll end up as lumps on the couch. Never mind that they’re pushing and reproaching themselves into depression by creating greater unhappiness and dissatisfaction in their lives and those of their families.

The power of self-talk can swamp us with anxiety and rumination and overpower us with shame attacks and painful emotions. It can offer comfort and encouragement or make us feel anxious and inadequate. It can provide self-discipline and organization or make us feel overwhelmed and defeated. It can ruin our lives, job opportunities, and relationships, or it can be harnessed to raise our self-esteem, achieve our goals, and uplift our outlook and enjoyment of life.

Although we’ve grown accustomed to these inner voices, they can be changed. It first requires our becoming more aware of them and developing mindfulness over our self-talk. There are a number of steps to reform these voices that include gaining an understanding of their motives and standards and learning to modify and counteract them.

Until you’re acutely aware of your inner voices, you can’t change them. Write down your negative self-talk on a daily basis. Writing down your negative self-talk, including all the “should” and “shouldn’t’s,” will make them more conscious and provide you with choices.

When you catch yourself in negative self-talk stop and switch it for positive thinking. You should also spend time each day and throughout the day repeating positive self-talk.



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Hmm interesting, very interesting...

Do we actually need to walk the 10,000 steps a day?

In general, walking is a good exercise because it puts our large muscle groups to work, and has a positive effect on most bodily systems, Stamatakis says.

But for the sake of efficiency — how much walking should one aim for? Public health experts have drilled into us the idea that we need 10,000 steps a day — or about five miles. But contrary to popular belief, this recommendation doesn’t come from science. Instead, it stems from a 1960s advertising campaign to promote a pedometer in Japan. Perhaps because it’s a round number and easy to remember, it stuck. Countries like the U.S. began to include it in broader public health recommendations. Today, it’s often a default step count to reach on walking apps on smartphones and fitness trackers.

Since the 1960s, researchers have studied the 10,000-steps-a day standard and have turned up mixed results. Although clocking 10,000 steps or more a day is certainly a healthy and worthwhile goal — it’s not a one-size-fits-all fitness recommendation.

“Several studies have consistently shown that significant health benefits accrue well below 10,000 steps per day,” Stamatakis says.

For instance, a recent Harvard study involving more than 16,000 older women found that those who got at least 4,400 steps a day greatly reduced their risk of dying prematurely when compared with less active women. The study also noted that the longevity benefits continued up to 7,500 steps but leveled off after that number. Put simply, 7,500 is also an ideal daily goal with comparable benefits to 10,000 steps.

Stamatakis notes that 7,500 steps also tend to be in line with common public health recommendations, such as the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s recommendation of 150 minutes of moderate physical activity a week for adults.

But picking up the pace might be a good idea. As with any exercise, the physical benefits one gains from walking depends on three things: duration, intensity and frequency. Put simply: walk often, walk fast and walk long. The goal is to walk fast enough to raise your heart rate — even if just for a short burst.

“Any pace is OK, but the faster the walking pace the better,” Stamatakis says. “It’s ideal for 3,000 to 3,500 [of those steps] to be completed at a brisk or fast pace.”

Even if this to be the case for my own benefits I still aim for the 10,000 steps a day, or better. For me, it helps keep me focused on my goals.

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Achieving even the simplest of goals requires us to learn the meaning of commitment. Throughout our life, we are reminded of commitment, whether it’s related to personal or business goals, and we realize that without committing, we can’t achieve anything.

When you think about it, everything you ever achieved sprouted from a commitment you made; whether it’s your children, your degree, your job, or even your house. Learning how to commit is not simply about making commitments, however, it’s about keeping those commitments in the face of foreseen and unforeseen hurdles.

So, how to commit to something to achieve higher quality life?

Don’t Be Involved, Commit!

Doing things halfway is the mother of everything that can go wrong.

“The difference between ‘involvement’ and ‘commitment’ is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was ‘involved’ – the pig was ‘committed’.”

When you want to succeed, you invest yourself in it fully. Why? Because you can’t afford to only be involved; being involved means you’re not committed enough, and if you’re not committed enough, that thing you’ve been working on, won’t see the light of day. Don’t chicken out; lose your nerve.

You can’t work on several things at the same time and expect excellent results. Make sure you’re doing one thing, and you’re investing all you’ve got.

If You Won’t Learn How to Commit, Someone Else Will

There’s always someone out there who knows everything you know and they’re probably not alone.

So what are you going to do? Are you going to quit? Probably not, but why?

You’re wired to keep on fighting—every time you think you’ve reached rock bottom, you connect to an inner mechanism based on millions of years of evolution whose sole purpose is keeping us alive. It can be either by running and hiding so you’ll be able to fight another day or by making you fight tooth and nail to get what you need.

You probably heard about this fight-or-flight instinct. In fight-or-flight mode, your pupils dilate, your heart rate goes up, and blood pressure increases with the purpose of getting more oxygen into your brain and muscles. This response allows you to give much more in a competitive environment… but guess what? The same happens inside the other guy’s body. That’s why the one who’s more committed will be the last one standing.

Never Give Up, Never Give In
Quitting is also a lesson; a really expensive lesson, if you ask me. You pay for that lesson with the time you lost, the energies you invested, and a major blow to your ego. However, sometimes you find yourself with your back to the wall and you need to take drastic measures to save the day.

Sun Tzu, the ancient Chinese author of The Art of War called it “desperate ground”:

“Throw your soldiers into positions fro whence there is no escape, and they will prefer death to flight. If they will face death, there is nothing they may not achieve. Officers and men alike will put forth their uttermost strength.” — Sun Tzu

Do you know why people quit? There are 3 major reasons:

Perfectionism
Lack of faith
General inability to keep commitments due to a history of unsuccesses.

All three are bound to each other. The more you aren't successful, the less committed you become. If you’re less committed, you have less faith. If you don’t have faith in what you’re doing, every non-perfect condition can break your resolution. It’s that simple.

Fight perfectionism, fight lack of faith (whether in you or in others) and fight history to stop it from repeating itself.

Free Your Mind, and the Rest Will Follow

Once you’re committed to something, your mind becomes like a homing beacon. There are no more choices to be made, just pure focus on the target in front of you.

“The resolved mind hath no cares. “ — George Herbert

But what happens when you suddenly change your mind? What if the choice you’ve made is no longer as attractive as you previously imagined it would be?

You know of course what I’m talking about; that thought that you could’ve made a different choice, or as Neo said in the first Matrix “Why didn’t I take the blue pill?”
That’s why when you make a choice, weigh it heavily, commit, and never look back.

Commit to Something Bigger Than Yourself

If you have problems committing, it will be beneficial to commit in a group setting. The most likely way to overcome the fear of commitment is to commit to something bigger than just you, and in a group, you’ll be to draw upon others for both motivation and support.

“Individual commitment to a group effort—that is what makes teamwork, a company work, a society work, a civilization work. “ — Vince Lombardi

In a committed group, everyone works for the benefit of everyone involved with the same dedication and commitments.

Bottom Line
Commitment allows us to fulfill our most basic needs and achieve our most sought after dreams. It gives us purpose.



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How many of us have been here or perhaps still are?

We always avoid looking at ourselves naked in the mirror after a shower… and always wear baggy t-shirts and big jeans to cover up the body we are so self-conscious or even so ashamed of.

Over the years and the past few years, in particular, we never even looked closely enough to see our skin stretching around our belly buttons, desperately trying to hold the fat in…
or the inflated chin that wraps around our necks, like a thick scarf in winter…

And we've always ignored the folds of loose flesh hanging from our arms or are to embarrassed to wear sleeveless blouses or t-shirts --because they sent ripples through the rest of our bodies when we moved.

Of course, we know we've gained a couple of pounds per year since High School…
I mean, haven’t we all? We just didn't realize how much it's added up.

You know how it is…

Back in our 20s we could just skip dessert and lose 7 lbs. in a week…

Now it feels hopeless against the nagging fat that keeps piling on to our bodies. And when we get to our thirties, it feels like we put on weight even faster!

And like me, I'll just bet you've tried about every fad; One size fits all program diets and trendy exercises there is…That’s because they’re based on the same old research and outdated assumptions. Slim-Fast, Atkins, Juicing, Keto, Weight Watchers, Dr. Furhman, Zumba, Kickboxing, Pilates…
Sure, we lose some weight…
But as soon as we stopped the intense hours of exercise and calorie counting, the weight just piled on again.

So, for the last few years, we just ignored the bulging belly, sagging arm fat and giant legs…

Not to mention the other parts of being overweight you don’t expect…

The intense food cravings that haunt you around the clock, feeling unenergized like you've been weighed down by a Mac truck, heavy tired eyes by lunchtime because you've spent the night tossing and turning and the constant brain fog that lingers throughout your entire day.

The aches and pains in your back, ankles and knees, as your bones scream out from years of being crushed from too much body weight.

And how many of us have been here before or perhaps still are?

We’ve all got a friend or friends who look amazing even with two-point-five kids, a full-time job, school events, sporting events, they attend a gym three times a week, the whole nine yards.

And we think to ourselves, if it’s possible for her, it’s possible for me...Right?
So, we throw ourselves into losing weight…we sign up for a gym membership, or buy exercise equipment for the home and work our butts off. We reduce our fat and carbs and count every calorie we put into our mouths.

And in the end, how many of us gave up the fight and simply buried it in the back of our minds because we feel hopeless? Because the second we take a day off, those pounds we lost start to creep back on again.
Because even though we lose a few pounds or even a substantial amount that’s when our weight-loss journey comes to a screeching halt. Even if we worked out more… and cut more calories… The scale just won't budge.

We're literally working out every single day for 2 hours…Jogging on treadmills, using the elliptical and lifting weights and NOTHING is working.

I felt like giving up.

But I couldn’t…

Not when "Sophie" -- in high school -- still looks so amazing.

And I’m so glad I didn’t stop searching...
Because even though we lose a few pounds or even a substantial amount all of a sudden we find our weight-loss journey eventually comes to a screeching halt. It doesn't matter what we try!

Well, ladies, I recently had a EUREKA moment, an epiphany if you like. With the help of Jade Tate, who opened my eyes to an entirely new revelation about what my body is now going through and has for some time via Post Menopause!

It's HORMONE related! Go figure! So I looked into his information and boy could I relate! So, I took the leap! I did the quiz to find out what my level was being Post Menopsal and having had a complete hysterectomy. Turns out I'm a level 6 and we put together a program specifically tailored to that! I've put in my first week and have already lost a total of 7 Inches of Visceral fat from my mid-section, abdomen and hips so far!!
Give him a listen!

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if inspiration doesn’t come from within first, nothing out there will ever truly inspire us.

Remember that you, and you alone, have the power to do, be or create anything in your life that you desire – anything! Your power is unlimited. Your wildest dreams are attainable. There is magic in belief, promise in faith and delivery in action.

Life is all about going through upwards and downwards journey in order to pursue our dreams. Don’t let any kind of obstacles and failures push you against your success in life. Just keep moving forward with hope. Fight hard the battle of life. Together let's take the challenges with courage and determination.

Sometimes, somewhere in life, we fail and get hurt but there’s always someone behind us who would aspire us to outshine ourselves by making efforts and hard work. They are the reason why we stand up again and learn to fix our wounds. They are our inspiration in life, our strength to reach success and our motivator.

People who live in this world are just like a feather that moves in the direction of the wind. I am no exception to those people who used to ask me, “What is your main purpose of life”, but I used to get confused with career and purpose. I did not know there was a huge difference between the two.

The purpose of life gives a new taste in living and exploring new things. It gave me a new meaning to living life. I just needed something to associate with and to hold my life together and to make it a bit easier.

Let us not think that Inspiring through some things leads us towards achieving something.

Instead, let us think that it is a way of how we are serious to reach our goals in life. Let’s be inspired by people and things around us. And care about who truly love and support us.

There are a lot of things that can provide us with inspiration and help us to stay strong and provide guidance for a better life.

I hope you will find the strength and ability to restart with new power after reading this. Let's help each other reconnect each morning to the magnificence that we truly are.

Inspire yourself and others will be inspired.
Motivate yourself and others will be motivated.
Develop yourself and others will start to develop themselves...
Exude happiness and others will be happier in your presence...
Be an example first and then the world changes around you...

And then...



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The Secret of Surrender

Surrender should be seen as a great strength and comes when we let go of trying to attain the impossible.

MI am quite certain that most of us were raised and lived in a culture that emphasizes the ideals of independence and control. The general idea was that we are on our own and we don't need any help from anyone else, and if we are really successful it's because we are in complete control. However, true lasting success comes only with surrender, which is the opposite of control. In today's world, however, we cannot accomplish anything truly great on our own, without the aid of help or support, and the idea that we can is an illusion that causes most of us a great deal of frustration, anxiety and hardship. Surrender comes when we remove the blinders revealing that illusion and let go of trying to attain the impossible. Surrender can then be seen as a great strength rather than a weakness.

Even small moments of surrender are powerful indicators of how different our lives could be if we would only let go. We've all had the experience of expending huge amounts of effort and energy to reach a particular goals only to realize that we are unable to make it happen or see the complete fruition regardless of what we try. At the moment of letting go, realizing that we need to ask for help or simply release our agenda entirely, a profound feeling of relief may rush over us. This warm, open sensation is the essence of surrender, and if we didn't experience that feeling that we didn't really let go. But it is never too late to let go, even of things in the past that didn't work out the way we wanted them to, because surrender is always an option in every moment of our lives.

When we finally do surrender, our goals actually become possible, because the act of surrender is, in essence, asking for the help we need. This help may come in the form of other human beings or unseen helpers such as angels or inner guides. It may also come in the form of shifting circumstances, the small miracles that we call grace.



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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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You may feel disheartened today. You could be feeling saddened that your expectations are not being met. One good way to overcome these feelings is to consciously release your expectations. Rather than trying to change everything at once and looking at the overall picture the best thing to do is make a list of prioritized changes and change the highest priority first. From there you take ONE DAY AT A TIME. Remember, each day is a new day without any mistakes in it. Simply focus on that. You might consider thinking about the type of people you want to spend time with as well and then work on integrating those qualities within yourself. If you also spend time treating yourself kindly and making yourself feel loved and cherished today, you will find that you are less concerned with the actions of others.

By releasing our expectations, we give ourselves room to grow in wonderful and surprising ways. If we instead learn to let go and focus more on making ourselves feel loved and fulfilled, our happiness will direct more positive energies. With a constant influx of beneficial energy, we are then able to grow and evolve far beyond what we would have envisioned. If you release your expectations and instead focus on fulfilling yourself from within today, you will be free to blossom and grow in the way they were intended.


Remember, there are stages and each stage takes a specific amount of time to reach its full potential.








Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 7/25/2020 (14:47)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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I saw this on another site and thought it explained weight loss well and explains why we may put weight on first then lose.



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I've noticed a LOT of posts with ladies who are upset because the scale doesn't display the numbers they want even though they admit their clothes fit better and they feel more energetic. A while back I did Dr. Furhman's Fit For Life, mostly for health reasons. But your mindset is far more important. We all need to stop thinking of diet & weight loss. We need to be thinking of lifestyle change; getting ourselves to the healthiest you, you can be and to the best possible place we can be mentally and emotionally while straightening out our whack-a-doodle hormones. You work HARD to disassociate from the diet-think and the hold the scale has over your self-worth and self-confidence. It should be like you dump your toxic partner, and now you’re living your best life! So why would you want to go back? You know the scale doesn’t tell you anything about your health, happiness, or vitality. And sure, like any toxic ex, now that you’ve started to live your best life, it’s trying to win you back with a combination of promises and scare tactics. But you don’t have to listen. And frankly, this might be the biggest boss move you could make for your true Food Freedom… Scale numbers fluctuate far too often from so many different causes. Why put yourself through the yo-yo of emotions. Don't let it rule! Once you've taken your initial starting weight and recorded it just for record purposes you'd do well to block that number for good. Lock that scale up somewhere and throw away the key!

I’ll just let you sit with that for a minute.

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Afraid of Facing The Truth

Most of us have had the experience of being in possession of a piece of truth about ourselves that we were afraid to acknowledge or have been unable to handle the truth confronting us. This might be a small truth, such as not wanting to go to the dentist or a larger truth, such as not fully accepting that the hardest battle you will ever fight is with who you are now and who you want to be. Usually, the truth is evident, and we can see it, but we choose to ignore it because it means change. So we turn a blind eye and come up with elaborate ways of hiding from it, no matter how apparent it is.

For the most part, we avoid the truth because change frightens us, or makes us angry, or makes us feel like we don't know how to implement it. We often create our lives based on a particular understanding and if that understanding turns out to be fully or even partially incorrect, we may feel that our whole sense of reality is being threatened. It takes a strong person to face the truth rather than running for cover instead. Nevertheless, we can only avoid the truth for so long before it begins to make itself known in pronounced forceful ways.

Ultimately, there is no way to avoid the truth, no matter how painful it is, so the sooner we let down our defences, the better. When we know the truth and accept that we may have to adjust our lives, we are in alignment with reality. Whatever your truth is, make a sincere effort not to shut your eyes to it, but instead to be grateful that you have access to it.



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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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7/19/20 9:04 A

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Today's encouragement I feel is really important:
So, you've been at this for a while, weeks, maybe even months and the scales just refuse to budge.
BUT, it's the invincible things that are changing those first weeks— our bodies are needing to find their balance. It will take time for our hormones to listen to the new input. Please don’t be disheartened if you don’t see dramatic weight loss right away. Honestly, we have put our bodies through so much constant stress for how many decades!! It takes intention and time to detoxify from the results of that stress. Don’t give up when you don’t see pounds melt away right away. Do the right thing for your body. Be consistent and committed to healing your whacked-out body.




Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 7/19/2020 (11:20)
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THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 7/17/2020 (08:44)
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THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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If there's one thing every one of us should absolutely love and adore about ourselves is no matter how badly we've been treated, no matter how we're feeling, no matter what we've been going through, or are going through, we still have hearts of gold and endless love to give.
That's one thing no one can ever take away from us.



TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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7/15/20 10:18 A

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We talk to ourselves more than anybody else. So let's begin pay attention to the song that’s playing on repeat in your head.

I’m willing to bet that the negative garbage you say to yourself has been an anthem since your childhood: either you heard the adults in your life saying this garbage to each other or someone said it to you. You’ve repeated these words to yourself as if it were true for years. That’s why you believe it - they’ve become lyrics you can’t get out of your head.

You may be too young to remember cassette tapes but you could record a song on them and then record a new one right over it. Your brain works the same way with positive self-talk. Repeat positive words enough and you’ll start to believe it.

If you’re tired of listening to the negative tape playing in your head, it doesn’t have to be stuck on a loop. Record a new anthem for your life and listen to it on repeat

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 7/15/2020 (10:23)
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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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As we shift we begin to realize we are not the same persons we used to be.
The things we use to tolerate become intolerable.
Where we once remained quiet we now speak what is truth. We are raising our voices to be heard.
Where we once battled and argued with fools we are now choosing to remain silent.
We begin to understand the value of our voices and there are some situations that no longer deserve our time, energy or focus.

We are becoming so confident that we are becoming "invincible" within ourselves!
And IT'S ABOUT TIME!

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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7/13/20 8:11 A

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Good Monday morning peoples!! Get up, get out, get it done!! No excuses. Remember you make the rules! It's your body and it's your life!! Make it the BEST life!




TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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This was someone else's experience but I had to share it with you.

Broken Pieces

I was at Costco yesterday and heard a loud crash and something shattering. Being nosy, I walked towards the sound and saw some people whispering and looking back to the end of the next aisle. When I walked down that aisle, I saw an older lady had hit a shelf and many things had fallen to the ground and broke.

She was kneeling on the floor embarrassed, frantically trying to clean up. I felt so bad for her, and everyone was just standing there staring at her. So I went and knelt beside her and told her not to worry and started helping her pick up the broken pieces.

After about a minute, the store manager came and knelt beside us and said, “Leave it, we will clean this up.” The lady, totally embarrassed said, “I need to pay for all this.” The manager smiled, helped her to her feet and said, “No ma’am, we have insurance for this, you do not have to pay anything!” If you have read this far, give me another minute.

Wherever you are, close your eyes, and imagine God doing the same for you! Imagine the broken pieces of your mistakes or the pieces of your broken heart from all the blows life have thrown at you all over the floor and you’re there trying to collect all of the pieces and fix them yourself.

Now imagine God comes and kneels right down beside you, smiles and says to you, “Leave it all there, We will clean this up for you.” He loves you that much and wants to put all of those pieces back together if you will let Him!

With Him, we have this insurance and it’s called GRACE! It’s free! All you have to do is ask

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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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Happy Wednesday peoples!! Get up, get out, get it done!! No excuses. Remember you make the rules! It's your body and it's your life!! It's time we make it our BEST life!




TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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There are many benefits to quitting or limiting sugar such as: an increased immune system, weight reduction, more stable moods, less bad bacteria in our gut, improved sleep and so many more!

Dear Friends,

I want to talk to you today about sugar. I was neve4r really a sweets lover or lover of sugar but still realized that I was consuming too much; desserts mostly. Quitting sugar was one of the best health decisions I have made for myself. I noticed results immediately. Now that I'm many years into my sugar journey, I've come to a place where I can enjoy a piece of cake or a cookie and not have it send me into a spiral. At first, I really needed to stop sugar altogether, but now I can simply curb it and not be pulled back into its web.

It is important to limit sugar as much as possible for many reasons: Sugar depletes our immune system, and too much sugar will cause us to be acidic, which is very health-depleting. Sugar is also very inflammatory, causing widespread inflammation throughout our body (inflammation is connected to every chronic health issue we know). It is also highly addictive, causing us to crave more and more, which sets up a cycle that can be hard to stop. Digestion is affected in a negative way as sugar causes an imbalance of good and bad bacteria, which has many different symptoms: gas, bloating, irritable bowel syndrome-like symptoms. Lastly, sugar is very age-promoting due to the fact that it causes the glycosylation of proteins, which causes wrinkling and sagging of skin.

How do we avoid sugar as it seems to be in everything?!

By staying away from obvious sugary foods (candy, baked goods, most desserts, soda, junk food), highly refined and processed foods, and then by reading labels to identify added sugars in foods. This can be tricky because there are so many names for sugar. In lesson two we review all forms and names of hidden sugars so that you can be totally informed and more easily make the best choices.


Are there any natural healthy sweeteners we can use as a substitute, and how do you address this in the course?

Absolutely! There are plenty of natural healthy sweeteners that can be used to sweeten beverages, desserts, baked goods, and recipes where a little sweetness enhances the dish. My favourite is Truvia but there are others like raw and organic honey, organic applesauce, monk fruit, date sugar, and coconut sugar. Also, using fruit by itself is a great way to naturally sweeten a recipe.

What benefits do we receive by avoiding or limiting sugar in our diets?

There are so, so many, and they are life-changing, to say the least! You can expect to feel more energetic, see a reduction in weight, have better digestion, better sleep, and a stronger immune system. You will also see the benefit of having more steady, consistent energy throughout the day without those peaks and dips, and, of course, your cravings will go away too.

Most people I know get sugar cravings at some point during the day. Why does this happen to our body?

Besides having a diet that's heavy in sugar (eating sugar causes you to crave more sugar), several lifestyle and dietary factors can cause you to crave sugar. If your diet is too carb-heavy, you will crave sugar. Stress and hormone imbalances, nutritional deficiencies such as magnesium, zinc, and B-vitamins can also lead to cravings. If your diet is too salty, you may crave the opposite, which is sweet. Proper sleep and drinking plenty of water will also help curb sugar cravings as well. Finally, gut dysbiosis, which is an imbalance of good and bad gut bacteria, can cause cravings because sugar is food for bad bacteria!

Does avoiding sugar mean cutting out natural sugars in fruit, veggies, and dairy products?

Definitely not! Foods with naturally occurring sugars, like fruits, some veggies, and dairy products are nutrient-dense because they also contain many health-promoting nutrients and break down to sugar at a slower rate. Foods that contain natural sugars when eaten in balance with other healthy foods are always health-promoting. Get your sweet fix with these guys.

Ultralow-glycemic fruits like berries (strawberries, blueberries, blackberries, and raspberries) are low in sugar and high in antioxidants and fibre, making them the best choice in the fruit category, and organic, unsweetened kefir, a fermented dairy product, is low in sugar, high in protein and good fats, and rich in health-promoting probiotics. Combine the two, and you have a great way to start your day!

MADISYN TAYLOR

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The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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7/5/20 7:55 A

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Remember that for every downside in your life, there is an upside waiting in the wings. Bonnie Michaels

TODAY Is MY tomorrow. It's up to ME to shape it, To TAKE CONTROL and seize EVERY opportunity. The POWER is in the choices I make EVERY day. I eat well, I live well I SHAPE ME!

THE EMPOWERED LIFE. EXPECT IT. BELIEVE IT. RECEIVE IT.
The human will is the most incredible thing. It's what keeps us going when everyone else expects us to quit.


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The Tortoise And The Hare


The classic tale of the tortoise and the hare reminds us that different people take life at different speeds and that one way is not necessarily superior to another. In fact, in the story, it is the slower animal that ends up arriving at the destination first. In the same way, some of us seem to move very quickly through the issues and obstacles we all face in our lives. Others need long periods of time to process their feelings and move into new states of awareness. For those of us who perceive ourselves as moving quickly, it can be painful and exasperating to deal with someone else's slower pace. Yet, just like the tortoise and the hare, we all arrive at the same destination together, eventually.

People who take their time with things are probably in the minority in most of the world today. We live in a time when speed and productivity are valued above almost anything else. Therefore, people who flow at a slower pace are out of sync with the world and are often pestered and prodded to go faster and do more. This can be not only frustrating but also counterproductive because the stress of being pushed to move faster than one is able to move actually slows progress. On the other hand, if a person's style is honoured and supported, they will find their way in their own time and, just like the tortoise, they might just beat the speedier, more easily distracted person to the finish line.

It's important to remember that we are not actually in a race to get somewhere ahead of someone else, and it is difficult to judge by appearances whether one person has made more progress than another. Whether you count yourself among the fast movers or as one of the slower folks, we can all benefit from respecting the pace that those around us choose for themselves. This way, we can keep our eyes on our own journey, knowing that we will all end up together in the end.

MADISYN TAYLOR

Edited by: NOMORESTALLING at: 1/1/2021 (13:09)
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