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8/28/20 10:40 P

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The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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6/6/20 1:44 P

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I need to get back to the basics of decluttering and just do it!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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More from the Year to Clear Course

"While I waited, bleary eyed and cranky, I proceeded to do what I always do while the coffee brews: I took the clean dishes out of the drainer, one at a time, and put them away.

On this particular morning, I experienced something I had never consciously observed before: In the sixty seconds that it took me to stack the last of the pots and pans, I noticed that the cobwebs in my head had cleared and my mood was better. A lot better. The fog that I was carrying Ė and my spirits Ė had lifted.

What is this? I havenít even had my cup of coffee!

There it was: a spacious infusion resulting from a housekeeping ritual that Iíve repeated every day for most of my adult life; an experience realized and harnessed by simply being aware.

The truth is, I experience a swell of spaciousness every time I put the dishes away, or hang the laundry up to dry or fold it. I feel the shift when I gather the empty cups and glasses in my living room or on my desk at the end of the day. Or when I address an annoying toleration, like replacing a light bulb or sewing a button or fixing the squeak in the door. Iíve devoted hours to writing about how simple actions can transform the energy in our living spaces, our lives, and our world."

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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1/16/16 9:22 P

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I did not find half of the after-Christmas 75% off stuff that I was willing to take back yet. I'm still trying to decide if I can keep it if I get rid of an equal amount of Christmas stuff I have in storage!

The best cure for stressing is to count your blessings...and a long walk won't hurt either!

Never give up what you want the MOST for what you want at the MOMENT!


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I think maybe that wasn't on topic.

Edited by: KITTYF54 at: 11/25/2015 (15:26)
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all they ways, acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:5-6


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1/30/12 11:32 A

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Your approaches are sound advice. I especially was taken by your 4-step "puzzle" approach. Overall vision, define physical boundaries, select the important, dispose of the rest.

Defining the boundaries is really the key, I think. We define another type of boundary when we set criteria for determining importance.

Speaking for my own hoarding tendencies - it is sometimes quite difficult for me to draw a definite distinction between what is needed and what is filler.

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1/24/12 1:07 A

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for me, I needed to start first with not acquiring, and most often that means staying out of the stores, but it also means not printing pages, not takign fliers, not bringing anything in the house that you won't know where to put it.
Next I needed to identify my worst issues--one of which was paying bills. Now I have a bin by the door and I walk out to get the mail, stop at the garbage to get rid of anything I don't need and then putting everything else in the bin. I don't even open it until pay day when I can do a final disposition of everything in the bin.
then I looked at my hoarding issues and have tried to treat them like a puzzle where i figure out what it is supposed to look like, then find the boarder pieces--which basically means determining the amount of room I will give that stuff, then I put it there and anything that doesn't fit goes. When I did my craft closet I had to choose what was most important and the rest went to the elementary school for donations. I have done it with my craft stuff, my pez dispensers, most of my books, and a few other things. I am still working to find answers, but step by step it is improving.

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1/20/12 1:22 P

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Too often we are acculturated to 'swallow' our anger as being 'unfeminine/unattractive'. I notice men don't have any problems at all using the energy of anger.

We do need to make sure that we are using the anger creatively, and that we do not let it take control. I want to be able to ride the tiger, not let it ride me.

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1/20/12 9:17 A

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I like your style. Turning it around is a great strategy. So often anger's energy is overlooked as a positive motivation.

Change yourself. You are in control.

Happiness is when what you think, say, and do are in harmony.

- Mahatma Gandhi

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1/19/12 8:41 A

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One of the things that has helped me with avoiding acquisition is to check for country of origin. Since so many of the gimmicky gadget thingies are now made in China...I can get all "righteous" about refusing to purchase. Putting myself in the mindset of "voting with my pocketbook" helps me feel powerful.

I think power/powerlessness feelings are frequently tied to the hoarding impulse. We can use that by turning it around. That bit about having to keep something because someone gave it to you...even if you don't even like it. Take back the power. "You can give it to me but you can't make me keep it!" Feeling a little angry because someone who is supposed to care about you gives you something they "oughta" know you won't like? Use that anger to take back the power you imagine they have taken...then transform it to generosity as you pass it on to someone else. double good, what?

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1/17/12 9:55 A

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Here is the advice I gave regarding.

As far as hoarding goes...
Be patient, but firm.
Reward yourself as you begin to face and manage hoarding

In no particular order, I work at using these guidelines -

LETTING GO OF ITEMS

Does it represent a memory which I wouldn't have with out the reminder?
Is it creating a health hazard?
(Mold, bugs, unwanted animals, piles which could fall, a fire hazard,
no safe way of moving through your living space, etc.)
Papers, magazines, mail, bills, receipts, coupons, and email
Do I need to pay it or keep the receipt?
Do I need it for taxes or ID?
Do I actually read it?
Can I find the same information online?
Did I use it in the past year?
Is it replaceable?
Is keeping it the same as keeping the love of the person it represents?
Is there a rule stating if someone gives you something, you have to keep it forever? (Re-gift it)
Do I fit in it now?
Do I need it?
(i.e. Is it replaceable?)
Do I love, really love it?
Could someone else use it?
Could I sell it and get some money?
Baby steps are good.
Work to avoid overwhelm.

And the other part of hoarding - ACQUISITION...

Do I need it, Do I love it, or Is it an impulse?
Satisfying an impulse provides an initial high, usually followed by feeling down or shame
Is that temporary high worth the after effects?
If I waited a month, would I still love it? Wait one month.
This is one of the few times procrastinating is a virtue :
Do I already have the item?
Do I have a place for it?
Is it physically safe to keep the item?
Not on the floor, a pile, or in a bin/box/bag
Would I really use it?
Think of similar items - Have they actually been used in the last year?
Or if a gift, Do I actually remember to give the gifts I've already acquired?
Give the gifts before acquiring new ones
Can I afford it?
Would the money be better spent elsewhere?
Is it physically safe to obtain the object?
(For example dumpster/trash diving is not safe.)
Do I need it, Do I love it, or Is it an impulse (Do I want it?)
If I waited a month, would I still love it? Wait one month.
This is one of the few times procrastinating is a virtue : )

PRACTICE

Seeing something you want and not getting it,
If you do obtain something, get rid of two other things.
Setting aside daily time to manage stuff
Handle each item
Quickly make a decision - rational, not emotional
Avoid acting on the fearful thought: "What if...?"
If it is something which can be dealt with in less than 30 seconds, deal with it.
Example: If something is dropped or knocked over, pick it up and/or clean it up
Discover the difference
between loving the item and loving the person associated with the item
Spend time with the people who are important to you
This feels much better than spending time with an object they've given you.
Follow through - actually finish something
Create then use a support system
Other hoarders, friends, family, a counselor, therapist, or psychotherapist, group therapy


OPTIONS FOR MANAGING YOUR THINGS:

Use it.
Take care of it - like a bill.
Recycle it.
Donate it.
Sell it.
Gift it.
Put it in the trash.
Put it in its own place.
This space, designated by you, is specifically for this item.

Praise yourself as you begin to manage your things
Take a deep breath and relax
Smile


You do not have to do things all at once.
Choose a single thing and begin.
Finish with that single thing, then go to the next.
Baby steps - they do add up!


This is great advice!
OK OK - Back to baby Steps

Bills and magazines today!
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Change yourself. You are in control.

Happiness is when what you think, say, and do are in harmony.

- Mahatma Gandhi

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